Husband Turned On By Hearing About Bigger Penises Than His.

[trulybig]

First let me say I really don’t understand guy’s obsession with the size of their penis, focusing on how they compare to others, admiring another man because they have a bigger penis, or wanting to see their spouse like me, have sex with a better hung man than themselves. But, I do respect that a marriage should be fun and that a spouse should do fun and exciting things to please their partner sexually. So, I do that and it has been interesting. When my husband showed me this funny site LPSG, he encouraged me to share our situation.

My first marriage ended in divorce. We did some kind of wild activities like nude beaches, clubs, and even went to a type of swinging resort once. However, that did not cause the end of our marriage as much as he was a bit too much of a drinker and could get belligerent. We also were probably too young when we married, but there definitely were some fun times.

I consider myself reasonably attractive and did the dating scene after the divorce for almost 4 years before meeting another man where we lived together for a year. However, he never wanted to get married and I did. So, I returned to the active dating scene again. Let me say I have had quite a number of sexual encounters.

I met my husband at a work related conference. It started with a shared cab ride from the airport and then coincidentally running into each other several times the next few days. He was the same age as me (mid 30’s) a little overweight but very cute and outgoing. We started dating and I remember our first sexual experience occurred on our 3rd date. I actually was more of the aggressor given having many sexual experiences prior and not a prude or conservative. I like sex and can admit it. Anyway, we had gone back to his place to watch a show and I lay on the couch with my head resting on his lap. I started putting my hand down just holding still by his zipper and then actually moved me head so I was just looking right at his crotch. It was somewhat surprising that he didn’t seem to react or that I noticed any lump of an erection. So, I ran my finger over his pants quietly stroking the area but still there was no response. I looked up at him and smiled and then playfully started unbuckling his pants. He lifted up so I could pull them down along with his underwear and his penis was hard but not what I would call big compared to just about all the men I had been with before. He wasn’t tiny but it was just a smaller than average penis which didn’t really bother me at all. It was easier to suck and we quickly changed positions and he took me on the couch. He was able to fuck vigorously and hard which was how I enjoyed intercourse. Was he as good a lover as some? No, but he was fine. We continued our relationship for several months until he proposed and I accepted. Later that year we got married in a small more family oriented ceremony.

The first time he brought up my past relationships and former marriage was actually on our honeymoon. We had sex, went to sleep and then next morning were resting comfortably in bed. He told me how much he loved me and then started asking about my first husband. I really was reluctant to talk about my first husband. But, my husband said he felt we should always be open and not have secrets. That seemed reasonable. However, the question that startled me and made me nervous was when he asked, “How do I compare?” I laughed and said, “Well I married you didn’t I.” But, my husband started to persist. “No, I mean sexually and how did we compare in penis size!” I was now stunned by him asking such an intimate question plus my husband was much smaller than my first husband. I tried to avoid an answer. I told him I never really paid attention to things like that which had some grain of truth. I mean you couldn’t help but notice a man’s size if it was significantly different but it was never an issue for me in terms of the first importance. Sure, a big penis was nice when attached to a decent guy but it wasn’t the main ingredient for me. Nevertheless, my husband again wouldn’t drop the subject and told me to be candid.

I didn’t want to lie to my husband but started the conversation by sharing how much my first husband was a jerk. That didn’t seem to be of interest. “No, compare our cocks” my husband insisted. So, I took a hold of his penis and gave it a kiss. “This is perfect for me” I smiled as I held it. Jason (my first husband) well honestly he had a very long penis. As soon as I said that my husband’s penis kind of throbbed in my hand. “He used to brag about it that it was a true 8” Wow, my husband exclaimed, that’s big. “Yes, honey but in some positions he would go too deep and it could hurt.” However, I noticed my husband had grown really hard in my hand as I talked. This conversation was really turning him on and I could feel his excitement. I bent over and started sucking him as he fell back on the bed. “Tell me more and be truthful” he reiterated as he closed his eyes. I whispered in a sexy voice telling him the first time I saw him erect it was a bit intimidating. My husband looked up and said show me with your finger how much longer his is than mine. I held my hand about 3 inches higher than the head of my husband’s penis which was pretty accurate. “Oh my God,” my husband exclaimed, I never will be able to satisfy you like he could?” Honey size doesn’t matter I told him but saw some look of disappointment as I said this. Tell me what it felt like, he said. Well, honey when he went deep sometimes it hurt but other times it felt really good. Better than mine? “Yes he could hit spots yours doesn’t.” OH fuck, as my husband suddenly came in my hand and I quickly took him back in my mouth to pleasure him.

