I want an Obsessive BOTTOM boyfriend. What site do you think I could find this on?

[JoeWinko4Ever]

Before I explain this, I just want to say, that I ONLY HAVE ONE QUESTION FOR ALL OF YOU:

Where do you think I can find a CRAZY OBSESSIVE BOTTOM GUY WHO'D WANT TO BE MY LOVER/BOYFRIEND? WHAT SITE OR APP DO YOU THINK I COULD FIND THAT ON?

I already know what A LOT of you guys are going to say when you read that question: "Joe! You do not want an Obsessive Man! This is a Bad Idea" or "maybe if you were a better person, you'd be able to find a guy who won't ghost you"
I HAVE HEARD IT ALL BEFORE! KEEP IT TO YOURSELF, I DO NOT NEED TO HEAR IT AGAIN, BECAUSE IT'S ONLY GOING TO STRIKE A NERVE!
All I'm asking for, is what site do you think I would most likely end up crossing paths with a Crazy Obsessive Man ⛤
if you have nothing nice to say, keep it to yourself & move on please...

Here's more background info:
First of all, I am crazy myself, so it only makes sense for me to find ANOTHER crazy man to be with (I was diagnosed with Autism as a teenager). I honestly have always wanted this for a maddeningly long time... back when I was a kid, i lived with my adoptive parents & my adoptive mother always use to watch crime documentaries about girls who posted pictures of themselves online & a crazy man becoming Obsessed with them & wanting to be with them & doing crazy stuff to be with them. THAT'S WHEN I REALIZED I WANTED AN OBSESSIVE BOYFRIEND!

I have been posting shirtless videos & pictures online for a maddeningly long time but I have yet to find a true crazy Obsessed man... You can see them all here: winko567

I do get a lot of thirsty ass bastards who leave comments on my pictures & tell me how "sexy I am" yet they virtually NEVER have any actual intention on meeting me... I EVEN GIVE OUT MY PHONE NUMBER LIKE FUCKING CANDY ONLINE, YET EVERY SINGLE FUCKING GUY I GIVE IT TOO IS ALWAYS SCARED TO CALL ME FOR SOME STUPID REASON, BECAUSE IRONICALLY THEY THINK THAT I WILL STALK THEM. Which is actually fucking stupid, because I'm too busy trying to find a crazy man to become my Obsessive Lover instead. & there are guys who do text me, BUT THEY NEVER CALL ME AT ALL & i forget about them quickly because they're too stupid to call me for some reason. (if a guy was truely obsessed with me, there's no way I would ever forget him...)

I JUST NEED A MAN WHO IS A BOTTOM BECAUSE I DO NOT SUCK PENIS & I CAN'T TAKE IT UP THE ASS!

I talk more about that in this video here (this is when I finally started saying directly in my videos):

& ontop of that, guys ALWAYS ghost me all the fucking time & are quick to drop me like a hot brick either because
1.) i don't reply to their stupid text messages soon enough
2.) they see something I posted on youtube they they don't like at all...
& the list goes on & on & on

I talk to HUNDREDS of men every day & you won't believe how much stupidity I run into, BUT NOT ONE GUY WHO IS CRAZY & OBSESSIVE! you would think I would have found that by now???

I know that a lot of people have a fantasy of having an obsessed clingy lover, but to them it's just a fantasy, TO ME, I ACTUALLY FUCKING MEAN IT! It would warm my heart if I met a crazy Obsessive man who'd constantly want to suck my Penis all the time & be connected to me ♥ & who would want to take me on long drives with him ♥ & be my number 1 fan & my lover ♥
⛤ IT WILL ABSOLUTELY HAPPEN I CAN FEEL IT! ⛤
I ALSO DO NOT CARE WHAT HE LOOKS LIKE! but I do perfer for him to at least look older than I am, and/or BE OLDER THAN I AM! & as long as he IS NOT a "funny guy" who has to tell a joke every 3 minutes. I HATE FUNNY GUYS WITH AN EXTREME PASSION! ️

I know that Everyone here likely has tons of stuff to say to me & tons of criticism to give me, BUT FOR THE LOVE OF FUCKING GOD, KEEP IT TO YOURSELF! I AM NOT INTERESTED IN HEARING ANY OF IT, BECAUSE I 100% LIKELY HAVE ALREADY HEARD IT BEFORE...

