Is it gay or bi?

[FanOfMrMagoo]

I’m a 28 years old guy.
I like women, but I rarely feel sexually attracted to them. Most of the times when I have a crush, I’ll have a hallmark fantasy about us, I’ll be really kind with her and do almost everything for her. I’ll want to kiss her, cuddle her and do almost everything except penetration. I’ll develop quickly strong feelings and think about her like every day.
However sexually no. The only moment I’ll get horny thinking of her it’s because I’m thinking of doing a threesome with a guy.
For guys I’m attracted to almost every guy with a beard and a manly voice, the more they look like a bodybuilder the more attracted. Even with that attraction, I don’t have feelings for guys. I never think about one as a life long partner or develop feelings. I just like men only sexually.
In that case, what am I supposed to be ? I’m confused.
The only moment where I can feel and have sex is during a threesome, but that’s not what I want to have for the rest of my life.

Any advice ?

 

[vincegre]

Well you should at least try to get sex 2/3 times with each to find out more precisely what you like

 

[curtdude]

Dude you are 28 and pretty young you need to put yourself out there and experiment with different sexes. you do not say if you have actually had sex with anyone . try a guy if you don't like it try a girl. you may be in bed with a dude and feel this is not for me. being bisexual for me there is something I like from both sexes. the softness of a woman's body the warm feel of my dick inside her . then there is the beard of a guy his balls gtind in against mine our dick rubbing together me pushing my dick inside him watching his face as he feels pleasure or a little discomfort as I slide in dude you may like it you may not it is ultimately up to you.

sometimes you feel like nuts sometimes you don't

 

[FanOfMrMagoo]

Dude you are 28 and pretty young you need to put yourself out there and experiment with different sexes. you do not say if you have actually had sex with anyone . try a guy if you don't like it try a girl. you may be in bed with a dude and feel this is not for me. being bisexual for me there is something I like from both sexes. the softness of a woman's body the warm feel of my dick inside her . then there is the beard of a guy his balls gtind in against mine our dick rubbing together me pushing my dick inside him watching his face as he feels pleasure or a little discomfort as I slide in dude you may like it you may not it is ultimately up to you.

sometimes you feel like nuts sometimes you don't

I forgot to add it. I had sex before, with women and men. With women I couldn’t get hard enough, with guys I’m hard, but no orgasm when I finish.

You perfectly described what I like with men and women

 

[ronin001]

Have you ever seen a dog, chase after a car? The car can be doing 24 - 40 MPH; but the dog will run after it as if his life depends on it. The question is, what will the dog do if he catches the car ? He does not want to eat the car, he does not want to drive the car. He just enjoys chasing after the cars.

Not saying that the OP is a dog ha ha. Just saying that some men also just enjoy the challenge of the chase, when it comes to women. Then when they catch the women, some loose all desire to continue / close the deal.

Just an observation

 

[FanOfMrMagoo]

Have you ever seen a dog, chase after a car? The car can be doing 24 - 40 MPH; but the dog will run after it as if his life depends on it. The question is, what will the dog do if he catches the car ? He does not want to eat the car, he does not want to drive the car. He just enjoys chasing after the cars.

Not saying that the OP is a dog ha ha. Just saying that some men also just enjoy the challenge of the chase, when it comes to women. Then when they catch the women, some loose all desire to continue / close the deal.

Just an observation

That’s funny. I wasn’t expecting that answer.
I think I understand that and when I take time to check I have to admit I enjoy the challenge. I easily get bored when I have to close the deal with women or with some men too. Feelings or desires must be deeper to keep the interest.

 

[ronin001]

That’s funny. I wasn’t expecting that answer.
I think I understand that and when I take time to check I have to admit I enjoy the challenge. I easily get bored when I have to close the deal with women or with some men too. Feelings or desires must be deeper to keep the interest.

A very human response, good luck

 

[chrisrobin]

Why not be both, my half bro fucked anything on legs, girls and guys - and yes he's a good fuck and fucker and cock sucker as I can vouch for, and I'm sure his wife is happy in the bedroom with his great cock, before he got married he was very active with lunchtime shags with any girl who wanted cock, then on the way home stopping at a local cottage to please any guy who might be there.

 

[mushroomcap]

See a therapist! I'm not saying there's something wrong with you but maybe you could use some help figuring out what's going on. You're 28, and while that's still young, you should have an idea of what you really like by now.

 

[BigDave79]

Remember that romantic and sexual attraction don't always have to match precisely.

Also maybe the sex acts you're doing (with either gender) just don't hit the spot for you. Perhaps you like full sex with women but only oral or something else with men. Think about what interests or turns you on the most.

Most importantly don't stress about it. You're still figuring it all out. Maybe you're gay, bi or straight....you'll work it out eventually.