Afterwards, I told him I was just saying some things as I could see he was turned on. I reiterated his penis was fine. He seemed OK with that but he shared that he liked hearing about my sexual experiences. At first, I really didn’t feel comfortable about providing such details and it confused me why this turned him on. In fact, even to this day sometimes I have mixed feelings on all of this but he gets so excited sexually that I indulge everything which I will discuss and share here when I have a little more time. Maybe guys can explain this to me here on why it is a turn-on? (to be continued)

 

[FLhusband50]

First let me say I really don’t understand guy’s obsession with the size of their penis, focusing on how they compare to others, admiring another man because they have a bigger penis, or wanting to see their spouse like me, have sex with a better hung man than themselves. But, I do respect that a marriage should be fun and that a spouse should do fun and exciting things to please their partner sexually. So, I do that and it has been interesting. When my husband showed me this funny site LPSG, he encouraged me to share our situation.

My first marriage ended in divorce. We did some kind of wild activities like nude beaches, clubs, and even went to a type of swinging resort once. However, that did not cause the end of our marriage as much as he was a bit too much of a drinker and could get belligerent. We also were probably too young when we married, but there definitely were some fun times.

I consider myself reasonably attractive and did the dating scene after the divorce for almost 4 years before meeting another man where we lived together for a year. However, he never wanted to get married and I did. So, I returned to the active dating scene again. Let me say I have had quite a number of sexual encounters.

I met my husband at a work related conference. It started with a shared cab ride from the airport and then coincidentally running into each other several times the next few days. He was the same age as me (mid 30’s) a little overweight but very cute and outgoing. We started dating and I remember our first sexual experience occurred on our 3rd date. I actually was more of the aggressor given having many sexual experiences prior and not a prude or conservative. I like sex and can admit it. Anyway, we had gone back to his place to watch a show and I lay on the couch with my head resting on his lap. I started putting my hand down just holding still by his zipper and then actually moved me head so I was just looking right at his crotch. It was somewhat surprising that he didn’t seem to react or that I noticed any lump of an erection. So, I ran my finger over his pants quietly stroking the area but still there was no response. I looked up at him and smiled and then playfully started unbuckling his pants. He lifted up so I could pull them down along with his underwear and his penis was hard but not what I would call big compared to just about all the men I had been with before. He wasn’t tiny but it was just a smaller than average penis which didn’t really bother me at all. It was easier to suck and we quickly changed positions and he took me on the couch. He was able to fuck vigorously and hard which was how I enjoyed intercourse. Was he as good a lover as some? No, but he was fine. We continued our relationship for several months until he proposed and I accepted. Later that year we got married in a small more family oriented ceremony.

The first time he brought up my past relationships and former marriage was actually on our honeymoon. We had sex, went to sleep and then next morning were resting comfortably in bed. He told me how much he loved me and then started asking about my first husband. I really was reluctant to talk about my first husband. But, my husband said he felt we should always be open and not have secrets. That seemed reasonable. However, the question that startled me and made me nervous was when he asked, “How do I compare?” I laughed and said, “Well I married you didn’t I.” But, my husband started to persist. “No, I mean sexually and how did we compare in penis size!” I was now stunned by him asking such an intimate question plus my husband was much smaller than my first husband. I tried to avoid an answer. I told him I never really paid attention to things like that which had some grain of truth. I mean you couldn’t help but notice a man’s size if it was significantly different but it was never an issue for me in terms of the first importance. Sure, a big penis was nice when attached to a decent guy but it wasn’t the main ingredient for me. Nevertheless, my husband again wouldn’t drop the subject and told me to be candid.

