Ladies, how would you feel if a guy you dated...

[KinkyFunExhibitionist]

Has done gay themed porn and stripping? Would it be a deal breaker? A turn on? A non-issue? Something else?

 

[SubbySlutForBigDick]

If he had done gay themed porn I'd feel I was being used as an experiment at first, stripping wouldn't be an issue I'd in fact ask him to strip for me

 

[KinkyFunExhibitionist]

If he had done gay themed porn I'd feel I was being used as an experiment at first, stripping wouldn't be an issue I'd in fact ask him to strip for me

I do enjoy stripping for gfs... the reactions I got to the porn was more shock or jealousy that I did it.

 

[KinkyFunExhibitionist]

If he had done gay themed porn I'd feel I was being used as an experiment at first, stripping wouldn't be an issue I'd in fact ask him to strip for me

Would you prefer a guy who strips or has stripped for men, for women, or wouldn't it matter? Some exes preferred I strip for men and would get very upset if I did a show for women

 

[SubbySlutForBigDick]

Would you prefer a guy who strips or has stripped for men, for women, or wouldn't it matter? Some exes preferred I strip for men and would get very upset if I did a show for women

If it was before we'd met id probably not care but if he was still doing it I'd probably get a little jealous if it was women but would secretly be thinking I get to touch when u cant

 

[Acquar]

I'd probably never date a guy who does or has done porn of any kind... but gay or not, I couldn't care less.

 

[KinkyFunExhibitionist]

If it was before we'd met id probably not care but if he was still doing it I'd probably get a little jealous if it was women but would secretly be thinking I get to touch when u cant

That’s a cool attitude

I'd probably never date a guy who does or has done porn of any kind... but gay or not, I couldn't care less.

fair enough. May I ask why? Just the potential recognition? The stigma? Some other reason?

I always believe it’s better to let it be known as opposed to someone I’m dating seeing it

 

[Acquar]

That’s a cool attitude

fair enough. May I ask why? Just the potential recognition? The stigma? Some other reason?

I always believe it’s better to let it be known as opposed to someone I’m dating seeing it

I'm quite... very reserved and timid, I could never do porn myself. Plus, what I enjoy the most about sex is intimacy. I just tend to attract (and feel attraction to) guys alike... Anyway, let's suppose it happened: I don't know how I'd react, I'd probably be in shock for a while and then get used to the idea... no, it wouldn't turn me on though.

Sure, you should be open about it with your partner.

 

[KinkyFunExhibitionist]

That’s cool. Thank you for your perspective. It’s something that is tough to gauge how and when to bring up.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

This is kinda nuanced but not too the point I can't answer.

I'm not opposed to being with any person who has done porn depending on their current life circumstances and the decisions they make to handle those circumstances. That sounds judgy as fuck, however... I wouldn't even be turned off by someone who wanted to do it just to have the experience as long as they took responsibility for their health, both physical and mental as necessary.

This is actually a complicated question with answers that vary depending on individual situations and motivations.

The idea of my partner having a sexually complicated past isn't an automatic deal breaker though. My sexual history is the type that people judge. I live in a glass house and I have a fetish for glass itself. So I can't throw stones unless I'm ready to get all the way off using the shards as toys.

If my guy was to ask me right now "would you be mad if I wanted to make money doing gay porn?" My answer would absolutely be "as long as you take care of your health and get off make that money fucker".

If I had the chance to make homosexual flicks he'd be fine with it. I don't see why I should feel and differently.

Sex work is work. People in the industry deserve health care. They're providing a service which will never not be in demand. They don't deserve to be abused or coerced, but all too often they are.

So, it's not an absolute "yes" from me, but it's definitely not a "no" either.

 

[KinkyFunExhibitionist]

This is kinda nuanced but not too the point I can't answer.

I'm not opposed to being with any person who has done porn depending on their current life circumstances and the decisions they make to handle those circumstances. That sounds judgy as fuck, however... I wouldn't even be turned off by someone who wanted to do it just to have the experience as long as they took responsibility for their health, both physical and mental as necessary.

This is actually a complicated question with answers that vary depending on individual situations and motivations.

The idea of my partner having a sexually complicated past isn't an automatic deal breaker though. My sexual history is the type that people judge. I live in a glass house and I have a fetish for glass itself. So I can't throw stones unless I'm ready to get all the way off using the shards as toys.

If my guy was to ask me right now "would you be mad if I wanted to make money doing gay porn?" My answer would absolutely be "as long as you take care of your health and get off make that money fucker".

If I had the chance to make homosexual flicks he'd be fine with it. I don't see why I should feel and differently.