I JUST NEED AN ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION:

Where do you think I can find a CRAZY OBSESSIVE BOTTOM GUY WHO'D WANT TO BE MY LOVER/BOYFRIEND? WHAT SITE OR APP DO YOU THINK I COULD FIND THAT ON?

Also, my name is Joe Winko by the way.

 

[ILoveGames48]

I don’t know any apps with that specific of type of dating or sex buddy


I do know I am a versatile guy .. but being more bottom than anything.. I have enjoyed many cocks pounding my ass over and over.. I’ve been addicted to being fucked for as long as I can remember .. when taking a few at one night each filling me up.. I enjoy feeling their cum inside me and oozing out as it runs out of my hole just to be used as lube for the next fucking about to receive ..

 

[WilliamG]

In my neck of the woods... The world is majority bottom. On my local Sniffies app there is one dick pic for every 5 ass profile pic. This needs to change!

 

[billybones]

one collapsed In the front yard crying. one cut his wrist. one drag across the parking lot because he wouldn’t unwrap his arms from around my waist. if that sounds like bragging, you are sickly, sorely wrong.

 

[froyo]

i’ve never commented here but i came across your post and it’s quite interesting. no judgement here just my two cents

i’ve had MANY experiences with guys being totally obsessed with me. i met most of them in my teenage years and they still managed to text me all the time 10+ years later since i ghosted them completely. One guy was in jail for some reason and he wrote his friend a letter from jail, with my phone number on it, just to ask him to write to me bc he didn’t have my address.

these guys were flings to me and i never take them seriously, even tho they thought we’re boyfriends. i did give them the closure they needed and i told them not to contact me again, then here’s when the obsession started. i won’t block them, so they’d know i might see whatever they wrote me, but i never call/text back. occasionally you can show them some sort of response, like making your socials public for a while, knowing fully they’d stalk on your profile instantly.

i obviously don’t want someone obessive. i guess this is why i resonate with the show Baby Reindeer so much, bc i have a similar complicated sentiment. i couldn’t care less about these guys, but they gave me a unique experience that other guys can’t. It’s not an ego thing, there’s something more to that.

back to the topic. if this is what you really want, my advice is to be completely opposite of an obsessive guy. i can tell you’re emotional, desperate and lonely - which are all the qualities of an obsessive guy. opposites do attract, push pull always works, it’s how we’re wired. find your own happiness and be mentally strong. don’t chase, guys will come to you.

 

[mitchellk]

i’ve never commented here but i came across your post and it’s quite interesting. no judgement here just my two cents

i’ve had MANY experiences with guys being totally obsessed with me. i met most of them in my teenage years and they still managed to text me all the time 10+ years later since i ghosted them completely. One guy was in jail for some reason and he wrote his friend a letter from jail, with my phone number on it, just to ask him to write to me bc he didn’t have my address.

these guys were flings to me and i never take them seriously, even tho they thought we’re boyfriends. i did give them the closure they needed and i told them not to contact me again, then here’s when the obsession started. i won’t block them, so they’d know i might see whatever they wrote me, but i never call/text back. occasionally you can show them some sort of response, like making your socials public for a while, knowing fully they’d stalk on your profile instantly.

i obviously don’t want someone obessive. i guess this is why i resonate with the show Baby Reindeer so much, bc i have a similar complicated sentiment. i couldn’t care less about these guys, but they gave me a unique experience that other guys can’t. It’s not an ego thing, there’s something more to that.

back to the topic. if this is what you really want, my advice is to be completely opposite of an obsessive guy. i can tell you’re emotional, desperate and lonely - which are all the qualities of an obsessive guy. opposites do attract, push pull always works, it’s how we’re wired. find your own happiness and be mentally strong. don’t chase, guys will come to you.