I didn’t want to lie to my husband but started the conversation by sharing how much my first husband was a jerk. That didn’t seem to be of interest. “No, compare our cocks” my husband insisted. So, I took a hold of his penis and gave it a kiss. “This is perfect for me” I smiled as I held it. Jason (my first husband) well honestly he had a very long penis. As soon as I said that my husband’s penis kind of throbbed in my hand. “He used to brag about it that it was a true 8” Wow, my husband exclaimed, that’s big. “Yes, honey but in some positions he would go too deep and it could hurt.” However, I noticed my husband had grown really hard in my hand as I talked. This conversation was really turning him on and I could feel his excitement. I bent over and started sucking him as he fell back on the bed. “Tell me more and be truthful” he reiterated as he closed his eyes. I whispered in a sexy voice telling him the first time I saw him erect it was a bit intimidating. My husband looked up and said show me with your finger how much longer his is than mine. I held my hand about 3 inches higher than the head of my husband’s penis which was pretty accurate. “Oh my God,” my husband exclaimed, I never will be able to satisfy you like he could?” Honey size doesn’t matter I told him but saw some look of disappointment as I said this. Tell me what it felt like, he said. Well, honey when he went deep sometimes it hurt but other times it felt really good. Better than mine? “Yes he could hit spots yours doesn’t.” OH fuck, as my husband suddenly came in my hand and I quickly took him back in my mouth to pleasure him.

Afterwards, I told him I was just saying some things as I could see he was turned on. I reiterated his penis was fine. He seemed OK with that but he shared that he liked hearing about my sexual experiences. At first, I really didn’t feel comfortable about providing such details and it confused me why this turned him on. In fact, even to this day sometimes I have mixed feelings on all of this but he gets so excited sexually that I indulge everything which I will discuss and share here when I have a little more time. Maybe guys can explain this to me here on why it is a turn-on? (to be continued)

My wife and I have discussed this very topic but it didn't start til about 10 years into our marriage. Maybe it was time to spice things up? But like yourself the first time I asked her she was very reluctant to tell me much. After a few attempts I could tell she was just telling me things that she thought I would want to hear. I asked her to be honest and not embellish on the details. I promised I wouldn't get jealous or angry. So she started to tell me and I found it so erotic. The first question I asked was how many men she had been with and the second was about size. I could see her react to the second question cause she knows how guys can be about that subject. I assured her I would be ok with it and really wanted to hear about it. I was very aroused by the thought of it so she could see I wasn't upset by it. I have to say nothing in her past bothered me. She has always liked sex and was not shy about seeking it out either with a bf, fwb, coworker, or one night stand. If she wanted to get laid on a Saturday night, she was getting laid. So why it turned me on? I can't really say it just really does. Having been with a lot of men a few of them were well hung and the size did turn her on. But it does boil down to the person those 9 inches are attached to. She still tells me stories about her past and they still turn me on.

 

[daftman]

... in short, I love hearing about my wife's past experiences.. it has zero to do with size, and more that it turns me on, and always has....i would love to sit across the room and watch serviced by a nice couple....or a guy, or a woman..!

 

[trulybig]

I don’t want to have my sharing misunderstood. Not every single time especially when we were first married did every sexual situation require me to share my past or thoughts. But, there were times as our marriage continued that my husband would ask me to do so. I found it fun and because he hardly could ever hold back when I would tell about a past encounter it pleased him and made me feel like a good wife.

The next time post honeymoon that I recall him bringing up about my past was when we were in bed and he asked to tell about my best sexual experience. Maybe that was a mistake because I have had to tell it many times since then. He loves me describing it. The best was with the man I lived with after divorce and dating. Retrospectively, I don’t know what I was thinking as he was not someone I think deep down I knew would never be a permanent relationship. But I shared with my husband the following:

He was the pure definition of a Latin lover. He was Spanish and he knew how to do oral on a woman. He would take his time and really get into it. Plus, if you wanted to talk about size; his penis was like a salami in thickness. I don’t think he was as long as my first husband maybe an inch less but very wide in thickness where I could never wrap my hand fully around him and that was even a challenge if I held him when soft. When he fucked me I think the width stretched me so much it would have my vaginal lips pull on my clit when he pumped in and out. So, the first time we had sex, seeing his penis, and then feeling it was so hot and intense that I had several orgasms. To date he definitely had the biggest penis of any man in total combination. Yes, I told my husband it did fill me like no other and was long enough to reach the bottom. But, it was that thickness which made so much difference. Again my husband would make me compare his penis by taking a tape measure and wrapping it around him but to equal the thickness of that man. So it had plenty of area not touching my husband’s penis so he could see the tremendous difference. In fact, it kind of in a negative way make me realize just how much smaller my husband was endowed. Sharing this and other stories always had my husband pretty much unable to control his release because of how it turned him on to hear. I still don't understand this.

