In your opinion, where does thick, wide, long, skinny begin, size wise?

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at what size do you start being "impressed"/"unimpressed (in the case of skinny)" (skinny) or consider impressive/unimpressive ( for skinny)
eg. "oh that's kinda fat .... oh that's pretty skinny" etc.


https :// www .lpsg. com /threads/thicker-always-better.313763/

 

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Choose 1 in EACH "category" (4 choices total) based on where good & bad Girth/Length begin

Just to be clear, the "categories" are:
1) Thick/Fat (3 options)
2) Skinny/Pencil Dick (3 options)
3) Long (2 options)
4) Wide (2 options)

So you'd select an option on the poll for each of the four (4 total selections)

 

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Tracey Cox reveals best sex positions to try if he's big or small | Daily Mail Online

The sex moves to suit YOUR partner's manhood! Tracey Cox reveals the best positions to try if he's bigger or smaller than average (and what women really want when it comes to size)

• Tracey Cox says we shouldn't worry so much about the size of 'our bits'
• The sex and relationship expert reveals the best positions for every size
• But first, she says 'get the attitude right' and many other problems will be sorted

By Tracey Cox For Mail Online

Published: 02:18 EDT, 17 July 2019 | Updated: 11:14 EDT, 17 July 2019

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We all worry too much about the size of our bits.

About 85 per cent of men think penis size is extremely important to women; most women think men want someone with vice-like vaginal muscles.

In reality, there's really only one instance when under or over-size genitals cause a problem: when the owner is so paranoid and insecure about it, they're constantly apologising.

That really is boring!

Get the attitude right and nearly all other problems can be sorted with a few adjustments.

Here's how balance your bits, if your man's either side of the norm.

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Tracey Cox reveals the best positions to try if he's bigger or smaller than average (stock photo)

HE'S UNDERSIZED

Contrary to popular opinion, some women prefer men who are less generously endowed. If you've got a cervix that's easily hit or are small yourself, it makes for much more comfortable sex.

Men with smaller penises are often better lovers, too, because they put more effort into developing their oral sex or manual masturbation skills.

With a spot of creativity, undersize seriously isn't an issue. Besides, the majority of the nerve endings are in the first third of the vaginal canal and nearly all penises fill the first two inches.

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Tracey Cox (pictured) also reveals what women really want when it comes to size

THE BEST MOVES

If he asks, reassure

If he's seriously under average, it's pointless protesting otherwise. Instead say, 'I like the way we fit together'. Or, 'I never orgasm from penetration anyway. Oral sex is way more important for me – and you're brilliant at that'.

Don't make too much of a big deal about it. The less fuss you make, the less insecure he'll feel.

Whenever he asks, tell him the size of his penis really doesn't worry you, so it shouldn't worry him. Repeat this every time he brings it up then change the subject. Don't let him obsess.

Have an orgasm before penetration

Penetration isn't the main event for women anyway – most of us can't orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. Let him bring you to orgasm first, using his hands, tongue or a sex toy, to take the pressure off completely.

A 69er works really well with a man with a penis that's on the small side.

Add a vibrator to any position you choose

The vaginal canal has nerve endings, but the clitoris has way more. Keep the focus on clitoral stimulation and it won't matter how much of the vaginal wall makes contact.

Go easy on the lube

Use enough to make you comfortable, but not too much or you'll lose what friction there is.

THE MOST ASKED QUESTIONS ABOUT PENIS SIZE
How big is the average penis?

Measurements vary depending on the source. The average of all the wildly varying statistics for an erect penis is around 5 to 5.5 inches long and between 4.6 and 4.9 inches, erect, in girth.

What's more important, length or girth?

Lots of studies have indicated women are more concerned about girth than length, probably because a wider penis stimulates the internal legs of the clitoris more effectively and brings the clitoral glans closer to the friction point.

But width really doesn't matter either since the vagina stretches only enough to accommodate the penis: if he's small, it stretches less.