I agree with Froyo. Use your autism to your advantage and really plan this one out, you have to be strategic. Most people live in a fantasy that they call life and within that fantasy they have sexual needs and desires. So it's about playing into that fantasy. You do come off as needy and desperate because you are being honest about wanting to be with someone and most people like men who are "unavailable." I'm sure if you went on an app and said you had a girlfriend but wanted to try getting head from a dude, hooked up, ignored the guy, then texted him that you are disgusted by him but it feels too good to ignore and your girlfriend is on her period and doesn't put out, you will have a willing cocksucker at your beck and call. Then over time evolve into a situation where they are sucking you all the time. It sounds annoying and fake, but it definitely works. I say this as a bi dude...when I was an honest man about wanting to be with them, dudes were like 'you're too nice", when I cock slapped them and blocked their numbers for weeks at a time, they stalked me. Toxic is the word, but not necessarily the cure.

The other thing to keep in mind, however, is chemistry. I have a very specific type of dude I tend to go for -- street smart/intelligent, will kill someone for his family but is sane enough to live in society, cocky but not mean, angry about inequality but functional enough to not rob a bank to fund a leftist revolution, calls me a stupid whore during sex even though I am type A and make a lot of money, and has a nice smile. Add Cubano, Louisiana white, Black nerd, Asian thug from Vancouver, Bahia Brasilian, or a talented musician to that personality and I might obsess over him. But you kind of have to get out into the world and meet guys to see if there is chemical connection. For example, apps can't predict pheromones. My ex liked the smell of my bush and taste of my nut so he sucked my dick at least two times a day for about 4 years. Another guy (referenced above) liked how I called him a throat slut and would whimper when I slapped him with my dick, I could call him now and he'd leave work to come serve me. I find slaves boring though, so it doesn't tend to work out.

Final point, it may be too late but stop telling people what you want at the beginning. It eliminates mystery. People like mystery and call it romance. Play up the autistic virgin thing, "question" whether or not you can truly feel love, something that gets people wanting to save you or ruin you. You are the best, good luck.

 

[PozPigJock]

Hey bro the answer is one here bruh cuz it’s me bro!! Yeeeuuuhh dude I’m so about all that shit man Yus please

 

[JoeWinko4Ever]

Hey bro the answer is one here bruh cuz it’s me bro!! Yeeeuuuhh dude I’m so about all that shit man Yus please

but you never messaged me at all...

 

[JoeWinko4Ever]

back to the topic. if this is what you really want, my advice is to be completely opposite of an obsessive guy. i can tell you’re emotional, desperate and lonely - which are all the qualities of an obsessive guy. opposites do attract, push pull always works, it’s how we’re wired. find your own happiness and be mentally strong. don’t chase, guys will come to you.

i've actually NEVER chased after anyone, that's kinda while im still alone. if a guy doesn't like me, it's my first instinct to go back out & find another one instead.
desperate? i definately wouldn't say so. i don't suck penis or take it up the ass & I NEVER do anything I don't like doing. Also, when a guy angers me, i let him know right away & don't care if he ditches me after.
I figured with having HUNDREDS of shirtless videos on youtube i would attract an Obsessive Guy, but havent seemed to at all for some stupid reason some guys are too stupid to talk to me because they feel insecure that i won't like them (I had A LOT of guys tell me that...)

 

[JoeWinko4Ever]

one collapsed In the front yard crying. one cut his wrist. one drag across the parking lot because he wouldn’t unwrap his arms from around my waist. if that sounds like bragging, you are sickly, sorely wrong.

i assumming you actually watched the video & read up about the stalker story i linked...
yeah, if i was the one who had the Obsessive Guy, IT WOULD HAVE NOT ENDED LIKE THAT. I would have appreciated his Obsession & constant contact, JUST AS LONG AS I WAS THE PITCHER ALL THE TIME & NEVER THE CATCHER but with a guy who actually does like me that much, I obviously would be the top.

