I think he cheated..

[texis]

I’m extremely emotional right now so please excuse any typos…

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. He is bisexual and we agreed to be open ONLY IF he had sex with women and women ONLY. I am not threatened by a woman. In return, he pays the rent and my food. I don’t sleep with anyone else, but I do look at porn.

I wanted to surprise him for his birthday yesterday. I waited until he left to get lunch and I came home early to decorate our bedroom… What I found broke my heart.

I found a condom in the trash, which I normally find sexy. BUT I also found lube and a towel with poop chunks on it. It’s clear to me he did anal with a MAN. Why else would there be shit marks and lube on a towel?? I’m not stupid.

I checked our ring camera and never saw someone come in, but we live on the first floor so maybe they used a window? I confronted him and he is saying i’m crazy and that the condom is old. I don’t believe him, but I accepted his story to not ruin his birthday.

I’m sad. While we had sex last night, all I could think about is my boyfriend’s dick in a twink. I’m disgusted. I’m not sure how to move on. Any help? I want to believe him, but the story doesn’t add up.

 

[PenRich23]

Given the inconsistences and unresolved concerns, if what he says sounds too good to be true, it probably is. If he had at least said he gave anal to a woman that at least in principle would cover up a lie, but he just said it was old... so down to you on how you interrupt the facts and what he says.

 

[pluscachange]

I don’t believe him, but I accepted his story to not ruin his birthday.

That was very magnanimous of you.

I’m sad. While we had sex last night, all I could think about is my boyfriend’s dick in a twink. I’m disgusted. I’m not sure how to move on.

You had sex with him regardless of how you were feeling about his possible infidelity? In today's world, having sex with someone you think cheated on you means you forgive him or you're giving him your consent for him to have further encounters with other men.

I confronted him and he is saying i’m crazy and that the condom is old.

How many men have you known in your life who still have used condoms around after 7 months? If it really was sitting the trash that long, you really need to have a chat with your housekeeper about her laziness.

 

[Steevh]

aww Dude, can see you are in a bad place. First off, porn not a bad thing and definitely not cheating so no need to bring it up. It may be worth wondering why you did. If someone has said it’s ‘like cheating’ then that’s just controlling behaviour. You look cute, I can’t think why he would cheat on you, but enough of my bad flirting…

it Sounds like a trust issue, these are not good and not easily resolved. But not as hard as a relationship where he thinks he can do what he wants. Very brave and accepting of you to allow the fun when you are not there, but has that allowed the floodgates for other adventures for him? It may not matter as I mentioned above, the trust issue may be hard to get over.

 

[hzs3fg]

Do you all own any dildos or similar toys? Lots of people use condoms on their toys - especially anal - to make cleanup easier.

 

[mrsarkast]

Do you all own any dildos or similar toys? Lots of people use condoms on their toys - especially anal - to make cleanup easier.

This was my immediate thought. I have always strictly been a top and like the roleplay in bed and can go quite dominant in bed. I would hate for someone Im fucking to think of mein any other matter. Lately I have started getting more curious and would probably be sneeking around with any such actions.

Also how/why would he be so careless att to leave things uncleaned in the matter you found it?

 

[ILoveGames48]

I tell you what could happen with the towel maybe it was his poop.. maybe he had an accident and cleaned up and didn’t want to tell you because it was embarrassing

I am here to say if you don’t trust him you need to make sure that is for a reason and not in your mind ..

Jealousy can ruin a relationship

 

[dreamer20]

My boyfriend and I dating 7 months. We agreed to be open ONLY IF he had sex with women. I am not threatened by a woman. In return, he pays the rent and my food...to surprise him for his birthday.. I came home to decorate our bedroom… What I found broke my heart. I found a condom in the trash, which I normally find sexy. BUT I also found lube and a towel with poop chunks on it. It’s clear to me he did anal with a MAN. Why else would there be shit marks and lube on a towel?? I’m not stupid.
I checked our ring camera and never saw someone come in...I confronted him and he is saying i’m crazy...I don’t believe him, but I accepted his story to not ruin his birthday.
I’m sad. I’m disgusted. I’m not sure how to move on. Any help? I want to believe him, but the story doesn’t add up.

I'm going to refer to your boyfriend as Emperor Wang. You willingly took on the role of Wang's concubine - happy to gain free food and lodging, yet secretly unhappy he had sex with whomever he desired in return. Re: the condom and towel: A condom can indeed be placed over sex toys and a towel used for cleaning up afterward. Your suspicions were unfounded. You're too insecure and suspicious to be involved in open relationships IMO. As you can't cope with being a concubine, ask if Wang would be willing to be in a closed relationship with you instead.

 

[ILoveGames48]

If he isnt a guy you can trust .. and not be able to be with him without worrying if he is cheating on you… dump him..

BUT. if it’s your insecurities then look within yourself and make sure it’s him and not you