Lack of orgasm after hysterectomy

[albert2006]

Two years ago my wife has had a partial hysterectomy ( the body of the uterus has been removed and a part of the cervix has been left in place..( unfortunately she had 3 big friboids and it has been impossible to avoid the hysterectomy..)
From a psychological point of view,obviously,it was heavy to accept and she experienced the operation as a handicap(and even for me it wasn't easy)..
From a physical point of view our sexual life has became by far worse.She is clitorian and before the operation she reached the orgasm quite regularly and always with oral sex.She has not ever been sensitive in the fornix aerea(a-spot,d-spot) unlike some women who love a cervical stimulation or a deeper penetration and so this could be a little advantage...
Unfortunately the reality is different."Sexually i am a dead woman" "it's difficult to explain but without uterus and its contractions the orgasms are TOTALLY DIFFERENTS.."(Not only the orgasms are much less intensive but also with oral sex is almost impossible to reach them..
Obviously for the both of us the situation is very frustrating but we are trying to change some aspects of our marriage..(Good cusine,trips ,shopping..even if it's not easy...)
The question is if the the lack of the uterus can be so important from a physical point of view even if
I think that the REAL PROBLEM IS PSYCHOLOGICAL ..

 

[693987]

You, a man, presumably without ever having had a uterus as a part of your body, much less the entire rest of what are the female sexual organs... Have decided the issue is purely psychological? Wow.

The uterus can contract so strongly it makes my back hurt intensely, among other things. I'm not unique in experiencing that. Not even remotely. Based off your post, I feel bad for your wife.

 

[albert2006]

You, a man, presumably without ever having had a uterus as a part of your body, much less the entire rest of what are the female sexual organs... Have decided the issue is purely psychological? Wow.

The uterus can contract so strongly it makes my back hurt intensely, among other things. I'm not unique in experiencing that. Not even remotely. Based off your post, I feel bad for your wife.

The issue is not purely psycholigical of course..I have said(but is only my opinion)that this can be important..but the problem is complex. ..i have read articles like"sex can improve after hysterectomy"(but for me it's a bullshit)..It's easy to read things opposite.

 

[MickeyLee]

Half her sexual organs have been removed. But the problem is mental?

Dude... just, dude. *SMH*

Uterine contractions is in the top 3 best things about orgasm. Like's Fade said the contractions can be strong enough to cause a backache, cramps or an orgasmic throb that rocks your whole body.

 

[LaFemme]

I can certainly understand why you might think the problem is psychological - there is a lot of misinformation out there and despite best efforts, the female orgasm isn’t well understood. But let’s look at it this way, just because she orgasmed best from clitoral stimulus before doesn’t mean that her clitoris was just a bundle of nerves sitting all alone up front by themselves. Oh, no.

In fact, it seems that the clitoris is connected to the g-spot. Huh. Who knew?! Well, women could have told you that. Not only that, but those nerve endings are deeply buried along the vaginal canal. It’s why pressure feels so great and why there are so many different orgasms. And because women are all wired differently, some need deeper pressure, some need more clitoral stimuli, some need more g-spot pressure, some need a combination. Those orgasmic contractions come from deep within - when any part of our insides is missing or changes, our body has to learn to re-wire itself.

Undoubtedly, part of this is psychological. A woman has to want to do it. You have to remember that a hysterectomy is a terrible trauma to the body; it can be a terrible trauma to the mind. A little shopping and some wine won’t fix it. Give her room to heal, physically and mentally. Her hormones are different now. Everything is different now. She needs to talk to her doctor about rediscovering her sexuality about hysterectomy, if this goes on for a really extended period of time. She needs love and support. She could benefit from talking to other women who’ve gone through it as well. She deserves a great sex life, too.

 

[950483]

I think that the REAL PROBLEM IS PSYCHOLOGICAL ..

Just like most women's health issues then?
I guess it could become a psychological issue if there is pressure, expectation, entitlement, whining, wheedling, a lack of compassion or understanding, or any of that severely unattractive behaviour going on. If that's the case, then the psychological issue is yours, and her not wanting sex would be a completely normal reaction.

If I was to find myself in your wife's situation I like to think that I would want my sex life and my orgasms back, and would be trying to find a solution - for myself, not for anyone else. I wouldn't want to find a solution with someone who had become a bore or a drag though.

Obviously for the both of us the situation is very frustrating but we are trying to change some aspects of our marriage..(Good cusine,trips ,shopping..even if it's not easy...)

So the lack of sex is frustrating for you, and in turn, your frustration is alienating and frustrating her. What is the difficulty with the other aspects of your marriage? Why would good cuisine, trips, and shopping not be easy? If the whole situation has created resentment in either of you, then that is the thing that needs to be addressed first and foremost.

 

[Holly Doors]

I know and have also met women who have had either hysterectomy's or had chemo and radiotherapy treatment to their lady bits, as with everything every case is different but a few have told me they've been left completely numb unfortunately. Some say they find sex painful since while some have been lucky and not experienced much difference, I don't think it's all in her head tho hunni!

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I wanna start a thread in the ask a man section... Say some stupid shit about how I knew of a situation where a guy got his dick-head cut off in some necessary medical procedure and talk more stupid shit about how his lack of orgasm is "all in his head".

I'd be more accurate. That's pretty much the only way it makes any fucking sense and it's still stupid as shit.

 

[918177]

God fucking save us from Mansplaining.

 

[AlteredEgo]

For me, most of an orgasm IS uterine contractions. It's like this. There is a sensation in one of my erogenous zones, that builds and builds, then there is a sense of a pop, or explosion that radiates from that point, punctuated by contractions. When the contractions end, that is the end of my orgasm. Oh, man. I never thought about this before. The contractions are the beginning and end of my climax. What is an orgasm without it? Is it just a perpetual state of unsatisfied arousal? Holy shit. It never occurred to me it might be like that, but it makes sense.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

Sex has pretty much remained the same as in sensation since my total abdominal hysterectomy 7 years ago.