I could share some more experiences as I did over the years of our marriage but things developed that I will jump to. First, now my husband when we have sex I have to often (not always) tell him his penis is too small to really satisfy me. In some actual ways this type of focus over time did make me realize there literally was some truth to that in general. However, when my husband would be fucking me and I wanted him to cum it was when I would more often than not talk about wanting to be with a much better hung man than him, his couldn't fill me or reach deep, etc. This really turns him on to hear. Again, I have never fully understand this thing with guys but he has shown me some of these videos of women discussing their lovers lack of a good size penis and needing more. Well, eventually this talk lead to him wanting me to have that experience once again for real.

So again before I continue, explain to me once more why seeing or hearing about your spouse with a bigger penis than your own is a desire whether real of imagined?

 

[amazzzed2]

I don’t want to have my sharing misunderstood. Not every single time especially when we were first married did every sexual situation require me to share my past or thoughts. But, there were times as our marriage continued that my husband would ask me to do so. I found it fun and because he hardly could ever hold back when I would tell about a past encounter it pleased him and made me feel like a good wife.

The next time post honeymoon that I recall him bringing up about my past was when we were in bed and he asked to tell about my best sexual experience. Maybe that was a mistake because I have had to tell it many times since then. He loves me describing it. The best was with the man I lived with after divorce and dating. Retrospectively, I don’t know what I was thinking as he was not someone I think deep down I knew would never be a permanent relationship. But I shared with my husband the following:

He was the pure definition of a Latin lover. He was Spanish and he knew how to do oral on a woman. He would take his time and really get into it. Plus, if you wanted to talk about size; his penis was like a salami in thickness. I don’t think he was as long as my first husband maybe an inch less but very wide in thickness where I could never wrap my hand fully around him and that was even a challenge if I held him when soft. When he fucked me I think the width stretched me so much it would have my vaginal lips pull on my clit when he pumped in and out. So, the first time we had sex, seeing his penis, and then feeling it was so hot and intense that I had several orgasms. To date he definitely had the biggest penis of any man in total combination. Yes, I told my husband it did fill me like no other and was long enough to reach the bottom. But, it was that thickness which made so much difference. Again my husband would make me compare his penis by taking a tape measure and wrapping it around him but to equal the thickness of that man. So it had plenty of area not touching my husband’s penis so he could see the tremendous difference. In fact, it kind of in a negative way make me realize just how much smaller my husband was endowed. Sharing this and other stories always had my husband pretty much unable to control his release because of how it turned him on to hear. I still don't understand this.

I could share some more experiences as I did over the years of our marriage but things developed that I will jump to. First, now my husband when we have sex I have to often (not always) tell him his penis is too small to really satisfy me. In some actual ways this type of focus over time did make me realize there literally was some truth to that in general. However, when my husband would be fucking me and I wanted him to cum it was when I would more often than not talk about wanting to be with a much better hung man than him, his couldn't fill me or reach deep, etc. This really turns him on to hear. Again, I have never fully understand this thing with guys but he has shown me some of these videos of women discussing their lovers lack of a good size penis and needing more. Well, eventually this talk lead to him wanting me to have that experience once again for real.

So again before I continue, explain to me once more why seeing or hearing about your spouse with a bigger penis than your own is a desire whether real of imagined?

Great story!
I wish I could explain why that turns me on so much, but it does.
My first wife had an affair with a man with a big cock. I was angry about it, but later secretly turned on by it.
I think at least partly it's because I knew my wife was more sexual than I was, and that excited me.

 

[FLhusband50]

Great story!
I wish I could explain why that turns me on so much, but it does.
My first wife had an affair with a man with a big cock. I was angry about it, but later secretly turned on by it.
I think at least partly it's because I knew my wife was more sexual than I was, and that excited me.

Same here. My wifes first big one was her HS boyfriend. Sex at that age is very intense and the fact that he was hung made it more exciting. I've even met the guy at past HS reunions and can say we hit it off even playing golf together. I love to think of her being so sexual and enjoying his size.

