Growing up I’d always had insecurities around women and admired other guys for their “masculinity “ . Gay guys might have picked up on my difference in personality and I got hit on, looked at, or propositioned in different ways by them. I remember their desire for me running through my body like electricity. It flushed me from head to toe with erotic desire but I also remember how my ass would sensitise to the thought of a guy. My spine ass and cock would be on fire. I hid from my desire out of fear and doubt of how I could possibly be gay. All my head told me was that I needed to find a woman to marry, though I never did. I feared anal sex to be painful, wrong, perhaps degrading. But why was it something that I desired to happen to me? What does the reality of gay sex reveal about it being pleasurable and satisfying? Or is it a sensation that deceptively entices and can be hurtful or damaging? For instance, an anus is quite prone to tears or is very tight. Does the hole loosen or internal organs become damaged? Do nerves become less sensitive? Is there really a possibility of orgasm through anal alone? I thought as men the only way to cum would be through penile stimulation? Does the desire for anal sex diminish as gay men get older, particularly for a bottom, do they want to be penetrated less?
Firstly, not all gay men bottom. Some never have and never will. Whether or not you like or perform anal sex, it has no bearing on your sexual orientation at all.
The best way to find out about anal play is to educate yourself and try it as part of your masturbation. Possibly in the shower. Use plenty of lube and start small. Try to find your prostate. For most people it tends to enhance your cock play.
Fearing what you have no experience of is kind of silly. Be patient and experiment. As mentioned above. If you find someone experienced and understanding to teach you, at least you will know if it's for you or not.
Anal play is best in conjunction with penile stimulation when starting out. Not cumming from anal sex is pretty common. Women usually don't orgasm from penetration alone either.
Most likely you are gay or bi with a large homosexual component. You have a degree of socially conditioned homophobia and a degree of self denial that you should be able to overcome.
The best way to find out about anal play is to educate yourself and try it as part of your masturbation. Possibly in the shower. Use plenty of lube and start small. Try to find your prostate. For most people it tends to enhance your cock play.
Fearing what you have no experience of is kind of silly. Be patient and experiment. As mentioned above. If you find someone experienced and understanding to teach you, at least you will know if it's for you or not.
Anal play is best in conjunction with penile stimulation when starting out. Not cumming from anal sex is pretty common. Women usually don't orgasm from penetration alone either.
Most likely you are gay or bi with a large homosexual component. You have a degree of socially conditioned homophobia and a degree of self denial that you should be able to overcome.
The above poster checked all the boxes, but my suggestion is this...
The next time you jerk off, stimulate the outside of your butthole with your fingertips when you are about to orgasm, and keep stimulating until you're done orgasming. After you do this, you'll totally get how anal sex can be pleasurable 100% guaranteed. If you like it, which you probably will, because it objectively intensifies the orgasm, not just for gay men, then you can try experimenting with small vibrators, or butt plugs. If it turns out you have some attraction to guys, it's ok, and exploring those desires will ultimately be better than wondering.
The next time you jerk off, stimulate the outside of your butthole with your fingertips when you are about to orgasm, and keep stimulating until you're done orgasming. After you do this, you'll totally get how anal sex can be pleasurable 100% guaranteed. If you like it, which you probably will, because it objectively intensifies the orgasm, not just for gay men, then you can try experimenting with small vibrators, or butt plugs. If it turns out you have some attraction to guys, it's ok, and exploring those desires will ultimately be better than wondering.
I've experimented with anal toys a few times and just couldn't get any enjoyment out of them. A lot of it, for me, was just them being cumbersome trying to handle the toy and it was just uncomfortable.
I recently got some great advice from one of the greatest minds on this forum. Stimulate the prostate. Holy hell. I got a sweet lil vibrating prostate massager that has a head on it that will also move back and forth like the finger "come here" motion. Oh my goodness. Now that's a good feeling.
So I agree that some people like it, some people don't. But if you experiment, you might get the anal sensation you're looking for.
Anal has rarely been pleasurable for me. It's sometimes uncomfortable, but not painful. Two or three times it was amazing, but otherwise, it was just there. It's just not for everyone. Not everyone is wired to feel pleasure there.
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Love anal! Especially hitting the prostate! If you want to know where to buy this toy, dm me.
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You also need to account for the psychological aspects of anal sex. The intimacy of having a man inside of you is a huge rush.
I think most of the important things have been said already.
I want to add that being fucked is incredibly masculine to me. Like literally, you are already a man. Then you have an additional piece of manhood inserted inside you. You become, like, 1 and a half times as manly as before you did it, right?
