How To Stop Cumming Quickly ?

[Borkbork]

About a minute after I get hard, I feel the need to cum. How do I last longer and how can I lengthen the time before I get that tingly feeling.

 

[longstroke7]

Pull your balls down away from your body and breathe/try to relax.

 

[deleted4500261]

@longstroke7 gives great advice. That does work very well.
What I did when I was younger was when I masturbated I would stop if I felt like I was going to cum. I would settle down and wait for the feeling to go away and start again. Go slow and like he said above breathe and relax. You want to gain control of the experience. If you can get your masturbation sessions to go longer, at some point you will have much better mental and physical control.
For sex I would recommend a lot of foreplay for your partner (things they enjoy). It puts you in a position where you can ease into the sex without having to perform with your dick yet. Just try and slow everything down to a pace you are comfortable with. At least that is what I did.

I was able to get to the point where I didn’t cum until I wanted to. That was all through practice when I jerked off. Making it last longer and longer until I got very good at just slowing thibgs down a little if I was getting close.
The other thing is how quickly can you get hard again. There was a trick guys used to do where they would jerk off before a date. The second orgasm usually takes longer than the first so they would gain some extra time from that.
I personally never tried that so I can’t attest to it’s effectiveness but it sounds like it would work.

 

[nate9696]

@longstroke7 gives great advice. That does work very well.
What I did when I was younger was when I masturbated I would stop if I felt like I was going to cum. I would settle down and wait for the feeling to go away and start again. Go slow and like he said above breathe and relax. You want to gain control of the experience. If you can get your masturbation sessions to go longer, at some point you will have much better mental and physical control.
For sex I would recommend a lot of foreplay for your partner (things they enjoy). It puts you in a position where you can ease into the sex without having to perform with your dick yet. Just try and slow everything down to a pace you are comfortable with. At least that is what I did.

I was able to get to the point where I didn’t cum until I wanted to. That was all through practice when I jerked off. Making it last longer and longer until I got very good at just slowing thibgs down a little if I was getting close.
The other thing is how quickly can you get hard again. There was a trick guys used to do where they would jerk off before a date. The second orgasm usually takes longer than the first so they would gain some extra time from that.
I personally never tried that so I can’t attest to it’s effectiveness but it sounds like it would work.

Pounding one out b4 definitely helps. In college my gf and I would have sex and it would last 4 about 20 min of actual sex. One time I pounded one out just b4 and then had sex right after and I pounded away for over and hour and a half b4 she begged me to finish lol

 

[Jaden90]

About a minute after I get hard, I feel the need to cum. How do I last longer and how can I lengthen the time before I get that tingly feeling.

I guess mate like the others have said it's a case of calming yourself down, taking breaks etc. Abstaining from giving your cock a great deal of attention when watching porn can help. Subtle caresses and paying more attention to your shaft, balls, taint etc can take the edge off but not push you over the edge.

Like you I am basically ready to pop the moment I get my hand around my dick. (normally because I've been browsing the web or grinding my dick against the mattress before I finally give in lol), but my glans are super sensitive.

The art of edging is something you could probably look into trying more of. In the context of sex, again I can be quick to finish but there can be enjoyment in the delay and giving more pleasure to your partner without shortening the session.

 

[ZeusNotApollo]

One of the techniques for premature ejaculation is as you start to feel the urge to climax gently, but firmly, squeeze the head near the Frenulem. Premature ejaculation is not a medical issue but is psychologically related and can be disappointing for both parties that’s why literature often teaches that both participants partake in this action meaning that the female, or male, do the technique when you inform them you’re close. You could Google “how to avoid premature ejaculation” for further guidance.

 

[TallNHguy]

I'm going to have to try some of these. Oddly, cumming too quickly was never an issue in my youth, but ever since I turned 40 the duration to climax is getting shorter. Now in my late 50s, I'm lucky if I can hold out for more than 15-20 minutes.

 

[halcyondays]

1. Slow down or stop stroking. Let go of your cock. It's not going anywhere. Take your time. Enjoy the feeling.
2. Don't use the death grip! Lighten up. Use fingers to lightly rub/explore different areas of your shaft and perineum--and other erogenous zones of your body.
2. Relax and breathe deeply.
3. If you are, stop pumping your hips.
4. Go ahead and come! After a short refractory period you'll get hard again and last longer the second time. Get the first one out of the way.

