Magic wand

[shamrockfaced]

The post earlier (re: Magic Wand) got me thinking about this.... But since I'm not allowed to comment, I figured I'd create a new topic on the subject.

My SO does not use a vibrator (that I know about... Lol!). Over the past few years we've acquired a few toys to experiment with. Thru this we've discovered that she really gets off on anal play and that has been fun. We have a vibrator that we purchased (it's pretty cheap).
She doesn't get off on it at all. She tells me it's 'more annoying' than anything. She is, however big on clitoral stimulation and most of her orgasms come from clitoral stimulus.

I've heard about the wonder of the magic wand, and have neen wondered about getting this. But it's a decent investment. Is this thing really the universal gift from God that many women claim it Is?

I'm not sure if the 'annoying' vibrator is indicative of how she'd feel about the wand. BTW, we've talked about getting a 'really nice' one recently... Just not sure what the answer is since the first foray was a disappointment.

Also, What would you think if your man bought you one?

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I know a woman who doesn't enjoy vibrating on her clit because it's too intense for her and it makes her "skip her orgasm" in her words. She didn't use the word annoying though.

My guy knows that if he were to bring a new toy into our sex life I want to be part of the choosing process. He wouldn't "surprise" me with a sex toy.

 

[EllieP]

I'm on my second Hitachi. I literally burned the first one up. This is just a vote. It's not an instruction manual because I don't know what model your SO is. Every model is wired so differently, so what works for me may not work for her. In fact, it probably won't work for her unless you talk to her about it.

There is no way in the world my husband would surprise me with a toy. He know I'm happy with what I have, and there's no use trying to fix what ain't broke.

 

[MickeyLee]

A cheap vibrator doesn't have the ompf to get most women off. Think of the difference between a mosquito buzz and a subwoofer bumping bass. You want the heavy base. Ideally things on the night stand should vibrate like the water in Jurassic Park.

Unfortunately these kinds of toys are not returnable. I suggest doing the nose test. A quality sex shop will have an out of the box vibe to test. You turn the vibe to a medium setting and place it on the tip of your nose. If it tickles the vibe is too weak. You are looking for umpf and a vibration pattern you like.

Likes I typed in the other thread, a magic wand, the Hitachi Magic Wand, will blow her hair back. The down side is the eventual numbing from vibration and dependency on high intensity clitoral stimulus to achieve orgasm.

Invest in a good quality vide at a lower price point than the Hitachi. Go to the shop together to test out the models and follow her feedback. If she likes it put ya cash down on the platinum package.

 

[sweetlucky12]

A cheap vibrator doesn't have the ompf to get most women off. Think of the difference between a mosquito buzz and a subwoofer bumping bass. You want the heavy base. Ideally things on the night stand should vibrate like the water in Jurassic Park.

Unfortunately these kinds of toys are not returnable. I suggest doing the nose test. A quality sex shop will have an out of the box vibe to test. You turn the vibe to a medium setting and place it on the tip of your nose. If it tickles the vibe is too weak. You are looking for umpf and a vibration pattern you like.

Likes I typed in the other thread, a magic wand, the Hitachi Magic Wand, will blow her hair back. The down side is the eventual numbing from vibration and dependency on high intensity clitoral stimulus to achieve orgasm.

Invest in a good quality vide at a lower price point than the Hitachi. Go to the shop together to test out the models and follow her feedback. If she likes it put ya cash down on the platinum package.

This is all excellent advice I would never have considered. I love these thoughtful answers.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Forgot to mention that with sex toys, you really do get what you pay for. If you get a cheap one, expect to be underwhelmed with the performance.

A high dollar dildo/vibrator is worth the cash.

