OMG! How Does Douching Work?!?!?!!

[Himbodacious]

Okay, I’ve finally reached the point where I’m more than willing to ask for help. I’m a bottom (I would say vers bottom but we all know that’d be a lie ), but I haven’t bottomed in years. I actually stopped cold turkey because of my issue with not knowing how to properly douche. Honestly speaking, I’ve never gotten the full enjoyment out of any of my sexual encounters. Most of the sex I’ve had in my life where I was the bottom was, “pleasurable enough “, but I’ve never been able to fully let go, relax and allow a guy to really push himself deep inside me and pound my ass. I first heard of douching when I started having gay sex in my early 20s. I had a couple of hookups during that time where I experienced a couple “accidents” due to me not being as clean as I thought, and ever since then I’ve had this massive mental block when it comes to bottoming. Everytime I’ve tried to douche I just can’t seem to do it quite right. I’ve watched helpful videos, read different tips, listened to advice, and I’ve tried many times over the years, but keep getting similar results. Years ago I told one of my friends how difficult and frustrating the whole process was for me, and I honestly think he thought I was joking because he just laughed at me and said I was funny . Finally I got so aggravated with trying and failing that I just said “Fuck It”, and decided to just get better at topping. I’d say I’m an adequate enough top but I can’t kid myself. I miss having dick in my ass so much is not even funny!

If anyone here has any advice or tips that they think will help, please feel free to share. I’ve been dealing with this for so long I’m pretty sure I’m gonna have to devirginize myself. My hole’s probably vice grip tight at this point . But seriously, I really would fucking love to find a solution to this little problem and finally put this behind me, move forward, and have a much more fulfilling sex life.

 

[dana2]

Okay, I’ve finally reached the point where I’m more than willing to ask for help. I’m a bottom (I would say vers bottom but we all know that’d be a lie ), but I haven’t bottomed in years. I actually stopped cold turkey because of my issue with not knowing how to properly douche. Honestly speaking, I’ve never gotten the full enjoyment out of any of my sexual encounters. Most of the sex I’ve had in my life where I was the bottom was, “pleasurable enough “, but I’ve never been able to fully let go, relax and allow a guy to really push himself deep inside me and pound my ass. I first heard of douching when I started having gay sex in my early 20s. I had a couple of hookups during that time where I experienced a couple “accidents” due to me not being as clean as I thought, and ever since then I’ve had this massive mental block when it comes to bottoming. Everytime I’ve tried to douche I just can’t seem to do it quite right. I’ve watched helpful videos, read different tips, listened to advice, and I’ve tried many times over the years, but keep getting similar results. Years ago I told one of my friends how difficult and frustrating the whole process was for me, and I honestly think he thought I was joking because he just laughed at me and said I was funny . Finally I got so aggravated with trying and failing that I just said “Fuck It”, and decided to just get better at topping. I’d say I’m an adequate enough top but I can’t kid myself. I miss having dick in my ass so much is not even funny!

If anyone here has any advice or tips that they think will help, please feel free to share. I’ve been dealing with this for so long I’m pretty sure I’m gonna have to devirginize myself. My hole’s probably vice grip tight at this point . But seriously, I really would fucking love to find a solution to this little problem and finally put this behind me, move forward, and have a much more fulfilling sex life.

Every man is different and some of us have tighter assholes and have more difficulty with this stuff. I tried douching once and was just not able to get it to work. Not painful or anything but I am just too tight there and it just did not work. But douching is not really essential for anal. Many men, myself and my boyfriend included, have a sense of when they are "empty" down there. You just have to be aware of when you use the restroom and when you shower and make sure the timing is right. I regularly rim and fuck my boyfriend and he always tastes clean and no "accidents". And take fiber pills and don't eat junk like fast food and eat healthy. When being fucked go slow, use lots of lube and JO while the penis is entering you. And as I always mention here, not every sex encounter between men must include anal every time. You can have really hot sex doing other things too.

 

[chrisrobin]

Every man is different and some of us have tighter assholes and have more difficulty with this stuff. I tried douching once and was just not able to get it to work. Not painful or anything but I am just too tight there and it just did not work. But douching is not really essential for anal. Many men, myself and my boyfriend included, have a sense of when they are "empty" down there. You just have to be aware of when you use the restroom and when you shower and make sure the timing is right. I regularly rim and fuck my boyfriend and he always tastes clean and no "accidents". And take fiber pills and don't eat junk like fast food and eat healthy. When being fucked go slow, use lots of lube and JO while the penis is entering you. And as I always mention here, not every sex encounter between men must include anal every time. You can have really hot sex doing other things too.

I agree, thats all good advice. At the end of the day a little brown isn't going to kill you. I bottomed for years without leaving traces, and fucked as well and can only recall twice in a lifetime. To much prep can take all the spontaneity out of sex, who wants to go down on a soapy ass for a nice rim. As you say, regardless of what everyone things, not all encounters for sex end up anal.

 

[Himbodacious]

Every man is different and some of us have tighter assholes and have more difficulty with this stuff. I tried douching once and was just not able to get it to work. Not painful or anything but I am just too tight there and it just did not work. But douching is not really essential for anal. Many men, myself and my boyfriend included, have a sense of when they are "empty" down there. You just have to be aware of when you use the restroom and when you shower and make sure the timing is right. I regularly rim and fuck my boyfriend and he always tastes clean and no "accidents". And take fiber pills and don't eat junk like fast food and eat healthy. When being fucked go slow, use lots of lube and JO while the penis is entering you. And as I always mention here, not every sex encounter between men must include anal every time. You can have really hot sex doing other things too.