 

[JoeWinko4Ever]

Final point, it may be too late but stop telling people what you want at the beginning. It eliminates mystery. People like mystery and call it romance. Play up the autistic virgin thing, "question" whether or not you can truly feel love, something that gets people wanting to save you or ruin you. You are the best, good luck.

No offense, BUT THERE IS NO WAY IN HELL I WILL EVER DO THAT! I make it VERY CLEAR what I'm looking for & what I want and expect the other guy to do the same! If a guy is turned on by mystery & ditches me because i'm too open about what I want, that's his problem & he isn't worth my time!

I WILL FIND WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR ⛤
But No way in hell i'm going to play stupid... No offense but just saying.

 

[mitchellk]

No offense, BUT THERE IS NO WAY IN HELL I WILL EVER DO THAT! I make it VERY CLEAR what I'm looking for & what I want and expect the other guy to do the same! If a guy is turned on by mystery & ditches me because i'm too open about what I want, that's his problem & he isn't worth my time!

I WILL FIND WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR ⛤
But No way in hell i'm going to play stupid... No offense but just saying.

You're actually not playing stupid, you a smart person living in a stupid world. I know you'll find what you are looking for, just keep going.

 

[JoeWinko4Ever]

You're actually not playing stupid, you a smart person living in a stupid world. I know you'll find what you are looking for, just keep going.

thank you ♥ sorry for snapping earlier.
& YES! ⛤ I ABSOLUTELY WILL FIND WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR ⛤ SO MOTE IT BE ⛤

 

[JoeWinko4Ever]

by the way, i did not recieve any helpful advice here...
The question wasn't HOW
I was asking WHERE

 

[deleted19462351]

Grindr, but not all of them are hot.

 

[therebrand]

Before I explain this, I just want to say, that I ONLY HAVE ONE QUESTION FOR ALL OF YOU:

Where do you think I can find a CRAZY OBSESSIVE BOTTOM GUY WHO'D WANT TO BE MY LOVER/BOYFRIEND? WHAT SITE OR APP DO YOU THINK I COULD FIND THAT ON?

I already know what A LOT of you guys are going to say when you read that question: "Joe! You do not want an Obsessive Man! This is a Bad Idea" or "maybe if you were a better person, you'd be able to find a guy who won't ghost you"
I HAVE HEARD IT ALL BEFORE! KEEP IT TO YOURSELF, I DO NOT NEED TO HEAR IT AGAIN, BECAUSE IT'S ONLY GOING TO STRIKE A NERVE!
All I'm asking for, is what site do you think I would most likely end up crossing paths with a Crazy Obsessive Man ⛤
if you have nothing nice to say, keep it to yourself & move on please...

Here's more background info:
First of all, I am crazy myself, so it only makes sense for me to find ANOTHER crazy man to be with (I was diagnosed with Autism as a teenager). I honestly have always wanted this for a maddeningly long time... back when I was a kid, i lived with my adoptive parents & my adoptive mother always use to watch crime documentaries about girls who posted pictures of themselves online & a crazy man becoming Obsessed with them & wanting to be with them & doing crazy stuff to be with them. THAT'S WHEN I REALIZED I WANTED AN OBSESSIVE BOYFRIEND!

I have been posting shirtless videos & pictures online for a maddeningly long time but I have yet to find a true crazy Obsessed man... You can see them all here: winko567

I do get a lot of thirsty ass bastards who leave comments on my pictures & tell me how "sexy I am" yet they virtually NEVER have any actual intention on meeting me... I EVEN GIVE OUT MY PHONE NUMBER LIKE FUCKING CANDY ONLINE, YET EVERY SINGLE FUCKING GUY I GIVE IT TOO IS ALWAYS SCARED TO CALL ME FOR SOME STUPID REASON, BECAUSE IRONICALLY THEY THINK THAT I WILL STALK THEM. Which is actually fucking stupid, because I'm too busy trying to find a crazy man to become my Obsessive Lover instead. & there are guys who do text me, BUT THEY NEVER CALL ME AT ALL & i forget about them quickly because they're too stupid to call me for some reason. (if a guy was truely obsessed with me, there's no way I would ever forget him...)