Just let go, enjoy it and embrace it! You're the same person before and after you'd had a massive dick inside your ass. Just maybe a bit more manly and happy afterwards.
And yeah, experiment with sex toys or objects (safe, i.e. no glass, no objects that can unscrew and/or end up locked inside). Take your time, think of it as a relaxation moment. But don't forget to have a vivid sexual imagination while you're doing it.
I want to add that being fucked is incredibly masculine to me. Like literally, you are already a man. Then you have an additional piece of manhood inserted inside you. You become, like, 1 and a half times as manly as before you did it, right?
Just let go, enjoy it and embrace it! You're the same person before and after you'd had a massive dick inside your ass. Just maybe a bit more manly and happy afterwards.
And yeah, experiment with sex toys or objects (safe, i.e. no glass, no objects that can unscrew and/or end up locked inside). Take your time, think of it as a relaxation moment. But don't forget to have a vivid sexual imagination while you're doing it.
Anal is incredible, once you get the right person to fuck you, it will be the best orgasm you've ever had.
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I agree.
It's finding the right person to penetrate your very being, to make you feel good about him fucking you, him wanting to pleasure you as much as he needs to be pleasured so with luck it will be that you both enjoy an orgasm together - which is incredible.
For me there is as much pleasure in after, lying there impaled, feeling his hardness change to soft and knowing that with a few deft flexes of my buttocks, ring clenches, I can stiffen his resolve for a further fuck and then enjoy his cock sliding deeper into me lubed with his own juices.
As a man who only exclusively bottomed all my life, receiving anal is all what I was interested in sexually. I developed ED pretty early in my 20s so anal/prostate stimulation was the only way for me to cum. And usually it’s way more intense than cumming through penile stimulation. I never felt a desire to top though so it might differ from person to person. You wouldn’t know until you try it and do it right. My first experiences were very painful but I kept having anal sex because the pleasure for me was worth it.
I think if I were to let go of my denial I might become an addict to male male intimacy. Something about it creates a lot of lust, the lust I wish I had for women. I believed growing up that my love and desire is perhaps misdirected or uninhibited by men so with it sparking such a strong reaction in my body and learning it was wrong, I have attempted to suppress it but my sexuality doesn’t know how to express it to the extent homosexuality tells me it might. My guilt and shame has been amplified lately and so has my lack of libido along with that. It’s frustrating.
I definitely feel stronger erections and get bigger orgasmic cumshots from anal stimulus but I just don’t know if anything should necessarily be put inside your butt. It seems risky or maybe damaging. Thats why it confuses me a little.
The day you finally come out to yourself will be the day that all the noise in your head will go away.
At the moment you are clutching at straws, making all kinds of ridiculous excuses to deny what is clear in front of your face.
Most of the time, when it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, quacks like a duck...... It's a duck.
There's safe ways of putting things into your butt, and there's definitely pretty dangerous ways of putting things in your butt. As long as you relax, and don't force anything, it's safe.
In the butt dicks rub against the skin that houses the prostate. If you produce a small amount of slime with your sperm then its not for you since you have a small prostate. Thats why some guys get superhard while on the toilet.
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Anal is very pleasurable, but with me and I guess many others, it is a pleasure that is acquired after MUCH want to and effort. The rectum has to be conditioned to take cock, especially large cock. Once it is acclimated and stretched a little anal penetration is more than pleasurable. That is why I could lay there for hours (it seems) and let my friend with 6.5" of girth ream me until he shoots. I even had a straight buddy tell me of a date he had with a woman once who literally demanded anal sex before their night was over.
No words for the intense pleasure of anal cock penetration.
No words for the intense pleasure of anal cock penetration.
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My hole is not sensitive at all, it's ALL in my nips - so there's not anything terribly erotic about being entered for me. A lot of what has made my good times with receiving anal good has been mental, feeling safe enough to really release, give up control & let my partner take charge. Also, once I get used to the dick, I like the feeling of someone being inside me if they know what to do once they're in there - really working my nips also has an effect on how receptive my hole is, I guess because my focus gets rerouted in a great way. And if they do hit the prostate, so much the better - have AT it baby lol!
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I think sometimes society emphasizes that tops are "more masculine" than bottoms. I think once you accept that that is far from true and accept yourself for who you are, you may be more receptive to it. Or you need to be emotionally connected to even consider having another man penetrate you. Also, some guys are simply not into anal sex. Take your pick if any apply to you.
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