 

[nailz]

You can buy Magic Wand knockoffs from China for like $15 including shipping that aren't too bad.
I'm sure they're less durable than the original but they can give you an idea if the wand style vibrator is for you before you invest in an original that costs much more. Outlet powered wand vibrators are clunky and huge and powerful so they're not for everyone, some women even have to use a towel between the massage head and their clit because even on low the vibrations were too intense (the original only has two settings: low, which is like 5x as powerful as battery powered vibrators, and high which is strong enough to vibrate you right off the bed )

I gave two of my friends Magic Wand knockoffs for Christmas last year and they're in love with them
I tested them (in my hand! ) and they seem like 80% as powerful as the original with many more programs.

 

[693987]

There are also things you can get to create more settings for a magic wand, too. Make the vibration less strong. Can't suggest a brand, but I know they're out there. A couple I was considering joining as their third had one for their Hitachi.

 

[shamrockfaced]

Once again, our ladies have delivered. Thank you. I hope I can keep coming here with random questions because you all always help. There's alot of rabble on this site and it's good to get real, no bs, answers.

And as a note of clarification.... I would never buy something like this on my own. She definitely would have the most input and selection... But the actual purchase and gift may be a surprise. One thing I've learned is that I still have tons to learn. Two years ago, if I was going to to buy a sex toy for her, I would have probably ended up with something like a mandingo replica dildo assuming that's what would get her aroused. Now, I know that definitely would Not flip the trigger and would likely make her run and hide and/or laugh at me.

But all of this input is beneficial as the world of sex toys is so vast, sometimes it's hard to even know where to start. And also, for people who are new to this it can be a bit overwhelming.

Thinking about things... We may need to hold off on this for logistics reasons. We have kids, and have to take great care to be discreet in our activities. We would need to keep it in a discreet location and those Hitachi's look pretty big. We recently discovered one of our kids was complaining to his friend about how awful it was to hear his mom "moaning and screaming all night long". We thought we were being quiet. Oops.

 

[nailz]

The thing is that Magic Wands, especially the generic white original, look so innocent that most people have no clue what they are (unless they already own one or visit Kink.com alot). When I was in high school I found one in my aunt's drawer and just thought it was a back massager

I've even seen them at yard sales

 

[shamrockfaced]

The thing is that Magic Wands, especially the generic white original, look so innocent that most people have no clue what they are (unless they already own one or visit Kink.com alot). When I was in high school I found one in my aunt's drawer and just thought it was a back massager

I've even seen them at yard sales

I actually have a vague memory of a relative getting one for Christmas many years ago. My girl and I just looked at each other and smirked... However we have teenage boys now. There's very little (related to sex) that they don't pick up on these days. Ha ha. The thought of them finding it plugged in under the bed is mortifying!

 

[shamrockfaced]

A down side is the eventual numbing from vibration and dependency on high intensity clitoral stimulus to achieve orgasm.

This is a legitimate concern of mine. I remember watching videos from Wifey's world years ago.. She never could achieve orgasm without a wand or vibrator.

 

[AlteredEgo]

The post earlier (re: Magic Wand) got me thinking about this.... But since I'm not allowed to comment, I figured I'd create a new topic on the subject.

My SO does not use a vibrator (that I know about... Lol!). Over the past few years we've acquired a few toys to experiment with. Thru this we've discovered that she really gets off on anal play and that has been fun. We have a vibrator that we purchased (it's pretty cheap).
She doesn't get off on it at all. She tells me it's 'more annoying' than anything. She is, however big on clitoral stimulation and most of her orgasms come from clitoral stimulus.

I've heard about the wonder of the magic wand, and have neen wondered about getting this. But it's a decent investment. Is this thing really the universal gift from God that many women claim it Is?

I'm not sure if the 'annoying' vibrator is indicative of how she'd feel about the wand. BTW, we've talked about getting a 'really nice' one recently... Just not sure what the answer is since the first foray was a disappointment.

Also, What would you think if your man bought you one?

I find clitoral vibration irritating. I do like clitoral stimulation. I strongly prefer licking or rubbing. Pressure feels good too. I really dislike anything meant to vibrate my clit. I do, however, like rabbits. The little ears don't feel like vibration, but rather (to me) like fast, soft, rubbing. In fact, this dude once ate me and felt like my rabbit. Never was I more impressed by that skill.