What's the ideal penis size?

There is no one 'ideal size' as every woman is different and most women orgasm through clitoral stimulation (best done by hands, tongues or toys) anyway. Intercourse is just one part of sex – often the least favourite part for lots of women.

But there were two studies done in 2016 (one by a Californian university research team and another by medical website Dr Ed) which attempted to answer that question. Both sets of researchers asked women what the ideal penis size is and came up with the same answer: 6.3 inches.

Interestingly, British women had the lowest expectations of all nationalities polled with an ideal length of 5.59 inches.

Do all women secretly prefer big penises?

No. Most women opt for an average penis or slightly bigger than average rather than too big.

I'd say as a general rule, the younger the woman (and her vagina) the better able she is to cope with a bigger penis. Though, of course, there are plenty of exceptions to that rule: vagina's stretch post childbirth as well.

Does penis size affect the man's enjoyment of sex?

Penis size has absolutely zero effect on a man's orgasmic capability or intensity. If his head's in the right place, there really isn't a problem.

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The firmer the better. Put them underneath your bottom, whenever he's on top.

Squeeze

Strong pelvic floor muscles are never more appreciated than in this scenario. Make sure yours are toned by doing regular kegel exercises.

The muscle you're squeezing is the same muscle you use to stop the flow of urine. Squeeze and hold it, for the count of 3, at least 20 times a day and work up to three sets a day.

Squeeze hard to keep him in place once penetrated.

Grind or rock, rather than thrust in the traditional way

The closer the keep your pelvises, the less likely he is to fall out.

Try anal sex

If you enjoy anal sex or fancy trying it, this is the guy to do it with! It's a lot more achievable and a lot less painful with someone who's on the small side.

Go for double stimulation

Insert a butt plug and leave it in place during intercourse for a more 'filled up' feeling. Penis rings help to keep the blood inside the penis, keeping him harder.

If he's too thin

Lie on your stomach and get him to enter from behind while you squeeze your legs together. Keeping your legs close tightens the vaginal canal and instantly enlarges him.

Try the CAT technique

The Coital Alignment Technique is a great alternative if he's under endowed. Get him to 'ride high' once penetrated and rock rather than thrust.

That way the base of his penis slides against the clitoris, providing much needed clitoral stimulation. (Search 'CAT technique' for full instructions – it's well worth the effort to get this one right.)

THE BEST POSITIONS

Doggy style

It allows for deep penetration and leaves him in charge of the speed and depth. He can also hold onto the base of his penis to stop it falling out.

Make the old favourite – you on all fours and him kneeling behind you – tighter by keeping your legs together and getting him to put his legs outside of yours.

Even if penetration is shallow, he's likely to hit the front vaginal wall from this angle, which is highly sensitive.

Also try leaning across something: a big mound of pillows or the edge of a sofa. This gives him more to push against, making penetration deeper.

Get him to insert his thumb or finger, alongside this penis.

Up-style or crossed missionary

You'll need to find a piece of furniture that's the right height (and stability) to make this work.



If he stands in front of it with you lying back, his groin should be slightly higher than yours. A kitchen table is often a good option.

You lie down on your back with legs apart, he stands in front and penetrates. He then lifts you up, so your bottom is lifted off the bed, hands cupping your buttocks.

Now lift your legs up, one at the time, and rest your ankles on his shoulders.

Make the fit tighter by keeping your pelvises at the same level and crossing your ankles, legs placed on his chest. He holds you by the shins or clasps two hands over your ankles, holding them together.

Also try resting your feet against his chest. Make the position less challenging by putting lots of pillows under your hips to create the same effect.

Other great missionary modifiers: put both your ankles on one of his shoulders, so your pelvis tilts up.

