Learned quite late [27] that I'm bigger than average.

RaskaYu

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Quite a few of you have been curious and asked me through DM about how in the world I could be 20 × 14 [cm] ~ 8 × 5½ [in] and “recently realised it's bigger than average.”

It’s a bit more complicated so I’ll put this here as better as I could and spare me from typing in the future.

Also, some friends I've talked this issue with have had similar body perception issues in the past and are by no means small either. This might be your case, and I think it's an important issue we shall discuss more honestly at a society level and without embarrasment. And lastly, my heart goes to you if you're small, as I was a late bloomer and suffered the same inadequate feelings.
 
PART 1 — THE LOVERS

Until recently, I’ve always been a huge grower and very susceptible of temperature changes.

As a young man, it was logical that I would compare at locker rooms and feel a bit dismayed. My erect length was special, I was 19 cm ~ 7.5 in long at 18 years old, though not so thick as it is today. My first girlfriend was in love with my measurements and contrasted with her friends, and out of their few boyfriends put together, I was the biggest. We spent week after week trying to fuck properly as she was super tight and wasn’t even accustomed to using tampons.

Over the years, my girlfriends, fwbs and hookups politely complimented but didn’t seem to go crazy, and, aside of the “comparing with boyfriends” episode, I didn’t have much Big dick reputation in my friend/acquaintance group. Nevertheless, if anybody (i.e. a jealous guy) commented that I looked like I’d be small down there, a lover of mine would come to the rescue and stop the rumors. I guarantee you that is definitely NOT the case! :p sort of exchange. All the women I’ve had were smart and sophisticated, not likely to be caught in hearsay and sex gossip. I’ve always had a great relationship with my exes and I thank them a lot for covering my back. That’s some nice guy with a big dick reputation right there.

Some fond memories I have, for example, include getting invited to climb to a friends bed during a sleepover and she commented I was huge while giving me a handjob. Another was masturbating with a fwb who had broken up recently with a guy she had been with for a very long time, one of her very first boyfriends. She enjoyed so much the view of my meat, veins and moves (i.e. slapping, two-hander…) that she forgot to finger herself. She commented it was the biggest she had ever seen until then. Still puts me rock hard to this day.

On the other hand some casual sex positions were off-limits.— The two fwb I had that were available for “quickies” were on the pill, horny as fuck all the time and had experience with a monstercock ex-boyfriend. I asked about them what they thought of my size and were like “Not as big as my ex, you should have seen that!” and one commented of the aforementioned fwb that "if yours was the biggest she had ever seen, she had to be lying or trippin’". Cool, just because your ex played in the NBA that doesn't mean I'm not quite taller than the national average. Thank you very much. Damn bitches ¬¬ :joy:

>>> I feel like that some college age women haven’t had many romantic partners so they may don’t know what to expect when a guy drops his pants. They may even expect some real monster cock like it’s Tuesday thinking those are habitual, for example, if they’ve been watching lots of porn. In this regard, I remember a russian girl who was into lots of erotic artsy Tumblr porn accounts. She gave me an incredible two-hander blowjob and that was it. I found thought provoking that she did not comment on my size... (and she had explored every square inch of that meat thoroughly)... but she complemented my broad pecs, shoulders and man rug. Ok I guess... we had a very cold "hipster" detached relationship. :confused:

I met my wife years ago and over time my penis got quite thicker and even grew in length. She loves me madly and has always loved my size, though she’s incredibly discrete and won’t tell anybody, not even her closest friends, even if they begged for insights. She just hates to discuss bedroom stuff in the open, as anyone could hear. :eek:

A few months ago I had a serious talk with her and I simply blurted out: “Girl, have you noticed I’m actually… big?” and she looked at me surprised and laughed and said “Yes of course I’ve NOTICED you are huge what’s the matter, tiger?” We spoke seriously and turns out she had a lot of luck with her past boyfriends and enjoyed some prime cock, but mine's the biggest and hardest she's ever seen. She never watches anything remotely resembling porn so that may even be true. Why am I learning this after more than 5 years into this relationship? :joy::joy::joy:
 
PART 2 — THE WORLD

In reality, I’ve always known I was somewhat bigger than average.

I’ve always been nerdy and loved to read trivia/science magazines and once in a while a “Penis Size Average Study” would pop out and those have always been the same, at least the ones that reported the size in Spain. Also, I grew up with Wikipedia and Google and I could type three words, “Average Penis Size”, in the search box and find the results. Thus, I knew I was several centimeters (even inches) over the average.

Nevertheless, an average can be too abstract to fathom. Does it mean that there are a lot of monsters and micropenis out there and somehow the data points to a modest but ficticious average? Where do all these hung guys in porn and webcams come from? What if said average is an artificial figure? Just like when the population survey indicates an average of 1.75 children per house. Who the fuck gives birth to three quarters of a kid? :joy:

Then I found The Big Dick Guide and some related articles about flaccid and erect penis size, condom sizing and so and learnt how my dick size implies that I'm 1 in 1,000 or similar "exclusive" figures. And that Penis Size Data follows a Gauss bell / Normal distribution. I got screwed hard by Inferential Statistics in college and I studied the major distributions... and I know how rare Gauss bell standard deviations quickly become. It turned out the opposite of a ficticious average. Virtually "everybody" is in the realm of the average and there are very very few of the micro and macro. Damn, turns out I'm gifted?! :eek:

Also, the realisation that there aren't cocks bigger than 10 inches (until proven otherwise) gave me reassurance that I was pretty fucking big, because I used to believe porn inches and girl inches claims. If you're putting it inside of you it a few inches more would count a lot, but comparing two random objects? Take a ruler and tell me 20 cm looks much much much bigger than 18 cm. It's ridiculous. An inch here and there isn't much. You're telling me I'm just a couple inches short of a porn legend? That's not what I used to think looking at performers like Tony Duncan aka Mr. 18 Inches (!!!)