 

[pimpinsmurf]

I don’t want to have my sharing misunderstood. Not every single time especially when we were first married did every sexual situation require me to share my past or thoughts. But, there were times as our marriage continued that my husband would ask me to do so. I found it fun and because he hardly could ever hold back when I would tell about a past encounter it pleased him and made me feel like a good wife.

The next time post honeymoon that I recall him bringing up about my past was when we were in bed and he asked to tell about my best sexual experience. Maybe that was a mistake because I have had to tell it many times since then. He loves me describing it. The best was with the man I lived with after divorce and dating. Retrospectively, I don’t know what I was thinking as he was not someone I think deep down I knew would never be a permanent relationship. But I shared with my husband the following:

He was the pure definition of a Latin lover. He was Spanish and he knew how to do oral on a woman. He would take his time and really get into it. Plus, if you wanted to talk about size; his penis was like a salami in thickness. I don’t think he was as long as my first husband maybe an inch less but very wide in thickness where I could never wrap my hand fully around him and that was even a challenge if I held him when soft. When he fucked me I think the width stretched me so much it would have my vaginal lips pull on my clit when he pumped in and out. So, the first time we had sex, seeing his penis, and then feeling it was so hot and intense that I had several orgasms. To date he definitely had the biggest penis of any man in total combination. Yes, I told my husband it did fill me like no other and was long enough to reach the bottom. But, it was that thickness which made so much difference. Again my husband would make me compare his penis by taking a tape measure and wrapping it around him but to equal the thickness of that man. So it had plenty of area not touching my husband’s penis so he could see the tremendous difference. In fact, it kind of in a negative way make me realize just how much smaller my husband was endowed. Sharing this and other stories always had my husband pretty much unable to control his release because of how it turned him on to hear. I still don't understand this.

I could share some more experiences as I did over the years of our marriage but things developed that I will jump to. First, now my husband when we have sex I have to often (not always) tell him his penis is too small to really satisfy me. In some actual ways this type of focus over time did make me realize there literally was some truth to that in general. However, when my husband would be fucking me and I wanted him to cum it was when I would more often than not talk about wanting to be with a much better hung man than him, his couldn't fill me or reach deep, etc. This really turns him on to hear. Again, I have never fully understand this thing with guys but he has shown me some of these videos of women discussing their lovers lack of a good size penis and needing more. Well, eventually this talk lead to him wanting me to have that experience once again for real.

So again before I continue, explain to me once more why seeing or hearing about your spouse with a bigger penis than your own is a desire whether real of imagined?

I can only tell you my experience. Depending on your perspective of size, I am either average or slightly above. Although, I definitely enjoy SPH, cuckholding and various other humiliation kinks. I like to role play that I am much smaller endowed. For me it's often a source of loss of power and allowing the woman or SO to have power over me. To me strong, assertive women are extremely sexy to me, so the idea that I can't satisfy her turns me on. Where that comes from, I can't quite explain, only how it makes me feel. Growing up, I always had a weird fascination with mean girls, especially fictional characters. I always imagined them belittling me and forcing me to watch them with other men or at the very least making me listen to stories about them. I fully admit it's not healthy to have such negative feelings and actually be turned on by it, but I can't help what I like.

I compare it to women with rape fantasies. I don't think women actually want to be raped, but there are plenty of women who enjoy giving up control to men and feeling totally dominated in some cases in very graphic and violent ways, but always with the knowledge that it's something they want and can sort of control.

I think it's definitely easy for fantasies to go too far and so I think with anything, it's important to maintain a balance and certain level of respect and safety that is well known outside of the fantasy aspect. But I also try not to dismiss anyone's fantasy. I think one of the hardest aspects of SPH, cuckholding and other humiliation kinks is finding an understanding partner that will both engage your fantasy and will also not judge you for such an unorthodox kink. It's not easy, but is a good sign that you really care about that person.

I also want to add something very important that I think the partners new to this often have trouble understanding. The humiliation really does connect with us as something pleasurable. Often times there is nothing you can say (within reason) that will hurt our feelings. For most of us the meaner the better. Depending on how deep into the fantasy you're.

I'm currently working through it with my current partner. She's expressed some concerns and has only asked that we do it as something complimentary to the relationship and not the crutch. Which I'm adjusting to. I want her to be happy too. She used to tell me, she would do whatever makes me feel good, but I don't like thinking she's just doing it for me, if it makes her even a little uncomfortable. That's why I always say, communication and compromise is always important in any relationship.

