masculinity

[tyfromtexas]

i have these 2 coworkers who i would definitely say are masculine men and sometimes it’s just us shooting the shit at work when it’s slow.

as a gay person i’m not the most masculine person and lately i’ve been wanting to express that side of me more but the thing i have no idea how to “be a man”

i wanna know what YOU PERSONALLY define as being a man or being masculine, etc, etc

 

[huguest]

Being a Man as nothing to do with been gay or straight. Is more to do with confidence I think.

Believing in yourself will do wonder. Men will find is purpose in been a provider, a resourceful person for is people.

 

[ronin001]

I am in a lazy mood, so I will just say read @huguest previous comment

 

[tyfromtexas]

Being a Man as nothing to do with been gay or straight. Is more to do with confidence I think.

Believing in yourself will do wonder. Men will find is purpose in been a provider, a resourceful person for is people.

see the thing is there absolutely a difference between gay masculinity and straight masculinity. like i’m confident no doubt about it but when it comes to presenting more masculine that’s where i fall

 

[huguest]

see the thing is there absolutely a difference between gay masculinity and straight masculinity. like i’m confident no doubt about it but when it comes to presenting more masculine that’s where i fall

Everybody got feminine side and a masculine side inside of them. The feminine side is more caring, charming, delicate.
The masculine side is more robust, strong, capable.
Gay masculinity, is more aim at charming.

It's hard to redefine yourself, because you like to be you and your fine the way you are.
What's your point of trying to be something else? Friend will take you the way you are.

Straight men often act the way they act because of family, responsibility, they don't "charm" or show. They deal with what is right to provide security and love to their family. In that sense, they have a different presence then gay men.

I have a gay friend that adopted a kid, he changed a lot in that sense. He's still gay but is focus and confidence changed to more masculine (provider). I would say.

 

[longstroke7]

i have these 2 coworkers who i would definitely say are masculine men and sometimes it’s just us shooting the shit at work when it’s slow.

as a gay person i’m not the most masculine person and lately i’ve been wanting to express that side of me more but the thing i have no idea how to “be a man”

i wanna know what YOU PERSONALLY define as being a man or being masculine, etc, etc

Be yourself. That's all that it means.

You're a man. That's all that matters. You can be gay, straight, bi, whatever. All that matters is that you're living your truth. Masculinity isn't something that should be put in a box. That's the problem with us men...the world has told us that we're not "man enough" if we don't behave a certain way or like certain things. It's all bullshit.

 

[Oldcowboy]

Hmmmmm…….perhaps it’s the stress of ‘being a man’—-and the relief from——that makes so many of my prominent, manly, assertive, take charge—-and usually married——friends——such superb cocksuckers!

 

[cockpusy]

masculinity for me is about looks. masculine visuais. hunter's eyes, square face, intimidating face, square body with muscles. It's not about behavior. Acting aggressively, confidently, I don't think it's being masculine, it's just an action, a way of expressing yourself. Women can be bossy and that doesn't make them masculine. emotions, feelings are universal, there is no gender.

 

[deleted25644191]

Masculinity for me is about self confidence and the way a person carries and expresses themselves. They are the sort of people who never have a bad word to say about someone or raise their voice.

 

[Evenflow618]

Masculinity: Protective
Femininity: Nurturing

 

[ronin001]

 

[Sagittarius84]

Masculinity: Protective
Femininity: Nurturing

I don't think its that simple, the idea of the protective "mama bear" is very ubiquitous and in line with femininity, and we know statistically some of the best parents(as per objective metrics) are single fathers, and I don't think anyone would conflate their superiority in nurturing as a sleight of their masculinity.
In all honesty, I think the strict adherence to the word association you provided is an easy way out/scapegoat for men or women whom are not getting what they want(or getting approached by what they want)

 

[cofrader]

see the thing is there absolutely a difference between gay masculinity and straight masculinity. like i’m confident no doubt about it but when it comes to presenting more masculine that’s where i fall

Were the comments helpful? Agree with @huguest and most.
Could you clarify the situation why you want to change, just for your coworkers?
The phrase be a man could mean stop whining about something. You are a man.
I knew a man who was gay but I wouldn't have guessed in years he told us.
On the other side of the spectrum a friend of a friend was very effeminate turning every topic to sex was a little exhausting ok we got you with the first hint. Not sure which orientation he ended probably gay or bi.
My point is perhaps "by be a man" ment relax they know you are gay don't need a reminder every second soften it a little bit. But also they have to accept you otherwise I guess HR could help.

I'm not sure if the orientation of people around me I don't really care for me is more important that are good person.