32 y/o Asian bottom here who loves big dicks. I need advice when it comes to keeping my hole tight. One of my regular black daddies(8 incher) pounds me too good, I can’t help but push my hole out. It feels amazing and he loves it so much he fucks me harder, deeper and won’t cum til I beg him to. I can only last for an hour. I had to ghost him for 2 days cause I was afraid he’d wanna do it again for the 3rd consecutive day, I had to call out from work cause I can barely sit. I’ve been doing kegels which seem to work but I wanna minimize my recovery time so I can be available whenever he wants to fuck. Help this bottom please his black daddy. He’s number 1 in my roster right now out of 5.
Pro Bottom Tips Needed
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I use poppers every time I’m with him. As for buttplugs for hours, I’ve never tried it. I do have a dildo bigger than him so it’s not really the length or girth I’m worried about. It’s the way he fucks me deep and hard til he’s hitting my walls, next thing you know, I can’t help but push out and he likes the feeling of it, he goes harder.
Today he fucked me again and he went harder than ever, my hole was pushed out the hole time, like I’m have contractions every 30 seconds, he didn’t give me a single minute to recover. And when I thought he’s been going too hard, he went ever harder. I’ve never been this exhausted from getting fucked.
Listen.. you’re not going to love this answer, but you’re going to have to learn to relax your ‘sigmoid opening’/entrance to sigmoid colon. When you say he’s “hitting a wall”, it’s likely you’re not able to relax that internal secondary hole so to speak & it’s causing you to push him out.
Breath work, yoga, & practicing relaxation with toys that are able to help you stimulate that secondary hole like a tapered silicone snake toy are going to help you more than huffing poppers. Unfortunately you’re looking for a quick fix & as far as I know there aren’t any. If he were to go slower to allow you to practice relaxing deeper & breathe then that might work. Sometimes as bottoms we get so excited we forget to breathe deep & relax - our bodies might tense up without us realizing it’s happening.
I had a similar fuckbud a while back & this is what worked for me. As I already practice yoga it teaches you to relax smooth muscles like your hole & to do deep breathing. Sit in some deep squats/primal squats for 30-60sec a couple times a day & practice deep breathing relaxation - add a toy or buttplug & it’ll help you sense/focus/feel that area & deep stretch even more.
All the best on your bottoming journey!
Breath work, yoga, & practicing relaxation with toys that are able to help you stimulate that secondary hole like a tapered silicone snake toy are going to help you more than huffing poppers. Unfortunately you’re looking for a quick fix & as far as I know there aren’t any. If he were to go slower to allow you to practice relaxing deeper & breathe then that might work. Sometimes as bottoms we get so excited we forget to breathe deep & relax - our bodies might tense up without us realizing it’s happening.
I had a similar fuckbud a while back & this is what worked for me. As I already practice yoga it teaches you to relax smooth muscles like your hole & to do deep breathing. Sit in some deep squats/primal squats for 30-60sec a couple times a day & practice deep breathing relaxation - add a toy or buttplug & it’ll help you sense/focus/feel that area & deep stretch even more.
All the best on your bottoming journey!
I commented before this was posted - but I had a bit in my answer. To be a bottomless bottom start playing with tapered snake toys & it should help you open up & reach deeper allowing you to train your body to relax farther inside you. Have fun!
And as Ikke says here, add toys increasing in size to your collection to practice stretching that hole so you can gape more. It’ll take time but by using toys meant to stretch you out & gradually building up in size/girth/depth your body will adjust in no time.
It just depends on how often you train your hole tbh. With some practice you’ll be able to sense that internal opening more & that’s key to being able to relax it. After you’ve gotten past that opening a few times it’ll be easier to access the muscle memory & you’ll be like “oh that’s the sensation I need to follow to release more when someone/something is inside me”. Relaxing is part psychological, part deep breathing/practicing release, & part sensory (meaning you’re able to recognize the internal sensation of the secondary hole opening). The secondary hole is anatomically meant to be closed until we have to.. evacuate our digested food lol. So it’s an unnatural sensation that takes getting used to. Remember to have fun exploring your body & that it’s fun to play & learn what works best for you to get to that deep place!
OH & be sure to use toys with a wide/flared base LOL. The secondary opening can have a powerful “vacuum” effect & suck toys right up inside you. Our butts are some powerful muscles & I can’t tell you how many gays in WeHo have ended up at the ER needing their hole dilated to remove a toy that didn’t have a good flared base.