 

[trulybig]

Over the years that we have been married, it remains the case that often my husband likes me to comment about his smaller penis as compared to much larger ones I have experienced and how I need more than his small size to please me fully. One day he surprised me when we were in bed when producing a large black dildo sex toy. He had me hold it against his erect penis talking about how this was a real man’s cock versus his small one. He decided to test out his issue on size by first fucking me for a few minutes and then having me compare the sensation by his using the bigger dildo on me. Now, the truth is the real thing to me feels better but I will also admit that the much bigger dildo you certainly feel it more at least at first. Then sometimes he would do it in the reverse where he would use the dildo on me first and then fuck me normally after I came from a combination of the dildo and oral first. I liked that progression much better. I think I am like most women that once it is feeling good, even something smaller still feels fine. Again, of course I could feel the difference but like I said once my pussy is feeling good it stays with you. I won’t deny I like sometimes the dildo a lot but best when also getting oral at the same time. My husband enjoyed it more when I would describe the involved feeling and places the dildo would reach that his penis didn’t. That was true and so I eventually learned that he would really enjoy me saying how the real thing would be better if it were big.

Recently, my husband called me into his home office to look at a couple nude picture of a black guy. The man was well built and had a very large penis even bigger than what my memory is of my first husband and pretty close to the thickness (maybe the same) as my Latin boyfriend. So, we are guessing a real 9” long and very thick. Anyway, my husband said he had been communicating with this black man for several months about our meeting as my husband wanted me to have sex with him and video the action. I didn’t like the idea at all and not because I am a prude, I wondered if I really enjoyed the sex would it ultimately ruin our marriage. It was one thing to talk about past encounters, but they were experiences that were over and not a threat to our marriage. My husband enjoyed hearing those past situations or me making fun of his penis size but watching me have sex with another man was an entirely different matter.

My husband kept on mentioning about meeting this guy, and then one day came home and told me he met him by himself. I was really surprised. He said they sat outside a Starbucks and just talked and my husband showed him a couple pictures of me. He said that this guy, Dave, thought I was real hot and definitely wanted to fuck me. My husband said that I would like him, he was polite, clean, discreet, and reasonable. I asked why he met him like that and he said he just wanted to make sure he was OK. My husband again pushed for me to meet him and I said I would agree only to a meeting like they had at a public but private place to chat, nothing else. I really didn't desire to meet but my husband seems so desirable towards this and I thoujght meeting might end further discussion. However, after I agreed, that evening my husband fucked me so hard and fast that it was pretty hot with him excited by the whole thing.

It took a few weeks to work out a schedule where we all did subsequently sit down for a meeting. I found Dave not as physically attractive as I had imagined but he was for me the most important aspect very clean. I pay attention to things like clean finger nails, manners, etc. and he possessed all those qualities. We hardly spoke about sex at all during our meeting and I was pretty shy. I just didn’t know what to say. My husband did most of the talking. However, I did kind of imagine while sitting there or trying to picture from my memory of the nude photo what it would be like to have sex with this black man. My fantasies were more about him dominating and taking over sexually versus just him having a big penis. However, my husband when we were finishing our talk together said something questioning or confirming the nude picture were of him, right? Dave told us to come with him to his truck for a minute and he will show us. I said this was unnecessary and I felt uncomfortable, but my husband sort of encouraged us to do so. My husband and I had to sit together in the passenger seat as there wasn’t a lot of room and Dave got in, shut the door and without the slightest hesitation pulled off his pants and underwear revealing a snake. It was a very big uncircumcised penis and he took hold of it and pulled or stretched it out a bit. My husband said wow that is legit but I was so embarrassed. Dave told me I could touch it and honestly I didn’t really want to but just went ahead and gave it a squeeze. OK it was huge and it surprised me that the foreskin rolled back on its own. OK, I said, and moved my body to get out after letting go. My husband wanted me to do more but I said no not in public like this. I am sure Dave wanted more but also didn’t want to upset me so he pulled his pants back up.

