How to make a girl look at me in a sexual/dating way.....help!

[lz102666]

so I am pretty much a loser in terms of sexual/dating life, 29 and sadly still no experience having sex with woman, as an Asian guy came to Western Europe few years ago, dating with girls are always a big issue for me, probably I have committed all my time and efforts to study and build my career（and frankly still do not have a successful career yet lol), but when I went to a party/event, girls are very nice to me but I think they were just being polite and nice, they are not looking at me or talking to me in a sexual way (even though I was told by some girls that they took pills for the party in case of accident pregnancy). On top of that, I never had luck on Tinder/Bumble/Hinge (even Grindr lol, you can imagine how desperate I was) so probably not gonna try anymore. I do not consider myself ugly or stupid (since I am well educated and I am working in the tech industry), frankly I think I look better than 50% of people I am working with, and I am considered as handsome in my home country. I tried many different ways like being humor or charming (thank Netflix lol), it just did not fucking work...so ladies, please help cause I am so horny and desperate now lol...yes I am seeing doctor now just in case not getting depressed......

Could you be honest, are you (if you are a EU girl) really ruling Asian males out? do I still have a chance finding a girlfriend in EU (Since my business required me to stay here for at least another few years, I can not leave until the industry gets better)? how to turn girls on so they could think me as fuckable or attractive? my problem is that I do not even know how to make girls look at me and think.... is he single? (Due to my work, I barely met girls from my home country or Asian country at the moment....so I am not racist really, just 99% girls I met are European, the typical white girls)

It would be really helpful if you could share some real thoughts (even tell me I have 0 chance so I could save my time hitting on random girls since it is really really awkward and frustrating......) and thank in advance!!!

 

[AllieHeidi]

ladies, please help cause I am so horny and desperate now

Get a Fleshlight if that's your primary concern. Otherwise, you can start by taking a genuine interest in a woman as a person. Most women must be turned on mentally and emotionally before wanting anything sexually.

Rest assured that your "horniness and desperation" is as obvious as it is offputting.

 

[EllieP]

If you're looking for sexual release with a woman I would recommend hiring a sex worker. No commitment, no relationship. And if she's good you'll get your release easily.

And best of all, no hitting on. Just pay for play. Easy peasy.

If you're looking for a relationship then you're going about it the wrong way. You can't make someone look at you a certain way. You have to be someone that someone wants to look at.

In other words, be yourself because everyone else is already taken. And you'll look silly trying to be someone else anyway.

Don't be so desperate. That's not a good look at all. Be comfortable, be confident. But above all be polite. Polite is sexy!

 

[LaFemme]

Be someone you’d want to be with. Really think about it. Would you date you? Why or why not? Be someone you’d be interested in dating. That means everything from clothing to interests. Who are you?

Live in a home you’d find interesting. If you visited a love interest and she tossed her socks under the couch, let pizza ones rot on the coffee table, her bathroom was dirty and her towels smelled sour - would you still be interested? I’m not talking sex. I’m talking her as a person.

Quit thinking of sex or dating as goals. Wrong. Women are not “goals” and we are not things on a checklist. We are human beings. Treat us like objects and it’s over. Even men who are ‘successful’ with women don’t make us feel like a checklist item. Get past that. Do you really want to date women? Why? If you have sex, then what? If you find a date, then what? Do you really want another human being in your life?

And get rid of the word “loser”. See yourself as a loser, you will always be alone. If you don’t like you, no one else will either. See yourself as a loser and so will others. Never in my long life have I ever wanted to date a loser. “Looking for unhappy loser” will never make a Tinder/Bumble/Hinge headline. Would you date an unhappy loser?

 

[lz102666]

Get a Fleshlight if that's your primary concern. Otherwise, you can start by taking a genuine interest in a woman as a person. Most women must be turned on mentally and emotionally before wanting anything sexually.

Rest assured that your "horniness and desperation" is as obvious as it is offputting.

thanks for your kind advice!! I just put horniness and desperation here, in reality I don't even have the courage to express anything might cause disrespectful feeling for female haha

 

[lz102666]

If you're looking for sexual release with a woman I would recommend hiring a sex worker. No commitment, no relationship. And if she's good you'll get your release easily.

And best of all, no hitting on. Just pay for play. Easy peasy.

If you're looking for a relationship then you're going about it the wrong way. You can't make someone look at you a certain way. You have to be someone that someone wants to look at.

In other words, be yourself because everyone else is already taken. And you'll look silly trying to be someone else anyway.

Don't be so desperate. That's not a good look at all. Be comfortable, be confident. But above all be polite. Polite is sexy!

thank you!!!

 

[lz102666]

Be someone you’d want to be with. Really think about it. Would you date you? Why or why not? Be someone you’d be interested in dating. That means everything from clothing to interests. Who are you?

Live in a home you’d find interesting. If you visited a love interest and she tossed her socks under the couch, let pizza ones rot on the coffee table, her bathroom was dirty and her towels smelled sour - would you still be interested? I’m not talking sex. I’m talking her as a person.

Quit thinking of sex or dating as goals. Wrong. Women are not “goals” and we are not things on a checklist. We are human beings. Treat us like objects and it’s over. Even men who are ‘successful’ with women don’t make us feel like a checklist item. Get past that. Do you really want to date women? Why? If you have sex, then what? If you find a date, then what? Do you really want another human being in your life?

And get rid of the word “loser”. See yourself as a loser, you will always be alone. If you don’t like you, no one else will either. See yourself as a loser and so will others. Never in my long life have I ever wanted to date a loser. “Looking for unhappy loser” will never make a Tinder/Bumble/Hinge headline. Would you date an unhappy loser?

thanks for the input! I just put “loser” here as mocking myself lol, I have few friends doing their PhDs as basically same situation as me lol. I did tried to know few girls in person but sadly it seems like the girls I was approaching are already taken -_- since their high school/collage, in the country I am staying, people here somehow has a small group since kindergarten so it is really hard to get into their circle, not to mention being introduced to their friends....

 

[LaFemme]

thanks for the input! I just put “loser” here as mocking myself lol, I have few friends doing their PhDs as basically same situation as me lol. I did tried to know few girls in person but sadly it seems like the girls I was approaching are already taken -_- since their high school/collage, in the country I am staying, people here somehow has a small group since kindergarten so it is really hard to get into their circle, not to mention being introduced to their friends....

I get that. Breaking into a new friend group is very difficult. I had the same experience when I moved to a new city for university. Took a couple of years before I made enough friends to socialize - uni was huge! Eventually, I did. Just gotta stay the course. Work on career and education. It all worked out.

But seriously? Never refer to yourself as a loser - not even in a joking way.

 

[lz102666]

I get that. Breaking into a new friend group is very difficult. I had the same experience when I moved to a new city for university. Took a couple of years before I made enough friends to socialize - uni was huge! Eventually, I did. Just gotta stay the course. Work on career and education. It all worked out.

But seriously? Never refer to yourself as a loser - not even in a joking way.

Thank you so much! I always thought something was wrong about me....I guess Western countries social culture are really different from Asia.

Noted! never do that again! salut！