How the do you find a buddy?

[CURIOUS_8]

I know, I know, I know….

Some hate us/me resurrecting old posts.

But this is a good example of some true gems of wonderment & good advice placed in a time capsule.

IMHO, to see how society is advancing with acceptance of certain lifestyles

Not gonna play the old man since I’m not that old.

But, over 2 decades in the military I see the advancements and some things remain with that.

bowhunter325, I’m surrounded by, PLENTY of guys like you.

Nice looking, well put together. Serious shit. The guy you’d least expect, or hint to be curious about another Joe servicing him.

So CollStorm, if the military is a social barometer, you’re in luck.

In over 2 decades of serving, I’ve never seen so much advancement of Str8 guys talking about Bi stuff, looking at Bi porn in my life.


Therefore ActionBuddy hits it outta the park as usual.

We should keep maintaining ourselves accordingly with our friends. Not trying act like you’re trying to get with them, still feeling things out, reading the room. Just really be us.

Like ActionBuddy said, we never really know when one of your buddies, at a given moment maybe cool with shit you’re into. The opportunity just never presented itself.

I'm not looking for romance. I'm just looking to get together with another sane guy, who just wants to get his rocks off once to twice a week.

I've tried Manhunt (no luck for two years)

Adam4Adam has been a joke.

Squirt.org is just worthless.

Craigslist is basically a bunch of closeted bisexual/gay guys looking for cock pics to get off to.

I'm seriously wondering how anyone does it.

I'm not much of a drinker or club person and I'm in the closet about my bisexuality. It's just hard for me to understand what I should do next.

From my past experience, you never know when someone really cool, and into the same sort of "buddy" friendship you are looking for might pop up.

I have tried the whole ask a friend. I got turned down twice. I am a very good looking guy. I am afraid to get burned again asking a buddy.

I agree with Action's suggestions/advice. In addition to that. From the experience and your search for further guidance, in this regard. Be forward and up front of your interests followed with emailing, chatting, etc., so you can feel a social connections for a while before you share other personal informations, etc. If the person is in your local demographics, you include meeting out in a public environment when you are comfortable with that. The public environment (pubs, dance clubs, bands, etc.) will bring out other personal/social features of which they will either let lose and express them, or flunk that morbidly not being behind the curtain. Learn from the experiences and make the appropriate changes that will aid in you finding that connection(s) you seek.

You will find the joy and happiness in your search. All the best!

 

[CURIOUS_8]

I personally know of a recent situation where this drop dead gorgeous alpha male hangs out a lot, with a gay friend of mine. Hadn’t been with a chick in 2 years. No one makes a thing about it.




My gay friend says only when he moved near him a few months ago, after 2 years of knowing him. “HE”, outta the blue said something to the effect of>


I’m never going to be a guy to initiate stuff, but if you ask me, I might surprise you.???


He said it took 2 days, they laughed about, him, my gay friend, trying to play it off.

But the subject came up about blowjobs. My gay friend hinted he'd blow'em if he wanted.

The Joe started taking his cock out of his pants, and my gay friend's been blowing him of over 3 months now.


I’m sure they’re fucking. Lucky bastard!


So, you never really know.


Secret_Soldier

 

[bi2]

Really good thread.

Looking back I can see why I was with my first partner for a few years until I moved away for uni.

His home was safe, comfortable and convenient. I was able to explore and enjoy my sexuality without judgement. Looking back he did definitely seduce me and "took advantage" of a situation, but I am so glad he did, I have no regrets and Im very grateful for all the wonderful experiences I have had with him. He broke me in and bred me and I look back fondly of the time we had. There is absolutely zero chance I would have initiated anything with a guy until at least I was much older.

I wanted to remain private and discrete. He obviosuly had a lot to lose compared to me. So probably was a win-win situation for both of us.

For me its interesting as with a guy, its purely only about the sex with me, compared to with looking for a girlfriend its about sexuality, chemistry and compatibility.

 

[MilfBanger78]

Grindr has a lotta flakes but a huge variety in my experience. I like that you can search by distance.. Anytime I have put decent time into surfing it i've been able to meet someone. The constant notifications can get annoying though especially from guys that live way too far.

Doublelist is pretty good, basically its the new Craigslist. FetLife is another

You can also try regular dating sites like PlentyofFish, OkCupid, Tinder, Badoo etc. Sure many of the guys on there say publicly they wanna relationship but very few are gonna pass up a fun suck and/or fuck session (same with my experience with women from dating sites, lotta them put "Not looking for sex!!" then a few days later I'm shooting a load in her mouth lol)

 

[ActionBuddy]

I know, I know, I know… Some hate us/me resurrecting old posts.
But this is a good example of some true gems of wonderment & good advice placed in a time capsule.
...
Like ActionBuddy said, we never really know when one of your buddies, at a given moment maybe cool with shit you’re into. The opportunity just never presented itself.

Actually, @CURIOUS_8 - Many of us members here do not "hate" seeing older threads revived, when they are relevant to what is going on in our minds, today... So, don't worry about that.

If the posts are about actually connecting with others in some way, then, many older threads are totally relevant. Bumping-up this one was!

A/B

 

[CURIOUS_8]

There is absolutely zero chance I would have initiated anything with a guy until at least I was much older.