WHAT DO WOMEN REALLY WANT WHEN IT COMES TO PENIS SIZE?
Tracey put the question to a selection of anonymous women, asking them what they truly desire when it comes to the size of their partner's manhood:

• 'It's much more about how thick it is, rather than length. Even if he's over six inches, if he's skinny, it won't work for me.'
• 'Big penises hurt. And guys who have them are lazy in bed. They think that's all it's going to take to satisfy you. They're cocky in all senses.'
• 'My guy's quite large but I'm OK with it - I've had a baby. If you were naturally small, a man with a big penis would be frightening not sexy.'
• 'I'm way more interested in his tongue.'
• 'Too small you can get around. I had a boyfriend who was scary big and I dreaded sex because it would hurt.'
• 'There's nothing more tedious than a guy who's on the small side and paranoid. You spend your life reassuring him that it's fine and it doesn't matter. Him going on and on about it is far more annoying than him being on the small side.'
• 'You have to be physically compatible. If you're small and short, dating some guy who's like The Hulk is asking for trouble.'
• 'I married a guy with a penis that officially falls into the micro penis category (it's around two inches when erect). It's never been a problem for us, he's good at other things.'
• 'Penis size isn't important. Sex skills are. Give me the guy who knows how to stimulate me any day.'

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Spread eagle

You lie on your back and lift your legs up, pulling them back towards your shoulders, as far as you can, spreading them in a V. He lies on top of you, his legs together.

This is great for intense, deep penetration and works best if he moves in a circular, grinding motion.

HIS PENIS IS TOO BIG

His mates might be deeply envious but for a lot of women, seeing a huge penis spring into life can be alarming and intimidating rather than erotic.

If he's a man with a bigger than usual penis, he needs to be extremely skilled in foreplay to make penetration comfortable (and in extreme cases) possible.

Here's how to handle Extra Large.

THE BEST MOVES

Don't be scared to acknowledge it

Your body language will give you away anyway (rounded eyes and a big gulp!).

As with smaller penises, be sensitive. If it's really large, he's used to women looking like they want to run from the room rather than into his arms.

There's a human attached to that thing, don't make him feel like a freak. Say, 'That's impressive. Let's take it nice and slowly'.

Use lots of good quality lube. The best you can afford: silicone lubes last longer. Stop to reapply, regularly, and reactivate lube that's dried up with a bit of saliva. If you've run out, extra virgin coconut oil is a good standby that won't cause thrush.

Double the foreplay

As you become more aroused, muscular tension pulls the uterus upwards, creating more space in the vagina and lengthening it from four to six inches long. It's called 'vaginal tenting'. The more 'tenting' there is, the less it's going to hurt.

Make sure he's massaged the vagina with his fingers before even thinking about inserting his penis.

Penetrate too soon, before the vagina has had time to expand, and you'll not only be sore, you're increasing the likelihood of an infection if tiny tears occur.

Get him to wear a 'buffer'. You can buy squishy rings that sit at the base of his penis to stop him penetrating deeply during intercourse.

If he's wearing a buffer, he can thrust away without having to worry about going too deep, and you can relax, knowing it's not going to hurt if he does get carried away.

'Ohnut' is one brand: nice and stretchy and formulated especially to prevent painful sex. Also do a search for 'mini-strokers' or 'mini-head strokers' and you'll see other choices. These are like a normal male masturbatory sleeve (or 'stroker'), except half the size.

Use your hands during oral sex

Wrap one or two hands around the base of the penis before giving him oral sex to stop him penetrating too deeply into your mouth.

Bear down as he penetrates

Pushing down with your vaginal muscles as he pushes in, makes you feel more in control and makes penetration easier.

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Sex and relationship expert Tracey Cox said that if your partner's manhood is larger than average, you should go slow and set the pace yourself (stock photo)

Go slow

One inch at a time, then stop to allow your vaginal muscles to relax around him. If his penis is very big, you might never want the full length.

Try penetrating from different angles - try slightly to the side, if it's hitting your cervix.

You set the pace and choose the position

You need to be in control so you can relax. The more tense you are, the harder penetration will be.

