Right. So there is literally no acceptable time to approach a woman. I never said I thought she was just HOPING a guy would think she was fuckable. I saw a pretty girl who was nice and I wanted to maybe buy her dinner or eventually a house.
So yes, jaded as fuck.
This is you being a rattle chucking pram baby. And a prime example of why women are always on the defense, ya pissy lil fuck.
There are plenty of times approaching a woman is acceptable. Your job is to recognize the open window. AND you being interested in her does not open the damn window.
At work? Never appropriate. Just don't fucking do it.
Woman in a coffee shop reading. Acceptable? Have you read the book? Yes? You are one step closer to an opening. Is she deeply engrossed in her current activity? Like hasn't even touched her drink in the last few minutes? No. She's having a her moment, fuck off.
If you must engage her. It's not hard to not be a douche.
One, apologize for interrupting her but you happen to love the book she's reading. Suggest another book by the author or of a similar nature. If she is receptive she'll communicate it, by body language or actions.*
*Because you now have pee-boy status. If she doesn't open a conversation go on with your day with out calling her jaded.
Since you like leaving notes? Buy her another of whatever she is having. Along with yummy of choice send a lil note that you don't want to disturb her, but ya noticed her... Non physical attribute goes here... and, again, email or other contact info.
At the gym? Is she in the middle of a set? Fuck off. Is she moving to a new piece of equipment? Check her vibe. Ask her for a tip on that particular bit of equipment. Again, if she's not interested she has an out. If she is, conversation has been opened.
Grocery store. Ask about something in a recipe? Where something is in the store.
None of this is hard. How do men fuck it up so completely?