Sex work is work. People in the industry deserve health care. They're providing a service which will never not be in demand. They don't deserve to be abused or coerced, but all too often they are.

So, it's not an absolute "yes" from me, but it's definitely not a "no" either.

Thanks for your perspective. I agree that it is complicated. People sometimes like the idea of certain things when a relationship is casual/beginning but change when things get beyond the superficial.

I agree with your points about sex work. Honestly the worst sex work for men from my perspective - from footage being leaked, to unstable pay, to making 25% ofwhat people tip you (before 1099s), to being in uncomfortable positions for hours, to getting really really weird requests - is cam modeling. Definitely my least fav gig.

Also, your response has me interested in glass fetishes now. I’m curious and wondering how that works. You don’t have to elaborate, but feel free to explain if you’d like!

 

[Scarletbegonia]

I’m curious why the “gay themed” for porn or stripping. Could you clarify why male to male?

I dated someone who was just about a dick for hire. He had a couple, that he knew through a sport they liked, who would text and have him join for escapades. They paid his travel, and hosted him well. No 1099s.

I asked that while we were together, no additional sex partners. Paid or not didn’t matter.
He agreed. We’ve chatted a few times over t( years since then, and they still call. He isn’t inclined to go anymore.

Current partner had meet ups with a few guys over the years. A couple repeat performances. Mostly while traveling with work.

Again, my ask is monogamy. (And clear tests)


I’ve known many sex workers. Few had good lives. Good in the moment, perhaps. Too many were addicts, or trafficked (I used to work with a group getting trafficked people out), or had major mental and emotional issues.

Those would give me pause over the porn/stripping history.

 

[KinkyFunExhibitionist]

I’m curious why the “gay themed” for porn or stripping. Could you clarify why male to male?

I dated someone who was just about a dick for hire. He had a couple, that he knew through a sport they liked, who would text and have him join for escapades. They paid his travel, and hosted him well. No 1099s.

I asked that while we were together, no additional sex partners. Paid or not didn’t matter.
He agreed. We’ve chatted a few times over t( years since then, and they still call. He isn’t inclined to go anymore.

Current partner had meet ups with a few guys over the years. A couple repeat performances. Mostly while traveling with work.

Again, my ask is monogamy. (And clear tests)


I’ve known many sex workers. Few had good lives. Good in the moment, perhaps. Too many were addicts, or trafficked (I used to work with a group getting trafficked people out), or had major mental and emotional issues.

Those would give me pause over the porn/stripping history.

Well I started stripping in gay clubs (before I ever did anything remotely bi) and the tips were really good plus I had fun. The porn gigs stemmed from that and gay stuff is just way more in demand. I never was a top or bottom in anal in any scene. The vids I did consisted of me jerking off, getting jerked off and getting sucked off.

One ex gf watched out of curiousity and was jealous at how erect I got and at how intense my cumshot was and it became a source of conflict.

Moving forward I'm just not sure as to how best to A) break it to someone that I've done it and B) deal with potential awkwardness that follows.

 

[EllieP]

I married a man who readily admits how promiscuous he was in his past life. That is of no concern to me.

When he proved he was healthy he was mine. I do not ask him about his past because I do not care to know. I know enough. He doesn't ask me about mine. Fair is fair, although I could well be considered a virgin compared to his prowess.

I have had no influence over his past. It's done.

 

[KinkyFunExhibitionist]

I married a man who readily admits how promiscuous he was in his past life. That is of no concern to me.

When he proved he was healthy he was mine. I do not ask him about his past because I do not care to know. I know enough. He doesn't ask me about mine. Fair is fair, although I could well be considered a virgin compared to his prowess.

I have had no influence over his past. It's done.

Very cool

 

[Scarletbegonia]

So, is it your past? Sealed and gone?

 

[KinkyFunExhibitionist]

So, is it your past? Sealed and gone?

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I still strip but I quit doing vids. Stripping has slowed considerably since covid so it's a seasonal thing - April through early October. That's more of a side gig and the issues with that are more like someone potentially getting jealous of the situation but parties are more of a novelty

 

[KinkyFunExhibitionist]

So, is it your past? Sealed and parties are more of a novelty

The last reply I noticed a typo so i deleted the original and I copy/pasted it for the revision. It looks like it also copied the bottom part of the post and it's like links to nowhere or something! I'm still learning this site

 

[Scarletbegonia]

So you are a current sex worker.

that would be a no go for me.

 

[KinkyFunExhibitionist]

So you are a current sex worker.

that would be a no go for me.

Right on. Stripping I guess is considered sex work though a lot of times -like at male revue type shows- it's nothing more than dudes in underwear doing Zumba lol