Generally, if I, or someone like me were seeking responsible advice when it came to sexual dissatisfaction within a relationship(by way of enthusiasm, skill, or frequency) the most societally acceptable approach would be to 1st call for introspection; namely what is it about me, or what I am/am not doing that is not getting the sought after outcomes, and what am I willing to adjust or address to get the outcomes I seek?
What I notice increasingly on the other end of the heteronormative divide, is that when that same dissatisfaction is expressed, introspection is dissuaded, a sense of entitlement or inherent deservedness is reinforced, and projections as to the other parties problems, deficiencies, stresses are much more readily explored as possible solutions.
Between Introspection and projection what should be the primary diagnosis of sexual dissatisfaction in general, and why does that at least appear to have such a gendered consideration?
What I notice increasingly on the other end of the heteronormative divide, is that when that same dissatisfaction is expressed, introspection is dissuaded, a sense of entitlement or inherent deservedness is reinforced, and projections as to the other parties problems, deficiencies, stresses are much more readily explored as possible solutions.
Between Introspection and projection what should be the primary diagnosis of sexual dissatisfaction in general, and why does that at least appear to have such a gendered consideration?
