My sexual activities

[malfoy1313]

Several years back I tried a hookup. It was not a good experience. Nothing bad happened. I just didn't like it and if im being honest i dont even think we did it right. I figured maybe it was just the guy i was with so i tried again with someone else and i was the same experience and both time kind of freaked me out
I've never been with anyone since. That was 5 years ago but recently.

I started fooling around with someone i know. We experimented and it was great. This is the first time I've enjoyed anything sexual with another person. I don't know if it's because I know him and he makes me feel safe. Sadly our fun is probably over. But I'm left wanting more So I've thought about trying hookup apps again. The only problem is Noone is ever really interested in me. And even if they were, I'm scared to try again.

 

[Oliverleo]

Several years back I tried a hookup. It was not a good experience. Nothing bad happened. I just didn't like it and if im being honest i dont even think we did it right. I figured maybe it was just the guy i was with so i tried again with someone else and i was the same experience and both time kind of freaked me out
I've never been with anyone since. That was 5 years ago but recently.

I started fooling around with someone i know. We experimented and it was great. This is the first time I've enjoyed anything sexual with another person. I don't know if it's because I know him and he makes me feel safe. Sadly our fun is probably over. But I'm left wanting more So I've thought about trying hookup apps again. The only problem is Noone is ever really interested in me. And even if they were, I'm scared to try again.

It’s understandable that you're feeling conflicted after having both negative and positive experiences. It sounds like feeling safe and connected really made a difference for you, which is so important. Maybe instead of diving into hookup apps right away, consider focusing on building trust and comfort with someone who genuinely interests you. Taking things at your own pace and prioritizing your comfort can help make future experiences more enjoyable. Don't rush it you’ll find what works best for you.

 

[malfoy1313]

I would Prefer to keep doing it with my friend but he's straight and I'm starting to catch feelings. If I had known he was at first I would have said no. Now we don't get to be together anymore so I'm left wanting more only way to get it would be hookups. So I don't know

 

[Oliverleo]

I would Prefer to keep doing it with my friend but he's straight and I'm starting to catch feelings. If I had known he was at first I would have said no. Now we don't get to be together anymore so I'm left wanting more only way to get it would be hookups. So I don't know

It sounds like you're in a tough spot, especially since you're catching feelings for someone who might not feel the same way romantically. It’s completely normal to feel conflicted when those feelings develop, but it’s good that you’re aware of the situation. If hookups feel daunting, maybe taking a break to process your emotions first would be a good idea. It could help you feel more confident and ready when you do decide to try again. Just remember, whatever path you choose, your comfort and emotional well-being should come first.

 

[thickcockjames]

“hooking up” isn’t for everyone. For me, there has always been certain parameters that needed to be met for me to hook up with someone. Primarily, and this sounds terrible, at a certain level a lack of respect for the person. And maybe looking back it’s a lack of self respect that I was protecting onto the person I was hooking up with. Orrrr, a mutual understanding that we were just having fun and that it was purely physical.

I always knew something more was necessary for more romantic loving sex and IMO now that I’ve found my wife it’s so much better when the emotional attraction matches the physical. Maybe that’s what you’re searching for too?

 

[Oliverleo]

“hooking up” isn’t for everyone. For me, there has always been certain parameters that needed to be met for me to hook up with someone. Primarily, and this sounds terrible, at a certain level a lack of respect for the person. And maybe looking back it’s a lack of self respect that I was protecting onto the person I was hooking up with. Orrrr, a mutual understanding that we were just having fun and that it was purely physical.

I always knew something more was necessary for more romantic loving sex and IMO now that I’ve found my wife it’s so much better when the emotional attraction matches the physical. Maybe that’s what you’re searching for too?

Totally get that there’s definitely a different energy when there’s an emotional connection, and it can make things feel so much deeper and more meaningful. Glad you found that with your wife! Maybe I'm on that same path, just figuring it out as I go.

 

[thickcockjames]

Totally get that there’s definitely a different energy when there’s an emotional connection, and it can make things feel so much deeper and more meaningful. Glad you found that with your wife! Maybe I'm on that same path, just figuring it out as I go.

That’s all we can do. Just keep learning about yourself and what makes you happy.

 

[Oliverleo]

That’s all we can do. Just keep learning about yourself and what makes you happy.

Absolutely, It's all part of the journey. Thanks for the encouragement staying open to learning and growth definitely makes it more fulfilling. Here's to figuring it out, one step at a time.