How to last longer?

[LevinZ]

Genuine question, I wanna know how guys can rapidly fuck and not ejaculate. Do you guys actively trying to stop ejaculation like how you "hold pee in public", or they just didnt get to the point where the cock is itchy and ready to burst, even with the amount and duration of fucking?

I may or may not have death-grip syndrome due to years of porn and masturbation, so I just wanna know how guys fuck

 

[lapdog2001]

Genuine question, I wanna know how guys can rapidly fuck and not ejaculate. Do you guys actively trying to stop ejaculation like how you "hold pee in public", or they just didn't get to the point where the cock is itchy and ready to burst, even with the amount and duration of fucking?

The sure way to get me to have an orgasm and cum is for me to go fast. Once I reach 'that point' there's no stopping it for me, I'm going to cum.

The only way for me to elongate the amount of time I'm actually fucking has always been to slow down and change positions, withdrawing for a few seconds while we reposition ourselves, That usually is enough of a break that I 'calm down' and don't reach the point of no return. I've done the Kegel exercises and while those may help extend the time before orgasm I've never been able to stop one if I reach 'that point'

 

[LevinZ]

The sure way to get me to have an orgasm and cum is for me to go fast. Once I reach 'that point' there's no stopping it for me, I'm going to cum.

The only way for me to elongate the amount of time I'm actually fucking has always been to slow down and change positions, withdrawing for a few seconds while we reposition ourselves, That usually is enough of a break that I 'calm down' and don't reach the point of no return. I've done the Kegel exercises and while those may help extend the time before orgasm I've never been able to stop one if I reach 'that point'

how long can you last? So I guess the easy or common method to last long is to not be too sensitive so you can fuck for a long time without feeling anything.

 

[Rooker]

Think about sports.

 

[LPSG Simon]

Think about sports.

Or work.

 

[just rodger]

Get your cock sucked about 3-4 times a day to completion. It makes your cock raw, numbs it.
Then you need tricks to trigger an orgasm, something in your ass usually helps.

 

[halcyondays]

Don't move. Let your partner slide on your cock and have a romp. Don't pump your hips even if you're on top. Thrust with body and kegs instead.

Rubbing one out before a date is a strategy I used especially when I was young.

Another is to not stop after your first orgasm. After a refractory period of 10-15 minutes you'll get hard and go again. You'll last much longer second and third time around.

 

[thongboy]

Don't move. Let your partner slide on your cock and have a romp. Don't pump your hips even if you're on top. Thrust with body and kegs instead.

Rubbing one out before a date is a strategy I used especially when I was young.

Another is to not stop after your first orgasm. After a refractory period of 10-15 minutes you'll get hard and go again. You'll last much longer second and third time around.

good advice

 

[hugegoonman]

You've got to train and edge yourself! It's a muscle you need to exercise

 

[notthatguy]

Reverse kegels. Master them and you can last as long as you want.

 

[DavidSea]

I struggle with lasting long.

For me my go to is a lidocaine delay spray, gives me the confidence. Usually apply
3-4 sprays and I can last longer and have greater control. I’m number but not completely numb I can still feel it. This is number 1 in my toolkit only thing I trust to work consistently.

Kegels and reverse kegels.

I’ve never been consistent sadly to utilise the entire benefits, I feel like at period when I was doing them they did help.

Know your positions as in which ones make you cum quick. For me Missionary can make me cum quick but doggy I can last a bit longer stood up.

Edging daily to train your body not to give in to the first sensation of wanting to cum. Requires self control but may make sense. Especially if you’re like me growing up I would quickly rub one out which probably didn’t help so body’s used to cumming quickly.

Confidence don’t go in there thinking you’re going to cum quick

 

[Lord_of_Goon]

Genuine question, I wanna know how guys can rapidly fuck and not ejaculate. Do you guys actively trying to stop ejaculation like how you "hold pee in public", or they just didnt get to the point where the cock is itchy and ready to burst, even with the amount and duration of fucking?

I may or may not have death-grip syndrome due to years of porn and masturbation, so I just wanna know how guys fuck

I practice masturbating both edging and anti edging. Which is continued stroking but in a completely comfortable zone. Once I got good at that the sex just happened.

