Is it a turn on or turn off when you find out a woman has been with a bigger guy?

[Kendallonthecoast]

sooo when I was younger I dated a guy who was like legit 7 feet tall. My bf asked about him, and started asking questions about our sexual history, how big he was etc. I was scared to answer because other guys I've dated have asked that kind of stuff and reacted really negatively, but my bf seemed to be really excited by it. He said he liked that I've had sex with endowed guys because "I know what I'm doing" or whatever lol.

If you were dating someone and found out their ex was really big, would that excite you or make you jealous/insecure?

 

[9.25cutcock]

I'm not sure how I would feel particularly, depending on the day it might excited me or make me jealous

 

[GallusMeus]

Nope, I don't think so. There is a reason why the dude is an ex!

 

[derf3]

Personal Rule: I would never kiss and tell. And I would never ask either.

Why? Because: intimacy at its best is between just you and whomever; it is a precious gift. That's the ideal at least.

Anyhow, were the roles reversed, I don't believe I would do that to a lady (i.e., make any comparison to another person, somehow or other.). It wouldn't matter which anatomical feature was being discussed. And context is everything.

"You should have seen her [ specified part of the body or intimate talent ]! Oh my God, Babe--it was amazing! Hey? Where are you going? Come back!"

So, to answer the question: definitely a turn off. But for the reason you might not expect.

If it ain't you or me, why would you tell me about it? Unless you were hoping for a reaction.

No judgment. Just something to think about.

 

[BATMANG111]

I have to say I agree with 9.25 and your BF.
The relationship that you are in is most likely the determination. Very open and accepting will more then likely enjoying the fact like your current BF you have experienced larger in one or both categories. Thus making it easier with all things sexual.
Then the other side yup! In the back of (men's) minds as they are in the middle of things trying to process your body and face and reactions and sounds.
After a while or those who realize yup they are an ex she's with them, to the hell with the past enjoy it to it's fullest.

For me it can be a good or bad depending on when this conversation is happening. I take it as a challenge of what can I do better with and to / for her that I stand out for that more than size.

 

[Timmyj]

no issues here, would gladly give you a good fuck either way, don't have to be the first but would enjoy the fact I was the current!

 

[ronin001]

I have never asked that question to a lady; and none I have dated have ever introduced that subject in our conversations

 

[cofrader]

sooo when I was younger I dated a guy who was like legit 7 feet tall. My bf asked about him, and started asking questions about our sexual history, how big he was etc. I was scared to answer because other guys I've dated have asked that kind of stuff and reacted really negatively, but my bf seemed to be really excited by it. He said he liked that I've had sex with endowed guys because "I know what I'm doing" or whatever lol.

If you were dating someone and found out their ex was really big, would that excite you or make you jealous/insecure?

Being tall doesn't assure proportional measures, is still your boyfriend.
A visual representation of your boyfriend

https://imgur.com/psoWSBv

 

[unknown975]

sooo when I was younger I dated a guy who was like legit 7 feet tall. My bf asked about him, and started asking questions about our sexual history, how big he was etc. I was scared to answer because other guys I've dated have asked that kind of stuff and reacted really negatively, but my bf seemed to be really excited by it. He said he liked that I've had sex with endowed guys because "I know what I'm doing" or whatever lol.

If you were dating someone and found out their ex was really big, would that excite you or make you jealous/insecure?

From my perspective, asking such question is weird. I would rather not know about it.

Your boyfriend got to be pervy or insecured (wants to compare?). Maybe it's a fetish (cuckolding, licentiousness, …). Your BF is curious about your exes' dick size for a reason or another. I'm curious about men asking such question.

I believe answering such question might hurt him more than he thinks. That might be the reason why your exes reacted negatively, they had thought they were ready to hear the answer but they weren't. Is it worth to take a chance?

 

[8inchy]

total turn on especially if she liked it

 

[notthatguy]

Given I am average sized, half will have been bigger and half smaller.

But, I doubt any will have been a better lover than me.

 

[Rooker]

Not a turn off or a turn on. There was curiosity at times, but size was irrelevant to me.

There were other aspects of pasts that were a turn off, but not size.

 

[bigbucky]

I dunno. most of the time I was the "bigger" guy. my wife said I was the biggest out of her 6 previous boyfriends. I had a previous relationship that was based solely on sex and the fact I was hung and her fiance was not. other women never mentioned other lovers. some are not so eager to discuss such matters. leave it up to them.

 

[Sagittarius84]

Somewhat of a turn off. Unfortunately as per experience and observation, the "bigger and better" previous guy often is the archetype(or individual) that will be the later affair partner, or at the very least will be the standard by which a woman will feel free to disrespect you later on in the relationship...perhaps for guys on more of the cuck spectrum this is sexually exciting, but I just foresee issues in the future. Not a matter of jealousy or insecurity but more of annoyance and aversion.

 

[meatonastick]

total turn on especially if she liked it

I had a friend with a bi boyfriend with serious 12", and the gynecologist told her to stop, he was literally ripping her up her cervix. I don't think its an appropriate conversation to have anyway.

 

[Rooker]

I think I’ve only asked once, and she said he had a micropenis. Another partner said he was with a guy that had “12”” but she also thought I had like 14”.

 

[cofrader]

I had a friend with a bi boyfriend with serious 12", and the gynecologist told her to stop, he was literally ripping her up her cervix. I don't think its an appropriate conversation to have anyway.

serius 12"? Like Beethoven ?
He should go back to anatomy 101.
I got a not so serious 12"

https://imgur.com/IEJ7zkh

 

[Inshape69]

i have dated a few women and at times i have asked about their exs in an innocent manner. Personally i find it exciting to find out but at the same times hes an ex.

 

[meatonastick]

serius 12"? Like Beethoven ?
He should go back to anatomy 101.
I got a not so serious 12"

https://imgur.com/IEJ7zkh

I really don't have any need to lie here, i'm not a size queen, but I have had partners with some really sizable equipment, the inside of my forearm is 11 inches and it come it handy knowing that sometimes.

 

[cofrader]

I really don't have any need to lie here, i'm not a size queen, but I have had partners with some really sizable equipment, the inside of my forearm is 11 inches and it come it handy knowing that sometimes.

I recognize that is the biggest clitoris I ever heard of.
Otherwise this is ask straight and only straight can answer here.
If you have prof of your claim you can cash some money on 10 inch challenge, negotiate a plus for the extra inch.