I was in the grocery store the other day as I watched as a man walk past a woman. The way he was looking at her, it was obvious he found her attractive. She didn't initially notice because she had her back turned to him. He came back around and introduced himself. He asked her for her name. I could not hear the rest of the conversation. The interaction was very brief. He walked away after about 30 seconds. No phone numbers exchanged so I'm assuming she rejected him. Anyway, I notice that straight men generally appear to have very little fear in approaching a female they are attracted to. Also, they generally don't appear disappointed if they are rejected. The straight guys that I have known over the years usually don't take it personally when they are rejected. They just move on to their next target. 
With gay men, in my experience, it seems to be different. There seems to be a bit more apprehension. I can only speak for myself, I have never approached a man I was attracted to. I always let them approach me. I guess generally I'm attracted to more masculine men so I never wanted to risk them feeling uncomfortable or threatened because they turn out to be straight or feel like I'm outing them. Also, I have always had an enormous fear of rejection.
I never hung out at bars so most of the men I came in contact with over the years were either on the job or at the gym. How comfortable are you about approaching a man you are attracted to? Do you take any precautions? Do you fear rejection? Do you take it personally?
With gay men, in my experience, it seems to be different. There seems to be a bit more apprehension. I can only speak for myself, I have never approached a man I was attracted to. I always let them approach me. I guess generally I'm attracted to more masculine men so I never wanted to risk them feeling uncomfortable or threatened because they turn out to be straight or feel like I'm outing them. Also, I have always had an enormous fear of rejection.
I never hung out at bars so most of the men I came in contact with over the years were either on the job or at the gym. How comfortable are you about approaching a man you are attracted to? Do you take any precautions? Do you fear rejection? Do you take it personally?
