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My boyfriend and I will have been together for 3 years next month. For 2 of those years, we have been cross country dating because he is going to ivy league grad school up north.
Among the normal frustrations that come with a cross country relationship, I am suffering sexually. We see each other once a month on average, occasionally more. We have toyed with the idea of an "open" relationship (mainly on my end). For the past year, I have occasionally hooked up with someone else with his permission. He usually gets a few videos for his viewing pleasure. BUT these hookups are just oral.
I find myself wanting more, full sex with other men, without recording. Essentially, I want the ability to be sexually independent if I feel the desire to. But I do not want to end my relationship and I do still want to have sex with him. He's the best sex I've ever had- but I never get to have it. There's no end in sight as his new job is also not back here at home.
How do I approach this conversation? I have introduced the topic before and it has been met with scolding remarks and judgement. It basically has to be on his terms and his conditions and I genuinely feel like it's my body & my discretion. IDK, maybe I'm just ranting at this point.
How would you (or how have you) approached this convo with your partner?
Among the normal frustrations that come with a cross country relationship, I am suffering sexually. We see each other once a month on average, occasionally more. We have toyed with the idea of an "open" relationship (mainly on my end). For the past year, I have occasionally hooked up with someone else with his permission. He usually gets a few videos for his viewing pleasure. BUT these hookups are just oral.
I find myself wanting more, full sex with other men, without recording. Essentially, I want the ability to be sexually independent if I feel the desire to. But I do not want to end my relationship and I do still want to have sex with him. He's the best sex I've ever had- but I never get to have it. There's no end in sight as his new job is also not back here at home.
How do I approach this conversation? I have introduced the topic before and it has been met with scolding remarks and judgement. It basically has to be on his terms and his conditions and I genuinely feel like it's my body & my discretion. IDK, maybe I'm just ranting at this point.
How would you (or how have you) approached this convo with your partner?