THE BEST POSITIONS

Reverse cowgirl

This is usually a deep penetration position but if you reverse it, you can manipulate the angle of penetration to make it more doable.

He lies on his back, you climb on top and face his toes, with your back to him. Lower yourself onto his penis, slowly, then put your hands on top of his knees or thighs to balance. Experiment by leaning forwards or back to alter the angle until it feels comfortable, lifting yourself away from him if he's too deep.

He lies still, you do the thrusting so you're in complete charge of the depth.

Prayer position

He needs to be flexible for this one because he's basically sitting on his bottom with his knees bent under him, heels touching his buttocks.

You face him and straddle him, sitting on his lap, one leg either side of his hips. It's impossible for him to go too deep because of the padding on his thighs and your bottom; the direct eye contact makes it erotically charged.

It's too uncomfortable? Adjust it by getting him to stretch his legs out in front of him.

Side by side

It's intimate because you're facing each other and doesn't allow deep penetration. Lift one leg over his hip to allow penetration, then alter the position of your legs until you're comfortable with how far he's penetrated.

If you want less penetration, keep your legs straight. If you want more, put your leg back over his hip and bottom and wrap your leg around to pull him deeper inside you.

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It's Not Length That Matters. It's Time to Talk About Girth

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Penis Size? It’s Not Length That Matters. It’s Time to Talk About Girth
Here's a gentleman's guide to packing particularly good width

“Some men have hair transplants or belly tucks,” 38-year-old mechanic [CENSORED NAME ALERT! This name is blacklisted on lpsg. Please respect this. Any attempt around this will result in a ban. If you see this please report it so we can delete the comment. Thank you.] told the Guardian last year about his decision to surgically increase his penis’ girth by two inches. “I wanted a truncheon in my pants. My whole life I’ve enjoyed impressing women; this was just an extension of that. You could call it a gentlemanly thing to do.” It might very well be a gentlemanly, if unnecessary, thing to do, but is there a gentlemanly way to let a woman know you’ve got a truncheon in your pants? And in a world where dicks are nearly always measured, discussed, mocked and boasted about in numbers describing length, not width, what if your particular truncheon is hefty across, and not down? That would mean the girth of your dick exceeds the average, which is 4.8 inches around when erect, or like a tube of toothpaste.

For those unawares, a truncheon is a police baton or nightstick. Or perhaps you know it as a billy club — here’s one measuring 5 and 3/8 inches in girth at its widest point. Though using the term truncheon will certainly get it done if you’re conveying you’ve got a big girth-y snake to contend with; it technically doesn’t mean it’s wider than it is long, because it mostly sounds like you’re saying it’s both. (And hats off to you, sir, in that case.)

Average Penis Girth vs. Length
The average penis is about 6 inches long and 6 inches around. The widespread increase in girth-enhancements implies men aren’t happy with this, even though they should be. (Another man told the Guardian he wanted his penis to “be like a milk bottle”). Mostly, the men “want something eye-opening down there,” the kind of man a woman might describe as having a penis “like a baseball bat.” Which, yikes. A baseball bat’s circumference is over 8 inches, and again, an average penis circumference is 4.8 inches.

So in this case, it’s arguably important to make the distinction as accurately as possible. Especially given that some women actually care more about girth.

Consider, for instance, that plenty of female porn stars who have worked with many a dick type prefer girth over length (for vaginal sex, not anal, mind you). In an interview with some of them, they described it this way:

• “I like a chode. Like a little soup can.”
• “Thick. I like thick cocks.”
• “You just gotta be able to put your hand around it and be like, yeah.”

Let’s Talk About Chodes
A chode, or choad, technically, is a penis that’s wider than it is long. It’s considered anatomically rare, so the term is more often used as simply a dick whose pleasure comes from its “rotund” width more than its length. But in slang usage, calling someone a chode or choad is a clear insult, making it not the best go-to for a man attempting a boast about his own pleasuring perks.

