Hello! I'm going through difficult times in my marriage and need some advice. This is going to be a long story so get your popcorn.
When I met my husband 4 years ago he had just arrived to the country I live in. He left a guy in his country with a plan to get back together eventually. His idea was to get a job and bring him in.
In his own words: He is the only person who makes him tremble. He never felt so much passion and love for someone.
All of this he told me almost at the beginning of our friendship which eventually turned into something else. 4 months in I asked him to be my boyfriend. He said no. He told me that he wanted to get married with me because he was sure I was the love of his life. And 5 months later....we did.
Everything was fabulous. He kept in touch with this guy through Instagram and told me everything he felt for him was in the past. Until... yep....I checked his messages... I know I did wrong but I had that feeling something was wrong.
They talk a lot about their sexual encounters on the past. My husband tells him he loves him and that all the feelings he once had are still there.. That they have a special connection and thinks of ways for them to be together again.
I know nothing else happened because duh, the guy is in another country but I can't help but having this thing inside making me bitter. In the past few days I barely talk to him. We started sleeping in separated rooms. He tells me I'm distant and that is because I'm depressed but I don't know. I mean. I don't feel depressed. It's just that thorn bothering me.
Maybe I'm jealous. Is it wrong? Should I let it go considering there is a 70 % chance they won't ever see each other in person again? Is it normal for someone to be in love of someone else besides his husband and keep in contact with that person wishing someday things change and that can be together? Am I selfish for giving my 100% to someone and asking something similar in return? Thanks in advance and sorry for my english as it's not my first language.
When I met my husband 4 years ago he had just arrived to the country I live in. He left a guy in his country with a plan to get back together eventually. His idea was to get a job and bring him in.
In his own words: He is the only person who makes him tremble. He never felt so much passion and love for someone.
All of this he told me almost at the beginning of our friendship which eventually turned into something else. 4 months in I asked him to be my boyfriend. He said no. He told me that he wanted to get married with me because he was sure I was the love of his life. And 5 months later....we did.
Everything was fabulous. He kept in touch with this guy through Instagram and told me everything he felt for him was in the past. Until... yep....I checked his messages... I know I did wrong but I had that feeling something was wrong.
They talk a lot about their sexual encounters on the past. My husband tells him he loves him and that all the feelings he once had are still there.. That they have a special connection and thinks of ways for them to be together again.
I know nothing else happened because duh, the guy is in another country but I can't help but having this thing inside making me bitter. In the past few days I barely talk to him. We started sleeping in separated rooms. He tells me I'm distant and that is because I'm depressed but I don't know. I mean. I don't feel depressed. It's just that thorn bothering me.
Maybe I'm jealous. Is it wrong? Should I let it go considering there is a 70 % chance they won't ever see each other in person again? Is it normal for someone to be in love of someone else besides his husband and keep in contact with that person wishing someday things change and that can be together? Am I selfish for giving my 100% to someone and asking something similar in return? Thanks in advance and sorry for my english as it's not my first language.