 

[WhiteRabbit8]

Get your cock sucked about 3-4 times a day to completion. It makes your cock raw, numbs it.
Then you need tricks to trigger an orgasm, something in your ass usually helps.

I love getting blown multiple times per day. It was how I recently spent my birthday actually.

 

[LevinZ]

I struggle with lasting long.

For me my go to is a lidocaine delay spray, gives me the confidence. Usually apply
3-4 sprays and I can last longer and have greater control. I’m number but not completely numb I can still feel it. This is number 1 in my toolkit only thing I trust to work consistently.

Kegels and reverse kegels.

I’ve never been consistent sadly to utilise the entire benefits, I feel like at period when I was doing them they did help.

Know your positions as in which ones make you cum quick. For me Missionary can make me cum quick but doggy I can last a bit longer stood up.

Edging daily to train your body not to give in to the first sensation of wanting to cum. Requires self control but may make sense. Especially if you’re like me growing up I would quickly rub one out which probably didn’t help so body’s used to cumming quickly.

Confidence don’t go in there thinking you’re going to cum quick

As much as Id love to, I prefer avoiding any medication or assistance at all, so I can (hopefully) fuck whenever I need. Probably mastering kegel is the only way I need.

 

[Magnum10x2]

Masturbation and vaganial sex are not even close to the same...

I'd suggest practice, practice, practice. (and more practice).

 

[braalian4]

The tried and true method of stopping and pulling out usually works.

Your bottom might not appreciate it though

 

[prelcum69]

Masturbation and vaganial sex are not even close to the same...

I'd suggest practice, practice, practice. (and more practice).

Exactly you need practice in a pussy

 

[Wine0]

Consider the ‘ladder of arousal’

Work yourself up on a scale of 1 - 10. When you get to 7, pause. Stop stimulating your cock and just enjoy the pre-orgasm wave. Pause until you are back to a 5 and start again.

You will fail at the start - so don’t be hard on yourself. Just rest and try again in a while or tomorrow.

Do this multiple times until you can confidently and reliably stop your ejaculation.

You can do this on your own, or with a friend. Make sure you communicate honestly about how close you are to cumming.

7, 8, 9 & 10 happen so fast so there’s no way you can stop cumming, but rest at a 7 and you should be OK.

Let us know how you get on

 

[eridim]

How old are you? As you go into your 30s your hormones will cool down and you will take longer to cum. But when you're young you're constantly horny so you cum fast. Also as you fuck more you start getting used to it and can control it more and more.

As a top only I used to love showing off to my bottoms how long I can go and how hard I can fuck. Certainly was impressive to lots of guys and made me boast about my sex stories, which was a great ego boost. But as a bottom now too, I personally love when a top cums fast. It means he was super horny, or i made him super horny, and he orgasmed because of me so fast. And frankly when you're getting a cock inside you you usually want him to finish first because that's very hot to see and know you made that happen. If you're being hammered for long you just delay your orgasm and after 15 min of penetration it's not going to be as strong as if you came fast because your arousal is not as strong. Then it just becomes a physical exercise of stamina and endurance.

If you cum fast, chances are you can go again in a few minutes. That's something that makes me even hornier than a guy who can last forever, because you get to see him cum more than once. And the second time is usually my turn to cum. And if it happens again and the top cums again before me, it adds even more to my ego because he keeps cumming because of me. Can you imagine how good it sounds in any man/woman's mind being able to say they made a guy cum 3 times?

Masculinity is associated with lasting long in bed and keeping a rock hard erection forever, but based on my evidence an erection that lasts short is the normal. Lasting forever is also anatomically wrong because sex is meant to procreate, and nature wants the sperm to hit the ovary asap. Lasting long being associated with masculinity is a modern thing influenced by porn. In the past quick ejaculators were considered manly because it meant you can fertilize more women.

You should only care about lasting longer if you don't wanna go a second time after you came. Not because there's anything wrong with you but because it's inconsiderate to your partner. You can also help with your hands if you don't wanna go a second round.

Trust me, the only person who thinks cumming too fast is a problem is the guy himself. Girls and bottoms are willing to assist. We're all human, if someone is being an asshole about it or judgemental their issues come from somewhere else, not your fast ejaculation.

I now take forever to cum, sometimes don't even cum, and honestly would give anything for being able to cum fast