Lol he's a lucky guy I wish I was getting ogled all the time guess I haven't found the right woman yet. I also agree if you have that certain sexual connection doesn't it come naturally? Way to go with the goofyness all the way!
It comes naturally at first. But life is hard. Over the duration of years you can't just expect to get laid on chemistry alone, because you're stressed about the fact that your department is getting a smaller grant this year so you're making less, but you've got to stay there because you're doing important work, and you're passionate about it, even if that means you lose sleep over the interest rates on your mortgage, car note, and student loans. Meanwhile she's edgy because her boss is a snake who takes full credit for all of her ideas, and she's getting an idea right now, but she can't write it down because you've misplaced the kitchen pen again, which reminds her that she's going to have to mount those shelves herself because she's tired of asking you to do it. Life just catches up and if you don't find little ways to stay playful AND intimate, you will wake up in one of those marriages where one or both of you complains about the lack of hanky-panky but neither of you does anything about it.
So yes. It comes naturally, but you still have to cultivate it. So he feels me up a little when no one is looking, steals a kiss while I'm freaking out about family drama, and I drop corny pick-up lines on him, rub his fuzzy head while he drives, and make excuses to touch his cute little butt. He tells me he can't wait to see me, and his dick has been hard all day. I send selfies in various states of undress and tell him he's in trouble.
All these sweet or flirtatious interactions add up over time, so there's always an undercurrent of lust and affection in our loving relationship. THAT is why I can walk past him and just give him a look and 12 seconds later he's falling face-first into my pussy. It's not that there is a certain look, or that a sexual connection just comes naturally. It really is a good analogy to think of a sexual connection as a bank account, and both parties have to make regular deposits so that when it comes time to make a debit it isn't declined for insufficient funds. (Or um... funs.)