Biologically there's no such thing as premature ejaculation. The vast majority of animals take a few seconds to a few minutes to mate. In our species it's an adaptive advantage for males to come quickly because 1) females don't need to orgasm to conceive and 2) if a couple keeps having sex and the woman orgasms the chance of fertilization increases because there's already a pool of semen near the cervix into which it physically pulses during her orgasm. 3) Even if a male ejaculates before penetration it's easy to copulate multiple times.

Don't be selfish with a partner by pulling a one-and-done. Keep going. Be a lover.

 

[Gj816]

I agree with @halcyondays don't be a one and done. Some men can get more than one nut off the same hard on. Just keep going. It's mind over matter.

That's what separates the men from the boys so to speak. The first time I made love to my wife I had cum but never stopped thrusting my cock in and out of her. She finally ask if I was going to cum. Told her I've already cum once, I'm working on the second one. Sent her into a frenzy of orgasms that soaked us both. Found out she'd told her best friend, I was the first man to actually make love to her.
Be a lover. Keep going until your blasting your second load out. Your partner will be happy, you'll be happy. It's your cock you control it, not the other way around.

 

[DavidSea]

In for tips.

Anyone tried Kegels do they actually work to delay ejaculaifon.

I suffer from quick/premature ejaculation, last few times I’ve had have been in a car. And as soon as she climbs on and rides I’m ready to cum in less than a minute.

Maybe it’s nerves and the fact it’s not the most comfortable or she’s just really good at what she’s doing.

I definitely think some of it psychological, there’s been times in the past where I’ve met a woman and my dicks been hard on the way to going back to her place and when it’s time to actually have sex I’m ready to blow.

Quite annoying and makes me anxious with new partners as that’s all I’m focused on is not cumming quick.

 

[dreambridger]

Have you tried smoking or eating some cannabis before hand? Cannabis has always acted a sexual stabilizer for me.

 

[Saitama]

About a minute after I get hard, I feel the need to cum. How do I last longer and how can I lengthen the time before I get that tingly feeling.

Keep your foreskin retracted at all times.

 

[tnman]

Keep your foreskin retracted at all times.

Hell I would think that would make it worse

 

[Godslittlejoke]

Just do like most of these guys are saying and bring yourself to the edge of orgasm and quit stroking. This is called edging. It's important that when you do it you focus on your kegel muscles and you keep your foreskin off of your glans until the urge to come subsides. The level muscles are the ones in your taint that you can feel flexing when you stop peeing midstream. Practice flexing those muscles a lot. When you edge, try to do it as many times in a day as you can without coming. The next day do it again but try for 1 time more and so on each subsequent day.
If you have a foreskin, you might have a wet dream or two while your edging if you don't cum after your sessions. This will pass to after you gain more control. Eventually you will be able to cum like a fountain and you will be able to cum multiple times in a row. I was able to prolong sex for hours when I edged. Some partners thought it was cool especially when I finally came and some just couldn't keep up and go the distance. So make sure you have someone with some endurance once you are in control. Otherwise, you'll be having lots of sex with only your partner getting off and you getting a set of blue balls unless you take matters in hand.

 

[sketcher]

Keep your foreskin retracted at all times.

That's interesting. Are you suggesting that would desensitize the glans and epithelium?

 

[deleted1025121]

I've had this problem too. If its really serious you can talk to a urologist. I've even taken a very low dose of an anti-depressant pill which often will delay your urgency to cum. Just be careful cause those can kill your sex drive too. but a small enough amount might help. I've often though guys that are quick to cum are hard-wired neurologically different. Sometimes you need something to deaden that urgency.

 

[Saitama]

That's interesting. Are you suggesting that would desensitize the glans and epithelium?

It does to some extent - not to be hypersensitive.

 

[Thingy8]

Doing kegels seems to work great. Allthough it will take some time to train this.

 

[svrocks]

You also need to make sure premature ejaculation isn't on your mind. I had this problem before...it's almost like I've got the word "premature ejaculation" flashing in my head. The mind is more powerful than you think.

Other than that it's good to slow down and give the base of your shaft a squeeze. That works for me.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

About a minute after I get hard, I feel the need to cum. How do I last longer and how can I lengthen the time before I get that tingly feeling.

Is this self stimulation or all stimulation?
How long is the tingling v blast off?