So, I have a male coworker from whom I've just always gotten a "vibe" he has some latent bi-curiosity in him... (Don't ask me by what criteria I'm getting this vibe from; I just get feelings about certain people sometimes, and they've proven to be correct more times than not. If you are like this, too, then you know exactly what I mean.) I am a 28-year-old gay man, and the coworker in question is newly 21. When I first started at this job, he took more to me than to some of our other coworkers who he'd worked with for years there and who are all cool people to work and hang out with. He just never seemed to really be "open" with any of them, though, in the way he began to be open with me pretty quickly into my time here. We used to close at our store a lot together because our schedules were some of the only ones that could work for closing. He recently was broken up with by a girl who worked upstairs, whom he had been dating for a year. That was rough for him because while he didn't necessarily seem like he was super super into her, he definitely didn't want to be alone. During that time, he would always come over to me wherever I was on our sales floor and just hang around and especially wanted to just talk about his feelings with me regarding the breakup whenever it was mostly just us two. I can remember one day, we were both sequestered to our backstock to do backstock tasks, and when we finished, and I went to go back out to the floor, he actually said, "Wait, let's just stay back here and hang out." Now, granted, he didn't at all like to work and was very lazy and, ergo, took any opportunity to not do work, so I fully think that was the driving force behind that comment, but he only ever really wanted to open up to me about anything personal, especially his breakup. I obliged him, and we just kind of talked about how he was feeling, which was generally sad about everything, and stayed in the back for what must have been 30 minutes past the time we finished our tasks.
He is also a very immature, childish type of guy, feeling more like a glorified teen than a 21-year-old. For example, one day, I was in our backstock up on a ladder, and he came back there and literally stood at the foot of the ladder and stared at me in my eyes with this childish look about him for what must have been at least 2 minutes straight, totally silent, not really talking back when I would try to break the silence because it definitely felt kind of awkward and uncomfortable, him just staring at me in total silence when he could've been doing literally anything else. I actually felt uncomfortable in that moment of him staring at me because I actually felt this strange feeling of, like, "What does this mean...? Is he just being weird and immature, or...? Why is he staring at me like this?" He was very very immature and acted like a kid generally, so I think I chalk it up to that more than anything, but it was VERY weird, nonetheless.
The REAL experience I came here to share that kind of pinged him for me as potentially bi-curious is that one day, *apropos of absolutely nothing,* he was telling me how he and his group of guy friends, all around his age, took a photo of one of their friends on the toilet over a stall and got a pic of the friend's penis on the toilet. He then proceeded to further explain that every now and again, one of the friends will post this dick pic in their group chat in an effort to piss off the one friend. He proceeds to pull this pic up on his phone because HE KEPT IT in his phone gallery (is that not weird that he keeps it in his own phone gallery???), and he shows me his friend's dick on the toilet. Lol Now, I DID NOT ask to see it; he just pulled it up of his own volition and showed me. And he was particularly interested in the fact that this friend's penis was small, but the friend is Black. I felt the fact that he still had it on his phone was particularly suss... It very could be—and probably is—that it's just a thing among straight male "bros" to joke around in this manner, but idk... The whole thing just felt like he was particularly antsy to bring it up and to show me...
Now I have left that job, but we still send each other memes over DM, and the memes he sends are usually some sort of gay sexually humorous memes, and they're usually sexually charged, and that's what I find weird. Like, of all the memes to send... you want to go for the ones that are so horny? Lol I send him back, and this is our current relationship. I don't think he's even remotely aware of if he is curious or not, but a lot has made me feel that it may be latent in him...
What do you think?
He is also a very immature, childish type of guy, feeling more like a glorified teen than a 21-year-old. For example, one day, I was in our backstock up on a ladder, and he came back there and literally stood at the foot of the ladder and stared at me in my eyes with this childish look about him for what must have been at least 2 minutes straight, totally silent, not really talking back when I would try to break the silence because it definitely felt kind of awkward and uncomfortable, him just staring at me in total silence when he could've been doing literally anything else. I actually felt uncomfortable in that moment of him staring at me because I actually felt this strange feeling of, like, "What does this mean...? Is he just being weird and immature, or...? Why is he staring at me like this?" He was very very immature and acted like a kid generally, so I think I chalk it up to that more than anything, but it was VERY weird, nonetheless.
The REAL experience I came here to share that kind of pinged him for me as potentially bi-curious is that one day, *apropos of absolutely nothing,* he was telling me how he and his group of guy friends, all around his age, took a photo of one of their friends on the toilet over a stall and got a pic of the friend's penis on the toilet. He then proceeded to further explain that every now and again, one of the friends will post this dick pic in their group chat in an effort to piss off the one friend. He proceeds to pull this pic up on his phone because HE KEPT IT in his phone gallery (is that not weird that he keeps it in his own phone gallery???), and he shows me his friend's dick on the toilet. Lol Now, I DID NOT ask to see it; he just pulled it up of his own volition and showed me. And he was particularly interested in the fact that this friend's penis was small, but the friend is Black. I felt the fact that he still had it on his phone was particularly suss... It very could be—and probably is—that it's just a thing among straight male "bros" to joke around in this manner, but idk... The whole thing just felt like he was particularly antsy to bring it up and to show me...
Now I have left that job, but we still send each other memes over DM, and the memes he sends are usually some sort of gay sexually humorous memes, and they're usually sexually charged, and that's what I find weird. Like, of all the memes to send... you want to go for the ones that are so horny? Lol I send him back, and this is our current relationship. I don't think he's even remotely aware of if he is curious or not, but a lot has made me feel that it may be latent in him...
What do you think?
