new fathers.... to cut or no?

[JohnDoeXXXm]

A slight refocus on the big circ question that everyone keeps battling about... are there any new fathers among us (expecting or who recently had the baby...)

How did you make the decision regarding circumcision? Was it insurance related (now that many plans are dropping it as an elective/unnecessary procedure?) Was it family related- so that the boy would be "just like daddy?"
Did you research the matter and then have to defend your position with your spouse? Were you planning to do it (or not) and then something convinced you to make the other decision?

Rather than hearing all of the statistics, I think it's always much more interesting to hear the real reasons that affect us in our lives.

 

[F_Man]

No adult has a right to violate a child's body. The skin is there for a reason. Fuck religion or family tradition as a reason, or a mother's wish to have the skin cut as "a revenge" for all males, or as a sign of power and control. A child's or a young boy's circumcision is acceptable only for a strong medical reason, a serious health concern. If an adult male knowingly wishes to be cut, that's OK.

 

[submarine]

1. it's barbaric
2. man, why take it away, it's fab
3. removal of choice
4. those nerve endings and hormone releasing bits are important
5. must have repurcussions somewhere down the line
6. looks better natural
7. wish people would stop saying uncut, as though cut is the standard.

 

[alpha_centauri]

Do not cut or mutilate a boy's penis. If he wants to get cut or mutilate his own penis he can get cut as an adult by his own choice.

 

[841491]

There's no medical reason to perform a circumcision. Don't cut it!

 

[chris bell]

As the father(I am circumcised) of a son who turns one in 2 weeks I can tell you it was the best decision we ever made to leave him intact. The false information was pushed on us by doctors and nurses before he was ever born. I remember the doctor recommending he get circumcised at one of the last sonograms before he was born, also be very careful when you are signing all of the paperwork during your hospital admission as the circumcision consent form will be in there and many people sign it not even knowing what they are signing.

As my son approaches a year old I can tell you he has not had a single medical problem with his intact penis. No UTI's, no infections, nothing.

His penis, his choice.

 

[James Bell]

Having lived with a foreskin and then without one I totally understand why being circumcised is better at all levels.

And I'm proud that I had my sons circumcised on that basis.

 

[MC1000]

I chose to leave my son intacted. I have lived life on both sides of the fence, so I know the difference between being cut and uncut. For me it was better being uncut. I have taught about hygene and about gently streching the foreskin. He is doing just fine. If it is something we needs or wants later in life I will fully support his decision.

 

[Tosantos]

Circumcision is absolutely pointless. Won't do it when/if I have boys

 

[hornyt2k5]

Apparently I have a lot of feelings on this matter. I've written and re-written a post several times. Ultimately it's a decision for every parent to make on their own. "cut or uncut, it's still a dick and you're still a man". That's true.

But seriously? Enforced infant genital mutilation? I was born with a foreskin, I kinda feel like it's supposed to be there. It bothers me that "cut" is the standard, and ignorant women the world over say "uncut? ew". Knowing what I know and having had conversations like this before with others, I know there's no way i would ever consider getting it done now as an adult. I honestly don't understand why it's done at all anymore outside of a religious thing (which I also don't understand, but will at least respect).

 

[JCCramer]

I got circumcised (not as an infant though) and I have no complaints. Everything works perfectly fine, no sensitivity loss, sex and masturbation is great, etc. That said, I’ll have a kid soon and if it’s a boy I’ve decided not to get him circumcised. I’ve had no problems with mine, and I actually enjoy being cut, but it was my choice. I’d rather not take that choice away from my kid unless it was a medical necessity.

 

[sevencut]

I’m understanding of other parents personal choice whether they decide to have or not have their boy circumcised.

I was circ’d at birth. Same with my 2 brothers. It was standard that my father had his sons be like him.

I’ve never had a single issue being circumcised. Up until my teen years, I thought all penises looked the same and that’s the way we were born.

Now that I’ve had children of my own, 2 sons 1 daughter... moms family pro circ and I am as well. Boys born in military facility which covered procedure. Boys entering teens now, growing and doing just fine.