I JUST NEED A MAN WHO IS A BOTTOM BECAUSE I DO NOT SUCK PENIS & I CAN'T TAKE IT UP THE ASS!

I talk more about that in this video here (this is when I finally started saying directly in my videos):

& ontop of that, guys ALWAYS ghost me all the fucking time & are quick to drop me like a hot brick either because
1.) i don't reply to their stupid text messages soon enough
2.) they see something I posted on youtube they they don't like at all...
& the list goes on & on & on

I talk to HUNDREDS of men every day & you won't believe how much stupidity I run into, BUT NOT ONE GUY WHO IS CRAZY & OBSESSIVE! you would think I would have found that by now???

I know that a lot of people have a fantasy of having an obsessed clingy lover, but to them it's just a fantasy, TO ME, I ACTUALLY FUCKING MEAN IT! It would warm my heart if I met a crazy Obsessive man who'd constantly want to suck my Penis all the time & be connected to me ♥ & who would want to take me on long drives with him ♥ & be my number 1 fan & my lover ♥
⛤ IT WILL ABSOLUTELY HAPPEN I CAN FEEL IT! ⛤
I ALSO DO NOT CARE WHAT HE LOOKS LIKE! but I do perfer for him to at least look older than I am, and/or BE OLDER THAN I AM! & as long as he IS NOT a "funny guy" who has to tell a joke every 3 minutes. I HATE FUNNY GUYS WITH AN EXTREME PASSION! ️

I know that Everyone here likely has tons of stuff to say to me & tons of criticism to give me, BUT FOR THE LOVE OF FUCKING GOD, KEEP IT TO YOURSELF! I AM NOT INTERESTED IN HEARING ANY OF IT, BECAUSE I 100% LIKELY HAVE ALREADY HEARD IT BEFORE...

I JUST NEED AN ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION:

Where do you think I can find a CRAZY OBSESSIVE BOTTOM GUY WHO'D WANT TO BE MY LOVER/BOYFRIEND? WHAT SITE OR APP DO YOU THINK I COULD FIND THAT ON?

Also, my name is Joe Winko by the way.

I want the same thing.
All I get is narcissistic men who are emotionally unavailable.
And they all cheat on me, abuse me or both.
I'm a vers top who just wants a bottom boyfriend who is clingy.
But sometimes I just want a woman who understands me, because all men have shown me is anger, crying and heartbreak because I want to settle down and they want to cheat, party, smoke, drink and be out all night and all day.

I just want someone who is there for me when I need them, isn't closed off from the idea of meeting me in person (I stopped dating in person years ago and recently got back into hook-ups in person) and - if possible - is an abuse survivor themselves, so we have something to build a connection from or even understand each other in a different way more, based on it.
I'm an abuse survivor, so that might help.

I'm 28 and have been played and hurt by too many men - I just want a nice person, who's a gentleman, who's vulnerable and honest with me.
And most importantly, someone who doesn't judge my financial situation (two exes of mine are wealthy; class disparity and their mental abuse made me dump them).

Long story short, I need a bottom who is clingy and always needs my attention because my needs have always been avoided, but when everyone else needs help, I'm the first one bending over backwards to solve their problems.
I just want someone who not only supports me emotionally, but they understand and love me unconditionally.
I hate hooking up, and have started hooking up again recently, to avoid the sadness of wondering why I'm single, once again, and not in the dynamic I've always wanted: a taken, married man with a family and friends who would do anything to protect me.

But if we're talking about physical features, Englishmen and Irishmen are my weakness.
I'm a black American guy myself (and of partial Scotch-Welsh-English-Irish ancestry).

Is it too much to ask?