On grindr...

[Matt_L]

Do you prefer it when a guy is not interested in you to be blocked? I mean I like chatting to people and I’m happy to chat to just about anybody. So if a guy is chatting away I’ll chat back, especially if they instigate it, I don’t like to be rude. I mostly use the app for hooking up, and the odd date now and then, but if I am bored I do like to just chat to people.

Anyway it’s happened a few times that basically if I have said to a guy that he isn’t my type or that I am not interested in meeting with them they become quite verbally abusive and call me out for being a “time waster”

So I guess I want to know should I just block guys who I know that I would never meet up with and also just pack it in with the general chit chat?

What’s your guys experience with this?

 

[Mikehard9]

I do block people if im not interested....

It seems safer to do that
than get into a bitchy conversation where they get bitter....

Nobody likes being rejected and i dont think theres a nice way to do it .

So silence, no reply - just block ......

And if you ever bump into them in future - it dosent get awkward as you can just say you deleted your pofile and dont use grindr anymore .

 

[Matt_L]

I do block people if im not interested....

It seems safer to do that
than get into a bitchy conversation where they get bitter....

Nobody likes being rejected and i dont think theres a nice way to do it .

So silence, no reply - just block ......

And if you ever bump into them in future - it dosent get awkward as you can just say you deleted your pofile and dont use grindr anymore .

Yeah I think that is the best way to go. I guess I probably already knew that, but just wanted some assurance. Cheers

 

[Mikehard9]

The best thing about blocking them is they dont know you blocked them ....

as far as they know your profile vanished....

and always keep in mind you coukd bump into them somewhere at a bar ...or they coukd recognise you on the street or something .....keep things polite and just say you deleted grindr and dont use it .....they will never know you blocked them

this has been my tactic anyway

 

[Tbprivate]

I’ve told guys ‘sorry, you’re not my type’ and I get responses like ‘why?!’ which is so frustrating; if I’ve explained I’m not interested then there’s no point in pursuing the matter.
I’ve often had dick pics sent after I’ve said ‘no’ as if their genitals would convince me to lower my standards or have sex with someone who I’m not attracted to.
I’m now blocking a lot more without any communication, guys do it to me so it becomes the practice.

 

[Mikehard9]

I’ve told guys ‘sorry, you’re not my type’ and I get responses like ‘why?!’ which is so frustrating; if I’ve explained I’m not interested then there’s no point in pursuing the matter.
I’ve often had dick pics sent after I’ve said ‘no’ as if their genitals would convince me to lower my standards or have sex with someone who I’m not attracted to.
I’m now blocking a lot more without any communication, guys do it to me so it becomes the practice.

Yeah there is no nice or polite way to reject somone - if you start trying to explain it usually turns nasty ..... Just stay silent and block them is my policy

 

[cellguy850us]

If someone gets butt-hurt because you blocked them or rejected them that's their issue, not yours. It's grindr for fucks sake. I even have on my profile "if not interested save us both some time and block me"

 

[Mikehard9]

If someone gets butt-hurt because you blocked them or rejected them that's their issue, not yours. It's grindr for fucks sake. I even have on my profile "if not interested save us both some time and block me"

what is 'butt hurt' ....is that some sort of american thing ?

 

[cellguy850us]

what is 'butt hurt' ....is that some sort of american thing ?

Basically when people get their feelings hurt over stupid shit

 

[deleted3782]

Reading this, I just blocked a bunch of guys. I feel so guilty doing it...like I'm the only person they were chatting with...but I know I'm not. Sometimes I try to respond very slowly to discourage chat. I think my off-putting has oozed into they way I deal with everyone...even the guys I really do like I don't chat much and the conversation dies. I don't want to be that annoyingly eager guy.

 

[Mikehard9]

Reading this, I just blocked a bunch of guys. I feel so guilty doing it...like I'm the only person they were chatting with...but I know I'm not. Sometimes I try to respond very slowly to discourage chat. I think my off-putting has oozed into they way I deal with everyone...even the guys I really do like I don't chat much and the conversation dies. I don't want to be that annoyingly eager guy.

It is actually kind to block them ....they dont know you blocked them ....as far as they know your profile vanished and they assume you left grindr .

 

[chancesare]

I am not on Grindr, but on A4A, I just say, "I am not looking for anyone new but am always up for chatting." Sometimes it's true, sometimes it's not, but it is kind.

 

[Cum_is_Great]

It is actually kind to block them ....they dont know you blocked them ....as far as they know your profile vanished and they assume you left grindr .

This is incorrect. When someone blocks you, your conversation disappears from the list. It's super obvious.

 

[hotbtminla]

I tend to preemptively block people who don’t look compatible when browsing. If someone reaches out to me who isn’t my type - or worse, doesn’t have info or a pic in their profile and don’t offer anything straight away - I just block. Sometimes I use the block button like it’s my job.

I just don’t have the time or inclination to entertain anyone in that app, or deal with somebody who doesn’t even read my profile or put any actual effort into getting into my pants (which is NOT hard to do, trust me lol). And I don’t feel bad about it.

 

[1222288]

This is incorrect. When someone blocks you, your conversation disappears from the list. It's super obvious.

^ this. All of a sudden they were chatting to you, and the next the whole conversation gets nuked. Oh, what could have possibly happened?

It's very obvious.

That said, block is a great tool. I use it for the persistent mostly, and the tools. Why feel guilty ensuring that someone you will never meet, or want to talk to, is no longer able to contact you?

 

[Cum_is_Great]

^ this. All of a sudden they were chatting to you, and the next the whole conversation gets nuked. Oh, what could have possibly happened?

It's very obvious.

That said, block is a great tool. I use it for the persistent mostly, and the tools. Why feel guilty ensuring that someone you will never meet, or want to talk to, is no longer able to contact you?

I understand. But it hurts me a lot to get blocked. I rarely engage guys now because of it. Everyone wants a face pic to chat, but I'm closeted and still have self esteem issues. So I'll look for profiles who are looking only to chat, no hookups, just friends etc. And send a Hello and my face pic, only to be insta-blocked. It's happened many times so i honestly got the impression I was hideous. Now I never send a face pic. Actually I just stopped going to Grindr altogether.

 

[malakos]

Basically when people get their feelings hurt over stupid shit

@keenobserver

 

[keenobserver]

@keenobserver

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[kr8zy]

Have we really devolved so quickly that we have no idea how to handle social situations? I have a real problem with that with Growlr. Be polite but upfront - don't lead people on. I hate it when people say they are just looking for friends, you have about 5 exchanges, then they suddenly drop you out of the blue. If you want to skip the whole conversation part just say so. Not interested, just say "nice chatting with you, I don't think your my type .But good luck in the future!". Yeah it isn't the easiest thing, but a hell of alot more gentle than just dropping someone mid conversation. How did you handle thee before online dating?

 

[Brodie888]

If you don't want to pay for premium membership, being blocked is a great way to get more profiles.