It hurts

[fuckersplit]

I am 28 years old and in a relationship. Most of the time I'm top, but sometimes when I want to be bottom it just doesn't work for me.

I open the hole, but he barely got in. When it comes in, it's like someone is slaughtering me. After sex, which lasts a very short time (it can hardly be called sex), I need to go to the toilet very often and have diarrhea.

I've tried poppers and the effect is medium, the last time I got a yellow dot and I'm kind of worried that there won't be any problems if I use it again. Before sex, I also fingered myself, put on vibrators and medium-sized dildos. They all get in somehow, but the up and down movements are a huge pain for me.

Do you have any advice on how I can receive dick better?

 

[ILoveGames48]

Main things is trust who you are with and relax .. if you don’t relax then your asshole is gonna be tightening up making it hurt more

Another thing is using plenty of lube .. fucking a guy requires a little bit of lube to a lot … even women need it at times .. I was with one she was “wet” but not wet enough .. so lube is a necessity..

Use skinny toys first and work way up .. if you watch gay porn or straight porn where the woman takes it in her ass.. you will see that your asshole opens up quite a bit..

I’ve been topped by a guy near 11 inches and several with 8 to 9 inches and even been double penetrated ..

So your asshole opens up quite a bit ..

How big is he.. head of his dick?

Curved any? …

What does he think about when you top him? How does he react? Relaxed? Tense?

 

[marriedasian]

Just because you want to be a bottom doesn't always mean it will work for you.

I can't speak for men, however I have lotsa of girlfriends whom want nothing more than to give their boyfriends/husbands anal sex when they ask for it but are always in pain. They tough through it but it just simple "doesn't work" no matter what. They want to enjoy it but say that it's near-impossible. My conclusion from speaking to many of them is that they're just not physiologically built that way despite what many anal sex gurus may say about technique and methodology.

 

[ILoveGames48]

First few times is painful.. but once get used to it islets an awesome feeling ..

 

[Stephenmass]

I'd suggest as said above, plenty of lube and the first time for you as the bottom to control the penetration. That means having the top lie on his back and you lowering yourself onto him slowly. You may feel pain at first entry, but have him leave it there and don't lower yourself more until the pain subsides, then take a bit more by lowering yourself as much as you feel comfortable. The trick is making sure you are opened enough so there is room for more. Don't rush it and take your time and make sure your top is patient knowing it's your first time trying it. I'd also suggest a silicone lube vs water lube as it's "more slippery". You, if you are lucky, once you take as much as you can give yourself time to get used to his whole cock being there and give him the go ahead if you are comfortable making sure he takes his time. Once you are opened and the pain subsides it may be easier than you think.

 

[ILoveGames48]

That’s why I mentioned anal plug .. it’s pointed at the end and gets bigger at bottom.. lube it up slide it in and you leave it there to let your asshole stretch and get used to it..

And as get older and doctor needs to do a prostate exam .. he will lube finger and slide it in no matter how tight you are .. I wasn’t tight tight when did mine but how he slid it in kind of burned some .. must been the glove I don’t know ..

There’s also a lube that numbs the anus a little .. try it.. you rub it around your asshole and penetrate so numb inside a little .. then try it..

 

[deleted24286381]

if it really hurts that much, even while very lube and etc, go to a doctor. You could have polyps or fissures.

 

[goldscorpguy]

Feeling a little pain at the first point of entry is not unusual, I get it too. But if you are getting more extreme pain as he thrusts then it could just be more lube needed. Try an anal applicator which gets the lube in deeper before you start. It could be that the expectation of pain is making you tense up, and it becomes a vicious circle. Try asking your partner to enter you and stay still for a while, or just make very shallow thrusts. It's all about experimenting, getting relaxed, and taking your time.

 

[thongboy]

If it hurts, say so. If you want him to pull out, say so. If you need more lube, say so. If you think a different position would work better, say so. I always listen to my bottom

 

[Cum_is_Great]

You may not be using enough lube. Everyone is different. My buddy barely put any lube on his dick first time we met and its because he was used to only needing a little as he mostly fucked women before. Also only liked that much when using toys like fleshlight.

Next time you lube up, put the normal amount you usually apply. Then double it. Yes, make it seem like its "too much". You might realize "too much" is actually the correct amount! That's how I discovered how much lube I needed. Also try a "lube shooter" or applicator as well!

 

[dr40136]

I am 28 years old and in a relationship. Most of the time I'm top, but sometimes when I want to be bottom it just doesn't work for me.

I open the hole, but he barely got in. When it comes in, it's like someone is slaughtering me. After sex, which lasts a very short time (it can hardly be called sex), I need to go to the toilet very often and have diarrhea.

I've tried poppers and the effect is medium, the last time I got a yellow dot and I'm kind of worried that there won't be any problems if I use it again. Before sex, I also fingered myself, put on vibrators and medium-sized dildos. They all get in somehow, but the up and down movements are a huge pain for me.

Do you have any advice on how I can receive dick better?

I’m also 28, in a relationship and the top. Sometimes I want to bottom.

The trick for me is to literally take the time in the beginning to go slowly and open up. So tell him to put it all the way inside slowly and go slow. After a few minutes you’ll be opened up and ready to be fully stretched and fucked.

 

[chrisrobin]

I am 28 years old and in a relationship. Most of the time I'm top, but sometimes when I want to be bottom it just doesn't work for me.

I open the hole, but he barely got in. When it comes in, it's like someone is slaughtering me. After sex, which lasts a very short time (it can hardly be called sex), I need to go to the toilet very often and have diarrhea.

I've tried poppers and the effect is medium, the last time I got a yellow dot and I'm kind of worried that there won't be any problems if I use it again. Before sex, I also fingered myself, put on vibrators and medium-sized dildos. They all get in somehow, but the up and down movements are a huge pain for me.

Do you have any advice on how I can receive dick better?

First thing to do is to relax, relax and take it slow, make sure you're lubed pretty well.
Stop thinking about how much you want to but it will hurt otherwise it will.
I lost my cherry to an older guy who took me slow. It hurt so he stopped till I relaxed then he went deeper till I stopped him again and so on till he was balls deep. It must have been pretty sensuous for him cos once in he shot his load. But, more to the point he didn't pull out, we both relaxed, he went soft but after a while he began to move, get hard and went for a second glorious ejaculation, and me, I didn't feel pain.
Once you take it pain-free and realise it can be so your problems will be solved - currently you are to het up with the fear it will hurt and it will be painful, relax, think of it as fun, picture it as being one of the dildos you can take so easily.

 

[johnnyboy2285]

I think you might need more lube, just to help out the situation and just use an applicator or a syringe (no needle) to push the lube deeper in. Most of the lube just remains on the outside of the anus.

Fuck close after you wash out, because the muscles are already more relaxed.

Numbing lube might not be the great ideea, you wouldn't feel tearing and that will bench you for 3 weeks or so

And go slow, at your own pace