Thank you I really appreciate that, and thanks for the advice about the fiber pills. An old friend of mine told me about that a long time ago, but I still haven't given that one a try. The thing for me is it's been years since I've done any anal, and I really want to get back to getting fucked - maybe not during every encounter in the future, but that's definitely going to be the prime goal, haha! I do love, love, love some great foreplay and oral though. Kissing is a high point for me during sex, so when I find a good kisser I can go on and on with that for a long time. I've heard a few guys say that douching isn't necessary for anal, and while I believe them I honestly think the accidents that happened with me must have left a stronger impression on me than I realized. Cause when I tell you I damn-near cannot bottom without having douched, I'm being serious. I can't overstate the issue with my mental block with this whole situation. If I'm not confident that I'm clean I can barely relax enough to even let a guy slide inside me just past his tip. I've been through enough situations where I meet up with a guy, things get hot and heavy, then we try to fuck and I start clenching up and things eventually get frustrating to the point where we just JO together and we both leave unsatisfied. Or, we do manage to start fucking and it's not long before he feels something and realizes I haven't cleaned properly. I'm just tired of feeling like this one thing has a choke hold on my sex life. I'm pretty sure the obsessive need for me to be clean back there is mostly if not all mental for me. I almost constantly overthink things. I've actually stopped having sex for a while because frankly I got tired of dealing with the irritation of this.

 

[just rodger]

As mentioned, fiber. To "clean out" I use an enema bulb , usually very clean after 2 bulbs. Then I do it 2-3 more just to make sure, . You need to be able to to relax and enjoy getting fucked, once you achieve that and you are "opened up" then you will feel the pleasure of bottoming. It does take away the spur of the moment sex but you don't want to do it too far in advance.

 

[collegebodybuilder]

I usually clean out with a enema bulb. I usually flush 5 times and never had a issue with the boyfriend. We use tons of lube and it feels great.

 

[Himbodacious]

Thank you so much everyone for the helpful advice. Chatting about this particular subject always makes me feel self-conscious, so you guy's help is much appreciated. I'm gonna start putting some of this knowledge into practice sooner rather than later .

 

[Brodie888]

A good double check is to stick a lubed dildo up your ass after you douche and see if it comes out clean.

I have a shower with a hand held attachment. I unscrew the handle and hold the hose to my hole. The water pressure is enough to just hold it to my hole without inserting. Just need to be careful to only put the same amount of water in as a douche.

The other thing is to avoid anal in the hours before you would normally poop. Even better is the time after you poop. It's just less likely that the brown stuff will come down the chute beyond where you've douched.

People who graze through the day are more likely to have inconsistencies because waste is moving along the digestive tract constantly. Some avoid eating leading up to sex. Definitely avoid caffeine in the lead up as this will also have increasing speed of your bowel movements.

 

[Hung4HungNYC]

I've found this infographic to be very helpful in the past

Link here and PDF attached: https://www.gaysandgadgets.com/2021/02/22/cleaning-out-by-blindjaw/

 

[winesthel945]

How to Clean Your Ass Before Anal Sex

 

[Urien]

Google Handheld Bidet or Bidet Sprayer, and invest in installing it in every bathroom in your house. There is a travel version of it.

Your life will never be the same again.

 

[kbkblevins09]

I agree, thats all good advice. At the end of the day a little brown isn't going to kill you. I bottomed for years without leaving traces, and fucked as well and can only recall twice in a lifetime. To much prep can take all the spontaneity out of sex, who wants to go down on a soapy ass for a nice rim. As you say, regardless of what everyone things, not all encounters for sex end up anal.

washing away the musky scent is a turn off for me fuck.

 

[Himbodacious]

washing away the musky scent is a turn off for me fuck.

I'm the exact opposite. Keeping the musky scent if a turn off for me. I'm not into the whole musk thing. I much rather a man smell nice and clean while we're fucking. He can hold off on any deodorants or colognes, but at least smell freshly showered. That's just my thing.

 

[Stephenmass]

I agree with you Himbo. If the encounter is steamy enough, that bit of a musk scent might arrive on it's own. But I'd much prefer like you to start clean at least. There is nothing worse to me than (forgive) that shit smell. If that arrives, everything stops. I don't embarrass the bottom that it happened (shit happens) but the smell becomes too overwhelming and I lose my desire and my erection.

 

[Steve2a]

In the words of Forest: "It happens"

We're human, and are digestive tract is working constantly. Yea, try to clean up before you have sex, but know that it might happen. All tops have probably experienced a brown tip, at some point. When I top, and if that happens to me, I lay blame on me for going to deep. I head to the sink and wash up, no big deal.

 

[adude688]

I'm the exact opposite. Keeping the musky scent if a turn off for me. I'm not into the whole musk thing. I much rather a man smell nice and clean while we're fucking. He can hold off on any deodorants or colognes, but at least smell freshly showered. That's just my thing.

Ditto.
For me, man smell YES! Cheesy or musky NO!