I was getting head by another guy a couple of days ago. He started sucking on my balls and licking my hole and then proceeded to lightly finger my hole which was great at first. He then became more aggressive with the fingering while deep throating my dick. He took everything in his mouth with his face pressed right up against my bush. He got a little over exuberant with the fingering and it has hurt ever since. No blood, but still sore. Just wondering if you’ve had this experience before and how long it took before you felt normal again. My hole is pretty much virgin territory. I’ve never had anything up there before outside of my doctor checking my prostrate and me lightly fingering it. I don’t think I would ever want to take a dick now after this experience.
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Give it a little time. Sadly, when done properly, it can feel incredible. What he was trying to do was wonderful (in my opinion). But he assumed you were ready for it. And of course you were not.
So now is the time to figure out what you enjoy. While he did give you a bit of a bad experience... Maybe not completely abandon the idea of anal play. You might be amazed what it feels like when done gently and with some lubrication. Maybe try some little toys on yourself to experiment? Many of us got into it this way. You control the motion and learn what you like so you can tell the guy what works. Then when you hookup again... You have the experience.
That said, there are guys that completely detest anal. And that's fine too. But I would give it a couple chances practicing on your own and then decide. I mean, a LOT of us use plugs or dildos when masturbating anyway...
So now is the time to figure out what you enjoy. While he did give you a bit of a bad experience... Maybe not completely abandon the idea of anal play. You might be amazed what it feels like when done gently and with some lubrication. Maybe try some little toys on yourself to experiment? Many of us got into it this way. You control the motion and learn what you like so you can tell the guy what works. Then when you hookup again... You have the experience.
That said, there are guys that completely detest anal. And that's fine too. But I would give it a couple chances practicing on your own and then decide. I mean, a LOT of us use plugs or dildos when masturbating anyway...
Thanks @WilliamG.
Just another question for bi guys about fucking ass. I found that I loved getting BJs from guys (they really do suck dick better than women and swallow every drop of cum), but didn’t like fucking a guy. This guy (different guy from my previous post) was giving me head and then wanted to sit on my dick. I was enjoying the BJ, but after he put a condom on me and I penetrated him, it wasn’t all that pleasurable and I lost my erection. I have never had this problem fucking pussy where I can stay hard until I cum. Do most bi guys prefer pussy over ass, and BJs from guys over women?
Lots more questions to come from me guys. Hope you don’t mind as this is all new to me!
Just another question for bi guys about fucking ass. I found that I loved getting BJs from guys (they really do suck dick better than women and swallow every drop of cum), but didn’t like fucking a guy. This guy (different guy from my previous post) was giving me head and then wanted to sit on my dick. I was enjoying the BJ, but after he put a condom on me and I penetrated him, it wasn’t all that pleasurable and I lost my erection. I have never had this problem fucking pussy where I can stay hard until I cum. Do most bi guys prefer pussy over ass, and BJs from guys over women?
Lots more questions to come from me guys. Hope you don’t mind as this is all new to me!
Sorry buddy that was not a good experience. You might be sore due to his roughness.
Thanks @WilliamG.
Just another question for bi guys about fucking ass. I found that I loved getting BJs from guys (they really do suck dick better than women and swallow every drop of cum), but didn’t like fucking a guy. This guy (different guy from my previous post) was giving me head and then wanted to sit on my dick. I was enjoying the BJ, but after he put a condom on me and I penetrated him, it wasn’t all that pleasurable and I lost my erection. I have never had this problem fucking pussy where I can stay hard until I cum. Do most bi guys prefer pussy over ass, and BJs from guys over women?
Lots more questions to come from me guys. Hope you don’t mind as this is all new to me!
I have zero interest in anal no matter whose ass. I love fucking pussy. With guys I'm into masturbation and oral.
Thanks, buddy. It’s starting to feel better now. Live and learn. I’ll never let anything go in my ass again. I’m just glad it was a finger and not a dick. I always thought taking a dick would be amazing, but not now.
You will find someone amazing to explore anal with..don't give up on your desire be patient
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Aloe gel will help with the soreness.
I started my anal play by using my own fingers in the shower. First, one finger, then two, eventually working up to three fingers. At that point I got some toys to play with. So glad I did!!
I started my anal play by using my own fingers in the shower. First, one finger, then two, eventually working up to three fingers. At that point I got some toys to play with. So glad I did!!
Do you think it could be your head? How comfortable do you feel at this point doing something with a guy? Because if you're not there yet, maybe you should play slowly with someone who understands where you are at.Thanks @WilliamG.
Just another question for bi guys about fucking ass. I found that I loved getting BJs from guys (they really do suck dick better than women and swallow every drop of cum), but didn’t like fucking a guy. This guy (different guy from my previous post) was giving me head and then wanted to sit on my dick. I was enjoying the BJ, but after he put a condom on me and I penetrated him, it wasn’t all that pleasurable and I lost my erection. I have never had this problem fucking pussy where I can stay hard until I cum. Do most bi guys prefer pussy over ass, and BJs from guys over women?