We left and went home and my husband couldn’t wait to have sex. He didn’t even do any preliminaries and just pushed his penis inside. I kind of smiled to myself that this was one advantage of being married to a man with a smaller penis. It felt good but if this had been my first husband or my live in Latin, it would have been a struggle and painful without lubrication and not being warmed up first. My husband insisted in telling me to describe in detail what I a penis like Dave’s would feel like compared with his. I said it would feel really big and stretch me. He said it would feel better than mine, right? I joked that he better watch out because I might never be satisfied by him again. He moaned and came right away. I don’t think he even lasted a full minute. I thought to myself he is really serious about doing this but I felt it could be a big mistake. Do you think it was going to be a mistake? (To be continued)

 

[amazzzed2]

Same here. My wifes first big one was her HS boyfriend. Sex at that age is very intense and the fact that he was hung made it more exciting. I've even met the guy at past HS reunions and can say we hit it off even playing golf together. I love to think of her being so sexual and enjoying his size.

Very interesting!
Do you think your wife would like to explore being sexual with him again?

 

[amazzzed2]

I can only tell you my experience. Depending on your perspective of size, I am either average or slightly above. Although, I definitely enjoy SPH, cuckholding and various other humiliation kinks. I like to role play that I am much smaller endowed. For me it's often a source of loss of power and allowing the woman or SO to have power over me. To me strong, assertive women are extremely sexy to me, so the idea that I can't satisfy her turns me on. Where that comes from, I can't quite explain, only how it makes me feel. Growing up, I always had a weird fascination with mean girls, especially fictional characters. I always imagined them belittling me and forcing me to watch them with other men or at the very least making me listen to stories about them. I fully admit it's not healthy to have such negative feelings and actually be turned on by it, but I can't help what I like.

I compare it to women with rape fantasies. I don't think women actually want to be raped, but there are plenty of women who enjoy giving up control to men and feeling totally dominated in some cases in very graphic and violent ways, but always with the knowledge that it's something they want and can sort of control.

I think it's definitely easy for fantasies to go too far and so I think with anything, it's important to maintain a balance and certain level of respect and safety that is well known outside of the fantasy aspect. But I also try not to dismiss anyone's fantasy. I think one of the hardest aspects of SPH, cuckholding and other humiliation kinks is finding an understanding partner that will both engage your fantasy and will also not judge you for such an unorthodox kink. It's not easy, but is a good sign that you really care about that person.

I also want to add something very important that I think the partners new to this often have trouble understanding. The humiliation really does connect with us as something pleasurable. Often times there is nothing you can say (within reason) that will hurt our feelings. For most of us the meaner the better. Depending on how deep into the fantasy you're.

I'm currently working through it with my current partner. She's expressed some concerns and has only asked that we do it as something complimentary to the relationship and not the crutch. Which I'm adjusting to. I want her to be happy too. She used to tell me, she would do whatever makes me feel good, but I don't like thinking she's just doing it for me, if it makes her even a little uncomfortable. That's why I always say, communication and compromise is always important in any relationship.

Very clear and insightful perspective on all of this.
I definitely feel the same way.
Hope you continue to be successful with this in your relationship.

 

[inozzyflames]

Hot story!!!!!

 

[FLhusband50]

Very interesting!
Do you think your wife would like to explore being sexual with him again?

She says no. I believe her. Plus she said as appealing as his big dick is there were other hung guys she had better sex with lol. But I do love the stories she tells me.

 

[Derringer]

Over the years that we have been married, it remains the case that often my husband likes me to comment about his smaller penis as compared to much larger ones I have experienced and how I need more than his small size to please me fully. One day he surprised me when we were in bed when producing a large black dildo sex toy. He had me hold it against his erect penis talking about how this was a real man’s cock versus his small one. He decided to test out his issue on size by first fucking me for a few minutes and then having me compare the sensation by his using the bigger dildo on me. Now, the truth is the real thing to me feels better but I will also admit that the much bigger dildo you certainly feel it more at least at first. Then sometimes he would do it in the reverse where he would use the dildo on me first and then fuck me normally after I came from a combination of the dildo and oral first. I liked that progression much better. I think I am like most women that once it is feeling good, even something smaller still feels fine. Again, of course I could feel the difference but like I said once my pussy is feeling good it stays with you. I won’t deny I like sometimes the dildo a lot but best when also getting oral at the same time. My husband enjoyed it more when I would describe the involved feeling and places the dildo would reach that his penis didn’t. That was true and so I eventually learned that he would really enjoy me saying how the real thing would be better if it were big.