I wanted to remain private and discrete. He obviously had a lot to lose compared to me.

CollStorm & bowhunter325

I think there’s something to be said about,

“with technology comes great responsibility” (of patience)


Maybe we can get so used to whipping a phone out, we forget, an opportunity may be right under our nose & not online


bi2’s & my scenario shows Top or Bottom, sometimes a Joe is maybe waiting for you to throw a vibe out there before he sparks an interest.

I wouldn’t be so bummed.

bi2’s scenario+ mine, paint pictures of guys who actually wanted to hook up, but had reservations for different reasons.

Who knows? Maybe, in the end, the way things work out is you find someone right under your nose, going through the same shit.


Look how hot this is, layered in truth.

Looking back he did definitely seduce me and "took advantage" of a situation, but I am so glad he did, I have no regrets and Im very grateful for all the wonderful experiences I have had with him.

. He broke me in and bred me and I look back fondly of the time we had.

There is absolutely zero chance I would have initiated anything with a guy until at least I was much older.

So probably was a win-win situation for both of us.

This is my kinda shit.


Clandestine, uncharted territory, buddy exploration..

 

[CollStorm]

I log on after not being on for a few weeks to find this thread has popped up again. It's been five years and I'm still looking for that one bud. I've taken most of the advice from this thread. I no longer worry about it. I've been on all of the sites without much luck.

I'll unlock a pic of my cock and they just want to service me, but that's about the extent of it. I also found out that I'm only interested in mutual oral. I have no interest in topping anyone. It just doesn't do anything for me compared to oral sex.

 

[CURIOUS_8]

I log on after not being on for a few weeks to find this thread has popped up again. It's been five years and I'm still looking for that one bud. I've taken most of the advice from this thread. I no longer worry about it. I've been on all of the sites without much luck..

Aww man! Hey. I've had long dry spells for different reasons.

Just pointing out I've had people I know go through similar & when they stop looking, some Joe, somewhere in the background turns out is having one of those curious spells and shit happens.

I'll unlock a pic of my cock and they just want to service me, but that's about the extent of it. I also found out that I'm only interested in mutual oral. I have no interest in topping anyone. It just doesn't do anything for me compared to oral sex.

Hey, I'm for whatever works for you.

If you read the cocksucker threads, you'll find there's always some gay dude around willing to polish a knob of a horny Joe.

 

[ActionBuddy]

I log on after not being on for a few weeks to find this thread has popped up again. It's been five years and I'm still looking for that one bud. I've taken most of the advice from this thread. I no longer worry about it. I've been on all of the sites without much luck.

I'll unlock a pic of my cock and they just want to service me, but that's about the extent of it. I also found out that I'm only interested in mutual oral. I have no interest in topping anyone. It just doesn't do anything for me compared to oral sex.

Have you tried www.squirt.org ? It's a "hook-up" website and a catalog of male cruising and sexual places around the world, based on location. It is incredibly popular. You'll find that the members are all types imaginable, including men who totally identify as straight. You can write your own profile, post your sexual preferences and photos and videos.

My profile on it is very specific about my preference for "mutual masturbation, with other guys who like to watch porn together, circle jerks and frottage. Absolutely no anal, and not much into oral unless the man is uncut." I don't get a lot of inquiries because of that, but that's fine with me, especially when I find a new J.O. buddy from it.

You can join for free to check it out. But, it's worth having more access by paying for membership. Right now it is half price.

A/B

 

[CollStorm]

Have you tried www.squirt.org ? It's a "hook-up" website and a catalog of male cruising and sexual places around the world, based on location. It is incredibly popular. You'll find that the members are all types imaginable, including men who totally identify as straight. You can write your own profile, post your sexual preferences and photos and videos.

My profile on it is very specific about my preference for "mutual masturbation, with other guys who like to watch porn together, circle jerks and frottage. Absolutely no anal, and not much into oral unless the man is uncut." I don't get a lot of inquiries because of that, but that's fine with me, especially when I find a new J.O. buddy from it.

You can join for free to check it out. But, it's worth having more access by paying for membership. Right now it is half price.

A/B

Yep, been on there for a couple of years now. A ton of PNP guys around me and that’s not my thing.

 

[ActionBuddy]

Yep, been on there for a couple of years now. A ton of PNP guys around me and that’s not my thing.

Agreed!

A/B

 

[Trybogus01]

Have you tried www.squirt.org ? It's a "hook-up" website and a catalog of male cruising and sexual places around the world, based on location. It is incredibly popular. You'll find that the members are all types imaginable, including men who totally identify as straight. You can write your own profile, post your sexual preferences and photos and videos.

My profile on it is very specific about my preference for "mutual masturbation, with other guys who like to watch porn together, circle jerks and frottage. Absolutely no anal, and not much into oral unless the man is uncut." I don't get a lot of inquiries because of that, but that's fine with me, especially when I find a new J.O. buddy from it.

You can join for free to check it out. But, it's worth having more access by paying for membership. Right now it is half price.

A/B

you don't get a lot of inquiries because you don't do anal, prefer uncut, or just want frottage?

 

[ActionBuddy]

you don't get a lot of inquiries because you don't do anal, prefer uncut, or just want frottage?

That's fine with me. My sexual preferences, are just that, my own sexual preferences.

A/B