Tried the Hitachi Wand. Hated it.

 

[286798]

I don't have/haven't tried a Magic Wand... I prefer things that are less bulky so they can easily be used during sex. When I was first separated, I bucked up for a Lelo... one of the few that was gentle enough for long sessions on my clit and still packed enough punch for g-spot play. Plus, true to my avatar, it's waterproof. Found on Amazon for way cheaper than the local toy store.

But y'all have me thinking about the Hitachi.

 

[AlteredEgo]

I don't have/haven't tried a Magic Wand... I prefer things that are less bulky so they can easily be used during sex. When I was first separated, I bucked up for a Lelo... one of the few that was gentle enough for long sessions on my clit and still packed enough punch for g-spot play. Plus, true to my avatar, it's waterproof. Found on Amazon for way cheaper than the local toy store.

But y'all have me thinking about the Hitachi.

I love my Lelos.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

I know a woman who doesn't enjoy vibrating on her clit because it's too intense for her and it makes her "skip her orgasm" in her words. She didn't use the word annoying though.

My guy knows that if he were to bring a new toy into our sex life I want to be part of the choosing process. He wouldn't "surprise" me with a sex toy.

This! want to make a surprise? Plan a “date” to shop.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

A cheap vibrator doesn't have the ompf to get most women off. Think of the difference between a mosquito buzz and a subwoofer bumping bass. You want the heavy base. Ideally things on the night stand should vibrate like the water in Jurassic Park.

Unfortunately these kinds of toys are not returnable. I suggest doing the nose test. A quality sex shop will have an out of the box vibe to test. You turn the vibe to a medium setting and place it on the tip of your nose. If it tickles the vibe is too weak. You are looking for umpf and a vibration pattern you like.

Likes I typed in the other thread, a magic wand, the Hitachi Magic Wand, will blow her hair back. The down side is the eventual numbing from vibration and dependency on high intensity clitoral stimulus to achieve orgasm.

Invest in a good quality vide at a lower price point than the Hitachi. Go to the shop together to test out the models and follow her feedback. If she likes it put ya cash down on the platinum package.

I’m now thinking that the dudes in base-thumping cars are actually driving their personal ball vibrators. And that is why they can’t hear that some of the cones are torn in their speakers.

 

[EllieP]

I’m now thinking that the dudes in base-thumping cars are actually driving their personal ball vibrators. And that is why they can’t hear that some of the cones are torn in their speakers.

LOL! Reminds me of when we were just married. We were walking down the street when this car pulls up next to us, then he proceeds to peel out and there's screeching and smoke everywhere. My husband asked "Does that turn you on?" I said "Not in the least." He then said "Oh no! All these years we had it all wrong!"

Wrong mating call for me, that's for sure!

 

[shamrockfaced]

I find clitoral vibration irritating. I do like clitoral stimulation. I strongly prefer licking or rubbing. Pressure feels good too. I really dislike anything meant to vibrate my clit. I do, however, like rabbits. The little ears don't feel like vibration, but rather (to me) like fast, soft, rubbing. In fact, this dude once ate me and felt like my rabbit. Never was I more impressed by that skill.

Tried the Hitachi Wand. Hated it.

She's mentioned rabbitd before so we may have to explore this.

I think you point out an interesting distinction that i hadnt thought of...and is true of her. She has mentioned vibration is annoying/irritating but definitly loves clitoral stimulation.

On a funny note, she visited a spa with a friend on friday and used one of those jetted massage beds. She came home and told me: " omg, if i had positioned my hips just right on that jet, i probably could have orgasmed right there". Now I'm wondering if i need to send her to the massage bed more often, or try to replicate it at home!

I think it was the pressure/stimulation that really got her off.

 

[MickeyLee]

*grin* bathtub faucet orgasms. Hands free masturbation at it's finest. A precursor of the pulsating shower head.

Now I would feel like I'm wasting water, but back in the day, aguagasm was my jam.

Haha masturbation memory lane.