To be clear, a lot of what women prefer when it comes to dicks has to do with their anatomy as well. Women with a shorter vaginal canal don’t need a lot of length to get the job done, and in general, some women just like feeling stretched, not cervically pounded.

How to Talk About Girth
Next, we can compare all this with how men themselves talk about packing girth. I asked friends and acquaintances online how men conveyed girth in their experience, for better or worse, and they gave me these examples:

• “As a formerly slutty gay, [I’d] say ‘fat.’”
• “To quote the great Jimmy Pop [of the Bloodhound Gang], ‘My dick don’t hit the bottom, but I fuck the sides up.’”
• “I overheard some jerk hitting on a girl at my old work referring to his junk as Tuna Can because it was that big around. … She was pretty grossed out.”
• “I’m thick.”
• “Borat said he was ‘big like can of Pepsi’ if that helps.”
• “‘Cause I’m long and I’m strong and I’m down to get the friction on,’ as written by the great poet laureate Sir Mix-A-Lot. One can surmise that his use of ‘strong’ may have been eluding to girth.”
• “I’ve been told, ‘I’m more bratwurst than hotdog.’ This was said by a guy I barely knew, and I didn’t respond. But it was an interesting visual because I immediately pictured both in my brain. Then I wondered if he was trying to say that he was curved like some bratwurst are too?”

Then there are the references we’ve all heard: The Red Bull. The Pringles can. A large aerosol can. One man took the girth of his penis via surgery from a store-bought pepper shaker to a bottle of Lea & Perrins Worcestershire sauce. Meanwhile, a woman on Twitter told me a guy once did this:

A guy once told me that his was like a coke can and then sent me a picture that I did not ask for with a coke can for scale. But it was a mini coke can.

Another guy (unsolicited) tried to tell me my hips were too small and he’d hurt me because he was so “thick”.

— JordanOnceWrote (@JordanOnceWrote) May 20, 2019

There’s also, I should mention, a gay adult film actor called Girth Brooks (who, sadly, could not be reached for comment), whose name alone is rife for opportunities at hinting around at girth-y proportions.

A few years ago, researchers at UCLA and the University of New Mexico drilled down to what a big girth actually is in lay terms to the average woman. (For the record, even men with big dicks get very confused about what girth measurements are and needlessly obsess over distinctions that are largely irrelevant and whether, in fact, any man truly can be the size of a soda can.) The researchers asked 75 women to select an ideal penis from baskets filled with 33 different plastic 3-D-printed dicks — rigid, not flaccid, which is novel in the research on penis size preference. The only caveat was they were asked to pick two different dicks for two different scenarios: a dick befitting a boyfriend, and a dick only right for tonight.

In order to make extra sure women actually thought this through, they even tested them on their ability to remember a random penis they’d shown them prior to the experiment. They were surprised to find that it was width they remembered with the greatest precision. This isn’t surprising to hetero women I wouldn’t think: What’s the memorable experience of a dick if not how much it fills you up, or how fully it fits in the hand, mouth or other orifice?

Is There an Ideal Penis Girth?
That said, women wanted bigger girth dicks for a one-night stand to the tune of 6.4 inches long and 5 inches around. For boyfriends? They chose 6.3 inches long and only 4.8 inches around. Recall, again, that the average penis is 6 inches long, and 5 inches around.

So the boyfriend dick has less girth than the one women want for casual sex. But not by much. And neither is exceptionally different than the average anyway. So would-be boyfriend applicants need not advertise big dicks at all. This is only for men hunting temporary game, where women would be stoked to find out you were smuggling a Jimmy Dean sausage roll.

If you follow my driftwood here, it means that in casual hookup scenarios, talking a little dirty about what’s on the menu may be welcome, if the woman is hoping for girth enhancement in the first place. So all the more reason to do so, provided it doesn’t scare off the prospect and that it’s a mutually consensual discussion. Or you can shout it to the rooftops in online dating profiles and see where it gets you.