Lots more questions to come from me guys. Hope you don’t mind as this is all new to me!
I personally love fucking both men and women now - but when I first started, I thought I would never fuck a guy's ass at all. I was okay with just froting --- of course the guys wanted more. I completely understand in hindsight why the playing stopped after a little while. They wanted to fuck but I just wasn't ready yet.
Could be. I always thought I would love fucking ass because I have always found that to be the most attractive part of a man.
Kissing was another no go for me. The guy who deep throated me and fingered my ass wanted to make out after, but I couldn’t do it. I have always found men making out in porn to be hot.
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I'm not into kissing either. For me it's just the sex with men. If you ever meet guys thru an online app... Be sure to list your preferences. If you don't like kissing... Say so. Same with anal. Now me..? There are not enough tops in the online apps world!
It is very surprising and confusing for me that what I found to be hot in porn and my fantasies is not in real life. Still figuring a lot out because I have only been with women before.I'm not into kissing either. For me it's just the sex with men. If you ever meet guys thru an online app... Be sure to list your preferences. If you don't like kissing... Say so. Same with anal. Now me..? There are not enough tops in the online apps world!
I can still appreciate a hot ass on a guy, I just don’t want to fuck it.
Could also be the position. Bottoms like sitting on dicks, but I find it difficult to stay hard that way as well. Try doggy or something that allows you to thrust more.Thanks @WilliamG.
Just another question for bi guys about fucking ass. I found that I loved getting BJs from guys (they really do suck dick better than women and swallow every drop of cum), but didn’t like fucking a guy. This guy (different guy from my previous post) was giving me head and then wanted to sit on my dick. I was enjoying the BJ, but after he put a condom on me and I penetrated him, it wasn’t all that pleasurable and I lost my erection. I have never had this problem fucking pussy where I can stay hard until I cum. Do most bi guys prefer pussy over ass, and BJs from guys over women?
Lots more questions to come from me guys. Hope you don’t mind as this is all new to me!
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Thanks @WilliamG.
Just another question for bi guys about fucking ass. I found that I loved getting BJs from guys (they really do suck dick better than women and swallow every drop of cum), but didn’t like fucking a guy. This guy (different guy from my previous post) was giving me head and then wanted to sit on my dick. I was enjoying the BJ, but after he put a condom on me and I penetrated him, it wasn’t all that pleasurable and I lost my erection. I have never had this problem fucking pussy where I can stay hard until I cum. Do most bi guys prefer pussy over ass, and BJs from guys over women?
Lots more questions to come from me guys. Hope you don’t mind as this is all new to me!
With either sex I prefer fucking over receiving blow jobs. I'm an ass man when it comes to guys--I want to penetrate it. In my experience few women are interested in anal and not many are interested in fellatio except as foreplay to the main event which is fucking.
Guys who suck cock exclusively tend to give the best head. Many more men than women suck cock exclusively in my experience though some ladies give excellent head. Most women want to fuck which is fine with me.
Kissing. Every guy I've ever fucked has kissed me even the ones who said in advance they don't kiss. The guys who don't kiss are the exclusive cocksuckers.
It's okay if you don't prefer fucking guys but keep an open mind. I say that because it sounds like this was the first guy you ever fucked and you might find that you'll enjoy fucking some other guy or guys in the future.
As for ass play get an enema kit, lube and some toys to train your butt. I used a set of S/M/L butt plugs to train my hole to relax and open. To relax your sphincter muscles push like you're defecating. What allows poop out allows fingers and toys in. You'll get the hang of it with a little practice.
I started topping guys at 22 but received no pleasure from ass play until I was 40. It always left me with a sore butt up until then and I refused all anal play for years because of it. I'm not sure why by body changed but keep in mind that your body might change over time.
Good luck and have fun!
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Because as one of our fine lady members here puts in her sig line: "Porn is not real life."
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If he did not use lube then that's bad, my hole can feel not so much sore butt used, it can take a few times to understand this is "normal".
Don't let this experience put you off, the next time with a guy discuss anal before you start things like using lube, taking time position etc
Anal done right is one of lifes pleasures
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As a bottom, i never leave the lube to chance. If I'm going into a situation where there's any remote likelihood of needing it, I get it done first. If it doesn't then happen all I've wasted is a few squirts from the bottle. If it does ( hopefully) happen then I've avoided the pain, and being prepared makes it all much more spontaneous and enjoyable. On a practical point, I have a lube injector which gets it exactly to where it's needed.
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I never skimp on lube either! When I'm getting ready to bottom I use a lube injector--two full loads of it.
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I don't skimp on lube when I top either!. I use a lube injector to load up bottom ass too!
I think OP has more issues with the fact that he didn't enjoying penetrating the other guy as much as he thought he would.
But again, it was your first time...I'm sure you were nervous or even with a lot of expectations. I don't know if your first time with a girl was great, most of the times it is not but it gets better.
But again, it was your first time...I'm sure you were nervous or even with a lot of expectations. I don't know if your first time with a girl was great, most of the times it is not but it gets better.