Have fun exploring but be safe.....and don't be a dick about it (not saying you are but it does happen)

Hope this helps but also feel free to ignore me lol

 

[Atan7777]

I’m a 28 years old guy.
I like women, but I rarely feel sexually attracted to them. Most of the times when I have a crush, I’ll have a hallmark fantasy about us, I’ll be really kind with her and do almost everything for her. I’ll want to kiss her, cuddle her and do almost everything except penetration. I’ll develop quickly strong feelings and think about her like every day.
However sexually no. The only moment I’ll get horny thinking of her it’s because I’m thinking of doing a threesome with a guy.
For guys I’m attracted to almost every guy with a beard and a manly voice, the more they look like a bodybuilder the more attracted. Even with that attraction, I don’t have feelings for guys. I never think about one as a life long partner or develop feelings. I just like men only sexually.
In that case, what am I supposed to be ? I’m confused.
The only moment where I can feel and have sex is during a threesome, but that’s not what I want to have for the rest of my life.

Any advice ?

You are a homosexual, you need to be sexually attracted to women to be bisexual or heterosexual. I think you are still in early stage of accepting your homosexuality most gay men have been to that stage.

 

[Atan7777]

Why not be both, my half bro fucked anything on legs, girls and guys - and yes he's a good fuck and fucker and cock sucker as I can vouch for, and I'm sure his wife is happy in the bedroom with his great cock, before he got married he was very active with lunchtime shags with any girl who wanted cock, then on the way home stopping at a local cottage to please any guy who might be there.

He is gay if he is only sexually attracted to men he mentions he does not have sexual attraction to women.

 

[Atan7777]

I forgot to add it. I had sex before, with women and men. With women I couldn’t get hard enough, with guys I’m hard, but no orgasm when I finish.

You perfectly described what I like with men and women

You are a homosexual sir since your obviously not aroused to women people here are not helping at all they just want to bullshit you.

 

[FanOfMrMagoo]

You are a homosexual sir since your obviously not aroused to women people here are not helping at all they just want to bullshit you.

I see, but I still have no feelings for dude at all.
I don’t want to be insensitive, but it’s almost like I just want to empty myself and I can’t do it alone.
That’s terrible for me when a guy is attached to me I have no connection other than my desire to have sex with him. I won’t think about him like him, don’t get emotionally invested with him or find the need to date him.

 

[BigDave79]

I see, but I still have no feelings for dude at all.
I don’t want to be insensitive, but it’s almost like I just want to empty myself and I can’t do it alone.
That’s terrible for me when a guy is attached to me I have no connection other than my desire to have sex with him. I won’t think about him like him, don’t get emotionally invested with him or find the need to date him.

It might be worth considering if you may be aromantic to some extent. It took me many decades to realise it. Although I am sexually attracted to men, I have very little interest in romantic relationships at all. I was 45 when I realised as I didn't have the words to explain my feelings.

I'm NOT saying that any of this applies to you but it might be worth looking at even to rule it out.

 

[FanOfMrMagoo]

It might be worth considering if you may be aromantic to some extent. It took me many decades to realise it. Although I am sexually attracted to men, I have very little interest in romantic relationships at all. I was 45 when I realised as I didn't have the words to explain my feelings.

I'm NOT saying that any of this applies to you but it might be worth looking at even to rule it out.

I thought about it, but I only have feelings for women.

 

[theplayerking]

The only moment where I can feel and have sex is during a threesome, but that’s not what I want to have for the rest of my life.

Why not? The internet and dating apps have a lot of flaws, but one clear advantage is that they can help in finding non-traditional relationships. Finding a woman that is open to this scenario would be very difficult through ordinary dating. However, if you wrote a thoughtful ad that was honest and frank about what you’re looking for and what turns you on, you might be able to find it, i.e., a sweet caring wife that likes to cuddle and see you get fucked up the ass by burly lumberjacks.

 

[Atan7777]

I see, but I still have no feelings for dude at all.
I don’t want to be insensitive, but it’s almost like I just want to empty myself and I can’t do it alone.
That’s terrible for me when a guy is attached to me I have no connection other than my desire to have sex with him. I won’t think about him like him, don’t get emotionally invested with him or find the need to date him.

I can understand you I have lost my romantic attraction to men, but I am still sexually attracted to them I have no desire to be with men but I still watch gay porn.

 

[Atan7777]

I see, but I still have no feelings for dude at all.
I don’t want to be insensitive, but it’s almost like I just want to empty myself and I can’t do it alone.
That’s terrible for me when a guy is attached to me I have no connection other than my desire to have sex with him. I won’t think about him like him, don’t get emotionally invested with him or find the need to date him.

It is especially hard when homosexual males are nowhere to be found and the only ones left are not my type. I think you might be closer to women that is why you are more attached to them.