Hey there guys. First time posting here. To be honest, I actually joined this forum because of this topic. I've been having some "interesting" interactions with a friend of mine recently (let's call him M) and I was wondering if I could get an outside perspective.
So M and I connected via Instagram after we were supposed to work together on a project that didn't end up happening (we're both film guys). And though we don't live in the same state, M would hit me up every couple months to say "hi." He seemed nice enough, but early in 2024, we started talking a little more frequently. It was then that he casually dropped that he's bi. I'd sort of made a vague reference or two to being gay before this, but it was the first time we had ever discussed sexuality in any way. Truth be told, it was a nice, honest conversation.
Now, after that, we seemed to connect a bit more. I'll admit, there was a bit of a spark, but M is married so I obviously don't want to push things. He did seem to loosen up around me, though, talking a bit more frequently about his history with men. When we finally talked on the phone, he mentioned how I had a "gorgeous" speaking voice, has complimented me a lot and even wrote me a poem when I was feeling crappy.
I feel like there's something there, but I don't want to be scummy and pursue a married man. I also don't want to read into something that's not there, if maybe this supposed attraction is all in my head. On the off chance he "is" hitting on me, what do I do? I have no idea how to approach the topic of his relationship with his wife because every time we "start" to go down that road, it's always coy hints. We never fully get there.
I don't know. It's all so confusing. What do you guys think? Has anyone been through anything similar?
So M and I connected via Instagram after we were supposed to work together on a project that didn't end up happening (we're both film guys). And though we don't live in the same state, M would hit me up every couple months to say "hi." He seemed nice enough, but early in 2024, we started talking a little more frequently. It was then that he casually dropped that he's bi. I'd sort of made a vague reference or two to being gay before this, but it was the first time we had ever discussed sexuality in any way. Truth be told, it was a nice, honest conversation.
Now, after that, we seemed to connect a bit more. I'll admit, there was a bit of a spark, but M is married so I obviously don't want to push things. He did seem to loosen up around me, though, talking a bit more frequently about his history with men. When we finally talked on the phone, he mentioned how I had a "gorgeous" speaking voice, has complimented me a lot and even wrote me a poem when I was feeling crappy.
I feel like there's something there, but I don't want to be scummy and pursue a married man. I also don't want to read into something that's not there, if maybe this supposed attraction is all in my head. On the off chance he "is" hitting on me, what do I do? I have no idea how to approach the topic of his relationship with his wife because every time we "start" to go down that road, it's always coy hints. We never fully get there.
I don't know. It's all so confusing. What do you guys think? Has anyone been through anything similar?
