I love looking at porn, but I've been gripping my cock way too hard for too long. I wanna orgasm a more natural way from my penis;to become more delicate again. What toys or techniques should I use to heal from death grip?
How to keep jerking off while recovering from death grip?
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The STU from fleshlight is my go-to. Its pretty loose and doesn't overstimulate the penis. It takes me longer to cum with it, and it just feels "soft" I don't know another way to put it.
Just also try touching your erect penis with the most delicate, soft touch possible. Tickling almost. Enjoy the sensations, don't rush to orgasm. Focus intently on your penis and all the parts of it and how each little part feels when touched or stimulated. For cumming, it will be hard, but just keep up with the stimulation, when it feels good, keep going with it but calm yourself and steady and slow your breathing.
Just also try touching your erect penis with the most delicate, soft touch possible. Tickling almost. Enjoy the sensations, don't rush to orgasm. Focus intently on your penis and all the parts of it and how each little part feels when touched or stimulated. For cumming, it will be hard, but just keep up with the stimulation, when it feels good, keep going with it but calm yourself and steady and slow your breathing.
I sometimes try jerking off without using my hands at all - thrusting against a towel or pillow (often with a condom so there's no mess). I do that in part to avoid becoming reliant solely on my hands - but also because it feels really great.
While I did use my hands back then, growing up I used to fuck rolled up super soft blankets, or a soft t-shirt folded in half in between two pillows. Of course once I started cumming it made a supreme mess in my shirts so I had to try other ways, but yes, fucking anything is so much better, and honestly way more fun, than using a hand.
OP if you have a fleshlight you can make your own dock for it. I used a big heavy blanket and folded it into a lozenge shape, and then used a big bath towel to shape it up so its squarish with rounded corners and a tad longer than wide, about 6 or so inches tall. I wrapped this mass of cloth with a towel, folded the towel over it carefully so the top of it is flat with no creases or ends of towel bunched up there. Then, a bungee cord long enough so it can be wrapped twice around the whole thing. Make sure you attach/hook the bungee to itself on the bottom. This leaves 2 crisscrossed bungee cables on top. I push down in the center and create a linear valley or divot so the fleshlight can be in that, and secure it to the top of the dock with the bungees on top. You can fuck the living shit out of this thing and it hold up. The fleshlight will never move if the bungee is tight enough. Depending on blanket and towels used, it has enough weight so if its on the floor and you're doing it in missionary it shouldn't move, but the harder you go at it the more it'll slide away from you. Standing up you can hold it by the sides and its like hips to hang on to. You can lay down and have it on top of you. And its almost free to create if you just have stuff lying around the house you can afford to tie up in your new fuck toy! I've had my dock for like 15 years now and I don't' miss that blanket or towels at all
If this is complicated sounding I'll try to send a picture of mine soon.
OP also start cutting out the porn. It desensitizes so much of your body and brain, and the connection between your brain and penis is linked through the porn. You can't pay attention to the subtle nuances of penis stimulation and sensation when you're locked onto a screen. Cut it out for a while and focus on yourself and body again, fall in love with your penis!!
Good point, I've been over consuming for too long.
I won't lie and say its easy to just start in on yourself without porn. I had porn induced ED for a little while early 2021. I couldn't get it up for my wife. No idea why. She wanted my cock so bad, pussy throbbing dark red and wet. Limp noodle on my end. Then I realized I couldn't get hard or stay hard if a screen wasn't involved. Then I couldn't cum if a screen wasn't involved. I did some experiments to see if what I thought was true. It was. I quit cold turkey and started pleasuring myself alone with nothing on at all not even pictures. Took a few weeks but I could finally stay hard for 5 minutes and cum easily. At first I'd cum the second I got hard. Self pleasuring feels so much better when there's nothing on, you can feel it all so well.
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Well not loose, just not as tight as other sleeves I have. I guess it has a little more give, and there aren't lots of nodes or channels or textures that are intense inside it. So it more "glides" over my cock, its like a "whisper" in some ways versus my Stoya sleeves that are a "fuck" if that makes sense
I'm so bored and desensitized to porn now, but I keep beating it cus idk what else to do
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Stoya Destroya is a classic… and my favoriteWell not loose, just not as tight as other sleeves I have. I guess it has a little more give, and there aren't lots of nodes or channels or textures that are intense inside it. So it more "glides" over my cock, its like a "whisper" in some ways versus my Stoya sleeves that are a "fuck" if that makes sense
