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thanks for all this information! one of my friends has two roommates who are trans women currently undergoing hormone therapy. they're the first women i've met that i've been aware are trans (i wouldn't be surprised if i've met some before that i didn't realize were trans), so hearing your perspective is much appreciated.
the part on not shaming attraction to trans men is especially eye-opening for me. i'm a little ashamed to say that i myself have been part of this problem in the past. i'm a gay man, and sometimes i get a bit frustrated about closeted gay men clinging to a straight identity while they sleep with dudes due to (completely understandable) anxiety about homophobia. now that i reflect on your post, i remember that i used to legitimately think that men who liked trans women were simply gay men who wanted to assuage that anxiety by convincing themselves they still liked women (with the 'parts' that were truly important to them). looking back now, it seems so ridiculous and awful that i actually reduced trans women's gender identities (and the attraction men had for them) to being solely about 'parts'! thankfully i don't think i ever shared that harmful idea with anyone, but i'm so glad people like you have been putting yourself out there to correct those misconceptions. keep doing what you do.
the part on not shaming attraction to trans men is especially eye-opening for me. i'm a little ashamed to say that i myself have been part of this problem in the past. i'm a gay man, and sometimes i get a bit frustrated about closeted gay men clinging to a straight identity while they sleep with dudes due to (completely understandable) anxiety about homophobia. now that i reflect on your post, i remember that i used to legitimately think that men who liked trans women were simply gay men who wanted to assuage that anxiety by convincing themselves they still liked women (with the 'parts' that were truly important to them). looking back now, it seems so ridiculous and awful that i actually reduced trans women's gender identities (and the attraction men had for them) to being solely about 'parts'! thankfully i don't think i ever shared that harmful idea with anyone, but i'm so glad people like you have been putting yourself out there to correct those misconceptions. keep doing what you do.
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