Recently, my husband called me into his home office to look at a couple nude picture of a black guy. The man was well built and had a very large penis even bigger than what my memory is of my first husband and pretty close to the thickness (maybe the same) as my Latin boyfriend. So, we are guessing a real 9” long and very thick. Anyway, my husband said he had been communicating with this black man for several months about our meeting as my husband wanted me to have sex with him and video the action. I didn’t like the idea at all and not because I am a prude, I wondered if I really enjoyed the sex would it ultimately ruin our marriage. It was one thing to talk about past encounters, but they were experiences that were over and not a threat to our marriage. My husband enjoyed hearing those past situations or me making fun of his penis size but watching me have sex with another man was an entirely different matter.

My husband kept on mentioning about meeting this guy, and then one day came home and told me he met him by himself. I was really surprised. He said they sat outside a Starbucks and just talked and my husband showed him a couple pictures of me. He said that this guy, Dave, thought I was real hot and definitely wanted to fuck me. My husband said that I would like him, he was polite, clean, discreet, and reasonable. I asked why he met him like that and he said he just wanted to make sure he was OK. My husband again pushed for me to meet him and I said I would agree only to a meeting like they had at a public but private place to chat, nothing else. I really didn't desire to meet but my husband seems so desirable towards this and I thoujght meeting might end further discussion. However, after I agreed, that evening my husband fucked me so hard and fast that it was pretty hot with him excited by the whole thing.

It took a few weeks to work out a schedule where we all did subsequently sit down for a meeting. I found Dave not as physically attractive as I had imagined but he was for me the most important aspect very clean. I pay attention to things like clean finger nails, manners, etc. and he possessed all those qualities. We hardly spoke about sex at all during our meeting and I was pretty shy. I just didn’t know what to say. My husband did most of the talking. However, I did kind of imagine while sitting there or trying to picture from my memory of the nude photo what it would be like to have sex with this black man. My fantasies were more about him dominating and taking over sexually versus just him having a big penis. However, my husband when we were finishing our talk together said something questioning or confirming the nude picture were of him, right? Dave told us to come with him to his truck for a minute and he will show us. I said this was unnecessary and I felt uncomfortable, but my husband sort of encouraged us to do so. My husband and I had to sit together in the passenger seat as there wasn’t a lot of room and Dave got in, shut the door and without the slightest hesitation pulled off his pants and underwear revealing a snake. It was a very big uncircumcised penis and he took hold of it and pulled or stretched it out a bit. My husband said wow that is legit but I was so embarrassed. Dave told me I could touch it and honestly I didn’t really want to but just went ahead and gave it a squeeze. OK it was huge and it surprised me that the foreskin rolled back on its own. OK, I said, and moved my body to get out after letting go. My husband wanted me to do more but I said no not in public like this. I am sure Dave wanted more but also didn’t want to upset me so he pulled his pants back up.

We left and went home and my husband couldn’t wait to have sex. He didn’t even do any preliminaries and just pushed his penis inside. I kind of smiled to myself that this was one advantage of being married to a man with a smaller penis. It felt good but if this had been my first husband or my live in Latin, it would have been a struggle and painful without lubrication and not being warmed up first. My husband insisted in telling me to describe in detail what I a penis like Dave’s would feel like compared with his. I said it would feel really big and stretch me. He said it would feel better than mine, right? I joked that he better watch out because I might never be satisfied by him again. He moaned and came right away. I don’t think he even lasted a full minute. I thought to myself he is really serious about doing this but I felt it could be a big mistake. Do you think it was going to be a mistake? (To be continued)

Most women don't totally get the SPH thing and are at least initially reluctant to cause any offence verbally or actively. However I have been hooked up with three different ones over the past decade who have been very accommodating and understood that I only get enjoyment from numerous seemingly humiliating scenarios in regards to my lack of manhood compared to other guys.
I love being outmanned and dominated in front of them even if it is not intentional or accidental (i.e. Exposed and compared to other guys in an unplanned skinny dipping or when I was pantsed at a pool party etc)
Of course the cuck and semi cuck activity I have been party to has been directly physically beneficial to various partners.