How To Approach A Stranger You're Attracted To?

[Lilyoftheghetto]

I was in the grocery store the other day as I watched as a man walk past a woman. The way he was looking at her, it was obvious he found her attractive. She didn't initially notice because she had her back turned to him. He came back around and introduced himself. He asked her for her name. I could not hear the rest of the conversation. The interaction was very brief. He walked away after about 30 seconds. No phone numbers exchanged so I'm assuming she rejected him. Anyway, I notice that straight men generally appear to have very little fear in approaching a female they are attracted to. Also, they generally don't appear disappointed if they are rejected. The straight guys that I have known over the years usually don't take it personally when they are rejected. They just move on to their next target.

With gay men, in my experience, it seems to be different. There seems to be a bit more apprehension. I can only speak for myself, I have never approached a man I was attracted to. I always let them approach me. I guess generally I'm attracted to more masculine men so I never wanted to risk them feeling uncomfortable or threatened because they turn out to be straight or feel like I'm outing them. Also, I have always had an enormous fear of rejection.

I never hung out at bars so most of the men I came in contact with over the years were either on the job or at the gym. How comfortable are you about approaching a man you are attracted to? Do you take any precautions? Do you fear rejection? Do you take it personally?

 

[lickpenis]

Maybe if you had a T-shirt on that says on the back "I Suck". Or how about a card you slip under the windshield wipper and it says "I saw you and I would really like to suck your cock, here's my number!"
Or a card that says "There are some men after me, they want to suck my cock, can you help me?"
Or "I have a 10 inch penis and I just don't know what to do with it." Or I got my cock stuck in a glory hole could you come and help me get it out!" There's some ideas for ye!

 

[Ernestoteles]

I have never approached a man I was attracted to.

So you behave like a gender-typical (gender-conforming) woman, leaving the risk of rejection to the (presumably) gender-typical man and limiting yourself to giving selection signals. So you don't have much of a choice, or does the sight of you enchant all the men around you?

I have always had an enormous fear of rejection.

And did you do anything about it?

I never hung out at bars

I find it very positive to talk to as many interesting people as possible at LGB places. I look for topics that are interesting to both of us, to see if his inner world appeals to me as well. And of course I ask what kind of person he is looking for. I only find about 0.5 per cent of the population's bodies attractive, so I can easily understand if others are looking for someone else. I am not at all of the opinion that men – and women – don't care whether I reciprocate their interest. Some resort to insults to make themselves feel better – I have been told by unimaginative men and women that I look like an SS officer.

With gay men, in my experience, it seems to be different.

Yes, it is much easier because men are sex-centric, and they know it.

 

[ILoveGames48]

I was in the grocery store the other day as I watched as a man walk past a woman. The way he was looking at her, it was obvious he found her attractive. She didn't initially notice because she had her back turned to him. He came back around and introduced himself. He asked her for her name. I could not hear the rest of the conversation. The interaction was very brief. He walked away after about 30 seconds. No phone numbers exchanged so I'm assuming she rejected him. Anyway, I notice that straight men generally appear to have very little fear in approaching a female they are attracted to. Also, they generally don't appear disappointed if they are rejected. The straight guys that I have known over the years usually don't take it personally when they are rejected. They just move on to their next target.

With gay men, in my experience, it seems to be different. There seems to be a bit more apprehension. I can only speak for myself, I have never approached a man I was attracted to. I always let them approach me. I guess generally I'm attracted to more masculine men so I never wanted to risk them feeling uncomfortable or threatened because they turn out to be straight or feel like I'm outing them. Also, I have always had an enormous fear of rejection.

I never hung out at bars so most of the men I came in contact with over the years were either on the job or at the gym. How comfortable are you about approaching a man you are attracted to? Do you take any precautions? Do you fear rejection? Do you take it personally?

It’s the same for straight me. As it is for gay men.. just because you see gay men see more apprehension..

Rejection happens on both sides..

As for me if I see a guy I like like in a store I pretend to wanna look at same area he is and mention something on the shelf in front of us.. get his reaction -then go from there