How Would You React If Your Man...

[AussieScooter]

...had a happy ending massage without your knowledge? Is it cheating or purely a transactional physical release?
[im sure this has been asked before...it’s ok if the thread gets deleted. Sorry to intrude]

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

It's cheating if he hides it from me.

Don't be a grimey piece of shit. Jerk your own dick off or break up with her, but don't go behind her back and have sexual contact with another person. It's not just sexual release. It's fucking cheating. If you can't tell your partner about the experience, it's wrong and there's no excuse to do it.

 

[286798]

If he’s my man, he’s not going to need that physical release... unless work keeps us apart for an extended period.

Beyond that, what TNJ said.... if he hides it, it’s cheating.

 

[MickeyLee]

By "it's not cheating" logic.. why stop at a handjob? Any sexual activity would be purely a transactional physical release.

It's cheating. And illegal in most states *posting from the US*. I would imagine a partner to be ultra-hostile to find out about the cheating by picking their man up at police station.

 

[LaFemme]

Like the other ladies said - if it’s not a negotiated part of our relationship, it’s cheating. And I wouldn’t bother picking him up from jail. I’d be too busy packing up his stuff.

 

[deleted924715]

To me, it's cheating and usually if you have to ask if something is cheating, it's cheating.

I'm less accommodating than Lurker - if we're separated by circumstances and he's horny as far as I'm concerned he can have a wank. He wouldn't agree to me getting sexual gratification from someone else either.

I'd have issues with him going to a sex worker in any case (let's face it, the "massage" isn't the draw). What situation is that person in? Are they even there of their own free will? Are they being exploited? The transactional nature is worse to me, not better.

He would be so dead if I ever found out. So now he'd have to kill her... And anyone else who worked there... And anyone who saw him go in... And the friend he mentioned it to... The friend might've told his wife so her card is marked too. He'd have to wipe the CCTV at the petrol station he stopped at, take down the message board where he posted asking if it was cheating and engage a voodoo priestess to ensure my Spidey sense didn't tingle. The wank is probably less stressful

 

[286798]

I was meaning that he'd be taken care of by me if he weren't away for an extended period... he wouldn't have a need if we were in the same area code.

 

[deleted924715]

I was meaning that he'd be taken care of by me if he weren't away for an extended period... he wouldn't have a need if we were in the same area code.

Oh I got what you meant - I just don't give a shit if either of us are away for work or not. Extended period or not. Far away or not.

#nojudgementansweringformyselfonly

 

[deleted924715]

Oh and I don't buy "need". I have been faithful while a partner has been, er, indisposed. Did I want him? Yes. Did I need him? No. I "need" air, I "need" water.

I think it can be unfair to imply that the seeking out of sex workers is due to the deficiency of the partner. Some dudes do it simply because they can.

 

[4388301]

If a supposedly monogamous partner o mine was doing something even as "innocent" as making out with somebody else, yeah motherfucker, that's cheating. A hand job or something more? What kind of fucking weird ass twisted mental gymnastics does one have to do to try and say that isn't infidelity??

Like. Watching porn and jerking yourself off? Not cheating. If you "have" to lie about it or pretend it doesn't exist, it prolly isn't something your significant other would be ok with. Various n sundry other forms o relationship with different parameters? Well, those are figured out 'tween the involved folk. Monogamous though? Should not be hard to figure out..

 

[TinyPrincess]

Definitely cheating. That would end a relationship.

 

[Mittimer]

Any sexual interactions that are not previously negotiated between my partners and I that are outside of my realm of knowledge is cheating.

If I have a massage therapist finger bang me without telling my guy, I cheated. It's absolutely no different.

If I'm cheated on, I'm leaving or kicking their ass out. Anything less is showing they can get away with their shady bullshit and it'll only happen again.

The only reason most men ask these asinine questions is to validate their actions. I find it hilariously stupid.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

He’d never get another massage again. He gets a lot of massage, from legitimate therapists. Mainly me.
And I’d report the business for human trafficking. (We recently had a couple “spas” busted that led to a human trafficking ring that included kiddos.)

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