Still, we’re hitting up against a certain cervical truth here. Or what you might call the Fight Club rule of big dicks: First rule of having a big dick is not talking about having a big dick. Whether true or not, women tend to perceive men who brag about their big dicks as insecure, or that it’s merely all you’ve got going for you (which, hey, may be true, and may also be fine with you — and her).

But there’s a third type of guy who wouldn’t be bragging, yet doesn’t have the confidence to exude Big Dick Energy: Men who don’t look “hung” or vibe hung, but are hung, and can’t convey it with their general demeanor. Like the skinny small guy who has a surprisingly girth-y member. The more likely that the “big” in your dick refers to girth, and not length, the more this is likely to be your problem. You don’t want to mislead, after all.

What to Say About Your Width
Unfortunately, there’s no good answer here. Some men advise to make jokes about how small your dick is to imply you clearly have a big dick. The logic being that you’d never say that unless you obviously were being humble. The risk, though, is that if she actually takes you seriously, as one man put it, “then I’d NEVER get the chance to prove it wrong.”

Which leads us, finally, to the real question: Is it ever appropriate to mention to a woman that you have a wide load?

Unless she asks, you probably shouldn’t broach it, because you shouldn’t need to. You can always stick with the tried-and-true gentleman’s response: “I’ve never had any complaints.”

But if you must unearth the girth, tread the line of charming and suggestive carefully depending on your audience: “Just call me Girth Brooks.” Or: “I’ve got a truncheon in my pants, if by truncheon I mean a can of soda.” Or: “My dick don’t hit the bottom, but I fuck the sides up.”

The fact that she’s asking means she’s interested, so have fun with it.

Just don’t scare her off with your baseball bat.

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Enough About Penis Length — Let’s Talk About Girth

Enough About Penis Length — Let’s Talk About Girth
Erika W. Smith
Last Updated January 29, 2020, 10:09 a.m.

Photographed by Lula Hyers.
When we talk about penis size, we usually focus on length — but that leaves out another very important measurement: girth. By that, we generally mean the circumference at its widest section. Just like with length, there’s a wide variation in what “normal” girth looks like — and in what individual people prefer.
According to a 2014 British Journal of Urology International study that synthesized data from over 15,000 penis measurements (now that's commitment to science), the average circumference of an erect penis is 4.59 inches; for a flaccid penis, it's 3.67 inches. (As for length, the average is 5.16 inches while erect, and 3.61 inches when flaccid.) However, the graph of the data shows that there’s a wide range of sizes.
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A 2001 BMC Women’s Health study found that a large majority of cis women surveyed — 45 out of the 50, or 90% — believed that width was more important than length. Although the researchers stated a need for further study, they concluded, “Penis width needs to be given more consideration, and taken into account when one discusses penis size.”
A quick search through Reddit shows there’s plenty of people who prefer a short, girthy penis to a long, skinny one. “Dudes are always talking about how long their penis is when mentioning penis size, and although penis size overall doesn't matter that much for enjoyable sex, how long a penis is especially doesn't matter. The only thing that matters much, insofar as penis size matters, is girth,” one Redditor wrote in a comment on a post about the length vs. girth debate.
“Girth matters way more than length, although length can look impressive. However, neither are a dealbreaker in any way. It's more like, 'Oh, that's a nice surprise!' I've never really thought, 'Oh, that's kind of disappointing' though,” another added.
Another British Journal of Urology International (yes, them again) backs this up. A 2007 study found that 85% of women were happy with the size and shape of their partner’s penis, while 45% of men surveyed thought their penis was too small.
Notice that even people who love penis girth so much they’re ready to fight about it on Reddit make sure to say that size isn’t a dealbreaker. If they’re into someone, they’ll still be into them if they learn that that person has a not-so-girthy penis. As they say, it’s not the size — or width — of the boat, it’s the motion of the ocean, after all.
Penis Girth: Does Size Measurement Matter For Sex?
Originally Published on January 29, 2020, 5:09 a.m.
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written by Erika W. Smith