MX | Brosexual Thread

[Brosexual]

Valued bros,

I'm launching this thread here because I believe it's the perfect space to discuss brosexuality and reclaiming our sexuality in a more nuanced way.

I've been navigating the digital landscape since before TikTok and Instagram dominated our screens, back when YouTube trends were the talk of the town. Those were perhaps simpler times, where the internet served not just as entertainment but as a more profound avenue for personal growth and exploring interests.

But here's something I've been pondering: What happened to truly exploring the person we are deeply fond of? Why has the act of intimacy become so mechanical? In today's world, where casual encounters are just a swipe away, have we lost the art of appreciating the person in front of us? I yearn for experiences where we watch our partner as if they're a masterpiece, where we read their body like poetry, where we connect not just physically but sensually with our touch.

Yes, engaging in casual hookups or sharing mutual pleasure with a bro is completely fine, and I advocate for the free exploration of our desires. However, there's a troubling trend where the endless swipe through sex-apps and consumption of pornographic media no longer values the individual but rather fixates on categories and algorithms that feed into our known preferences, often leaving us yearning for something more substantial. Yet due to the lifestyles of most, it is consumed like air is taken into our lungs.

A decade ago, I came out as gay to my family and friends. YouTube's MarkE Miller played a big role in shaping my views on identity and sensuality, and for that, I'm truuly grateful. But today, I find myself drifting from the mainstream gay identity. It feels like the community I knew has evolved into something less about personal connection and more about performance, especially for those of us who've grown up with the internet's influence.

I'm also being transparent here. I run accounts on Xwitter and OnlyFans (which I'll keep unnamed for now), where my focus isn't just on the act but on the storytelling, the tease, and the shared journey of pleasure and health. My aim is to use these platforms to explore sensuality beyond mere physicality, encouraging not just sexual satisfaction but a calm approach to well-being, including mental health, personal identity, and physical fitness.

My connection with the broader gay community is fading, and I'm seeking a space where we can communicate more humanely, where we can appreciate and understand each other beyond labels. For many, being 'gay' has become just a tagline, simplifying a complex identity into something mundane.

Let's use this thread to share what resonates with us. Post your thoughts, your content, your healthy practices. Let's redefine and explore what brosexuality means to each of us in a way that's respectful, deep, and meaningful.

Your bro, Ceu

 

[Christopher_James]

This is beyond me despite the very well explained post for some reason.

 

[Urien]

If you want me to really take this thread seriously, then divorce "bro" and "sexuality". Not only is it cringe, it associates the well documented and deep bond that is often shared between men with sex and romance - Which it more often does not include.

Attempting to "gayify" bro-ness and male connections is your first mistake. If I were to guess, it is because you are not completely ready to let go of your "gay identity", you just are sick of the poor brand image the "gay tagline" has garnered in recent years and are now proposing your own alternative tagline to make people feel better. I guess that is easier than attempting to do the work needed to clean up the "gay" brand.

Yes. You said you want no labels, but proceed to offer one yourself and casually impose it on the topic.

I'll say something good now. If this is a genuine attempt to grow and expand your awareness of yourself, then this is a decent first step. It can move you towards relieving yourself of a "gay identity" and come to terms with the more probably reality that there are no "gay men" - that phrase is just shorthand for "men who only have sexual relations with men". It describes a behavioral preference or pattern, not who you actually are. So who are you beyond the cocks and glory holes?

I said "genuine" btw because I can be quite cynical and my spidey sense is tingling ITT. It reminds me of some gay men who became "entrepreneurs" selling confused gay men, who have become disillusioned with the community, lifestyle tips and guides on how to be a man (i.e. a non-mainstream gay man). This is not good.

 

[Urien]

But here's something I've been pondering: What happened to truly exploring the person we are deeply fond of? Why has the act of intimacy become so mechanical? In today's world, where casual encounters are just a swipe away, have we lost the art of appreciating the person in front of us? I yearn for experiences where we watch our partner as if they're a masterpiece, where we read their body like poetry, where we connect not just physically but sensually with our touch.

Oh and this part, it sounds like poetry and not sustainable. You want your partner to feel like a masterpiece, that is equal parts romantic and insane. Lots of pressure and expectations. This rhetoric needs to be sober if you want to get to the truth.

I digress. If what you are actually interested in is instead deeper connections with other gay men, more sensual and communicative, then heterosexual women figured it out a long time ago. Monogamy, and don't fuck on the first date. It's not perfect, but it's the best we got so far to deal with the male animal. Because gay or straight, men are the same at the core.