A 9 incher is not "much" bigger than a 7 incher and so. The "problem" arises when a 9+ is compared against a small to average penis and it looks like it doubles it in length. Those contrasts can be dramatic, but it's a contrast that's unlikely to occur in real life unless you're, well, gay... Some people have tiny hands, some people have huge hands. It's more of the same. I play music and have huge long-span hands and other musicians can get pretty jealous of it, for example, female piano players with tiny hands, who suffer the standard of a key width that was imposed in XIXth century Europe and ensured few people could actually play those gorgeous piano concertos.

As I'm mostly straight and a bit of a size queen (I love the weird, grotesque and rare and spend a lot of time on the internet, yeah), I only saw erect cocks in porn and those misrepresent badly the average size. Also CAMERA TRICKS are a very real thing. Trust me, I'm a sci-fi movie buff too and worked in music videos, made art props and so. If done right the final product can be dramatic.

So here I am learning about life with a big dick, finding myself relating to a lot of experiences you guys tell, and I'm open to all your recommendations for having the best big dick life possible. For example, going commando and sleeping naked really made a difference, as I used to be a grower but now I'm nicely at 15 cm ~6 in soft.

Now I'm definitely regretting not being naked and showing off more often when I was younger and single!
 
SOME AFTERTHOUGHTS & CONCLUSION

Here are some thoughts and summations on the matter.

– Haven't done the math properly, but even if I was truly 1 in 1,000 that would mean that in a city of 1,000,000 people there are at least 500 dicks comparable to mine and even much bigger. (Assuming a 1:1 male to female ratio) — compared with "statistically big numbers" this isn't an extremely rare superpower worthy of attention. Also, I'd be just slightly bigger than a lot of other guys that are right behind me, rendering mine identical to them. Some of them will be bigger, of course, and then you'll have the outlier, the kind of absolute monster that looks almost outside the realm of sanity.

– Having a big dick is an interesting feeling but not better than having an average or smaller dick. If yours works fine, celebrate. What it truly counts is to be excellent to each other, respect and nurture your loved ones. ~And crush the skulls of your enemies.~

A measurement is just a number. I've had acquaintances getting jealous just by me having 2 cm more in length. Pick a ruler and tell me thats a noticeable difference. A whole inch or even more can be a silly difference in the bedroom, everything depends on mood and a ton of external factors. Keep that in mind.

– We humans are over-programmed to check the competition out and overestimate threats in nature. If you find two spiders and one has a leg span of three inches more than the other, oh you're going to be startled and want to run or crush it. A similar thing happens with dicks. We don't get violent, but a truly big unexpected sight can feel reality-bending. :joy:

– If it were up to me I'd give all of you 7" at the very least and then you could start wondering if you'd appreciate more or less and taking steps towards your ideal size... We're entering the motherfucking 2nd quarter of the 21st century and this penis enlargement market is full of quacks and misinformation. Until some miracle pill is discovered, don't be discouraged by what's outside of your control. Just own it. Just like in Full Metal Jacket, Rifleman's Creed - Wikipedia... "There are many other rifles but this is mine." Take great care of your tool.

It's worth it to say it again: DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF TO PORN. As you're probably not as tall as the guys at NBA, and you're probably not as big as the porn actors. At the same time, you may well be as big as some of them, because you haven't experienced the beauty and techniques of great camera tricks. Some porn actors aren't really that big, and others are absolute monsters. Keep your head cool and be critical with the media you consume.

Thanks for reading.
Be excellent to each other and stay cool.
 
the funny thing with me--i knew my cock was big as i tended to be bigger than many of the guys around me--but it wasnt until one night when got a webcam and did some show and tell with some guys on there---and when i first saw my cock on the computer screen i was like--whose cock is that--and the guy on other end says it was my cock as he wasnt that big--after seeing it i began to wonder if i am fucking women/men too hard so i began to go easier unless they wanted it harder
 
Interesting experiences… thanks for sharing!

I too didn’t realize that i was “big” until later in life, after I was married. Women I was with in high school and college had commented on me being “big” but I just thought they were being flirty. I remember seeing my first smut magazines that had sex scenes and thinking that I looked bigger than those guys, but never really thought I was “big”. Then with Watching porn since the invention of the internet (which was after I was married) it also skewed my perception. I’ve always gravitated toward big dick porn so I saw myself as “looking similar”. I even remember my first time seeing a John Holmes porno and thinking that he looked bigger than me but not “astronomically huge”….
I dated one girl in college who had slept with a couple of the black football players and when she commented that I was larger than them it did start to sink in (not saying the stereotype is an absolute but she certainly thought so…)
Then after being married and getting my wife’s honest feedback and hearing about her telling her friends about my size, i started believing it more. With sites today on the internet (like LPSG) I feel like I’m getting more perspective and honest feedback and some trustworthy data that does confirm it. But yea, definitely a late bloomer and wish I would have understood earlier!
 
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