Relationship and abuse
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Sturdywords
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Hi, yes. I do. I'm in relationship, I made some mistakes and I'm to dependent on the other half. And he keeps using this against me. I know it's easy to say leave him but it's too complicated for me right now
Sturdywords
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The apartment is his. I work in his company however he helped me with some debts in the past so I'm not making much. And also I'm a foreigner so it's all complicated
Sturdywords
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My advice is to try to gain your independence as quickly as you can, even if it takes years.
Another option would be to build up your credit rating to take out a loan to pay off the debt and move on.
If the abuse is physical, you would be better leaving with the debt and make him come after you. If you are broke, he can't take blood from a stone. No point being in the country if you are dead.
Another option would be to build up your credit rating to take out a loan to pay off the debt and move on.
If the abuse is physical, you would be better leaving with the debt and make him come after you. If you are broke, he can't take blood from a stone. No point being in the country if you are dead.
Yes, you are right. As soon as I start looking for another job he will probably kick me out . That's how he manipulates. I tried to talk to him about it but it's not possible . He gets angry and conversation is over. But it seems like I do most things at home yet I constantly hear from him that im lazy and I do nothing. The whole relationship is about him but he I think pretends that it's not. That's why I'm so frustrated lately because I feel like I'm here to do things for him and I don't get anything in return . Yes, I should try to get my independance quickly . It should be my mantra. I gave up a few times because he just used his manipulation skills ...
You just have to remember that the use of "coercive control" is a form of abuse and something you do not deserve.
If I were you, I'd start a new relationship on the sly and get it to grow enough so that you can move in with them.
Or build your friend network to get them to give you a couch to sleep on until you get on your feet.
Alternatively there are share houses that offer cheap accommodation. So all you need to do is secretly get another job that pays a wage enough to get you by.
If I were you, I'd start a new relationship on the sly and get it to grow enough so that you can move in with them.
Or build your friend network to get them to give you a couch to sleep on until you get on your feet.
Alternatively there are share houses that offer cheap accommodation. So all you need to do is secretly get another job that pays a wage enough to get you by.
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