Male circumcisions have been performed for thousands of years all over the world. This isn’t just an American thing. Other than religious reasons, I believe there are health benefits. Not to mention some cultures do it as a coming of age tradition for boys into adulthood thus making their penis ready for sexual function.

Whatever you believe in, I respect your choice. Cut or uncut... it’s still a dick and you’re still a man. No judgements. Simple as that.

 

[Stu311]

I asked my fiancée once and she is all for circumcising at birth or close to it - she was surprised I’d even asked. I am cut myself, but I was done as an adult with no underlying health issues and I am very happy with it. My cousins were cut at birth and I remember growing up wishing I was as well and not loving my foreskin too much, particularly as I remember being forcefully retracted by family with each bath until it loosened up. Having experienced it both ways now, I think foreskins are overrated and from a purely practical and health perspective, the circumcised penis is overall easier to live with, even if the benefits are still small. I have also not noticed any decrease in sexual sensation, orgasm intensity etc. so I do not buy the claim that circumcision harms sex. If pressed to choose now, I would likely elect to have a future son circumcised and I feel like I would do it in good faith.

 

[F_Man]

[QUOTE="sevencut, post: 6934408, member: 853369"

Male circumcisions have been performed for thousands of years all over the world. This isn’t just an American thing. Other than religious reasons, I believe there are health benefits. Not to mention some cultures do it as a coming of age tradition for boys into adulthood thus making their penis ready for sexual function.

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The scientific evidence shows that penile and male sexual health is higher in Countries that don't circumcise. Mexico has a much lower HIV rate than the US. Japan has a lower HIV rate then Saudi Arabia. Denmark has a much lower incidence of penile cancer than Israel. Adult circumcised men have a higher incidence of UTIs than uncircumcised babies.
THe numbers just don't add up to circumcision having many health benefits.[/QUOTE]
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PLUS having the skin enhances pleasure.

 

[chris bell]

Yes. Reduces risk of HIV transmission later in life. Also reduces risk of UTI.

Male Circumcision | HIV Risk and Prevention | HIV/AIDS | CDC

"Reduces the risk of HIV transmission"? The United States has one for the highest rates of HIV transmission in the world and 70% of males are circumcised. If you added the HIV transmission rates of the UK, Russia, China and Australia together it would equal that of the United States but the circumcision rate of those four countries ranges between 3% and 15%. The fact that the American medical community cites studies done in 3rd world countries in Africa which have no impact on the rest of the world shows how flawed the studies truly are.

UTI risk is 1 in 100 for intact males and 1 in 1,000 for circumcised males and that is only in the first year of life. After the 1st year there is no statistical difference between intact and circumcised males. Should we be performing a permanent cosmetic surgery on a male without his consent for a 1 in 100 chance that he may develop a UTI in the first 12 months which can be cleared in 3 days by antibiotics?

I am circumcised, our son who is 16 months old is intact. I can tell you he has not had a single issue.

 

[deleted136887]

In this day and age, this decision should be left to the owner of the penis when he is old enough to make that decision.
Like old enough to join the army, to drink, to drive.

 

[deleted12484591]

My father was circumcised. My brother was circumcised at birth. 18 months later I was born. I was left intact. I regret that I never asked my parents why they made these decisions before they died, but I silently thank them at least once a day. More often if I’m watching porn.

 

[mandoman]

I had one of each.
I'd never have it done again.
It's his body. He should make the choice.
Just like daddy is an ego trip, a vanity thing, not real.

 

[prepky]

choose to leave him just as he was born....i feel that it is completely unneeded and that we were not going to put a new born baby through such pain for no reason.....on a side not the Ped doctor came in and did his check up and asked if we were going to have it done and we said no...she looked at him while putting his diaper back on and said "today is your lucky day little boy" that told me that she didnt believe in it either!

 

[D_William Howard Shaft]

I was cut as a child... But feel no need for my son to be cut. I will let him decide what he wants. There really is no reason to be cut these days...that being said I do prefer the look of cut.