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[Sine]

Im 18 years old and Im having trouble getting maintaining my erection. I dont know if my penis maybe too big for my body or what. I dont want to take any pills or anything. Can someone just give me any advice b/c this is a very depressing matter to me. I think it could be my sex drive but i dont know much about that.

 

[Mr. Snakey]

Why are you having trouble? Explain more.

 

[Matthew]

Do you have trouble when you're masturbating or just when you're with a partner?

 

[B_Hung Muscle]

Matthew's question is a good one. If you're having trouble all the time even when masturbating, it's time for a doctor. If you're having trouble maintaining a hard-on when you're with someone else, it could well be that the issue is located a lot further north.

Losing an erection from nerves is not uncommon. But it's a vicious cycle: the more you worry, the limper it gets. The limper it is, the more you worry.

One thing, amigo, the size of your cock is not causing erectile dysfunction.

 

[Sine]

Well iv'e noticed it with both situations. Could it be my sex drive, need more exercise...>??? But it seems worst when im with my partner.

 

[B_Hung Muscle]

It "could be" a lot of things. We could all guess and offer our opinions, but, sine, they aren't going to provide the kind of help you need.

If it really is becoming problematic, please see your doctor. Do you have one you can confide in?

 

[D_Coyne Toss]

I used to have a problem similar to yours, sine.

During first experiences i had erection problems: the main reason was that i was worried to be able to give my gf pleasure, to have, from the start satisfying sex. The result was that, during the intercourse, my mind used to get out of my body, i saw me from the outside, and this was a total turn off.

If the reason of your troubles is similar, all you have to do is to relax: stop thinking about it, and let your mind free. Things will happen naturally. You also should have patience, sex is something you lern from experience, just like anything else.

Good luck!

 

[Sine]

Sure I have a doctor, but i wanted to see if this is really all in my head, or if it could be something other than E.D.

 

[Sine]

I used to have a problem similar to yours, sine.

During first experiences i had erection problems: the main reason was that i was worried to be able to give my gf pleasure, to have, from the start satisfying sex. The result was that, during the intercourse, my mind used to get out of my body, i saw me from the outside, and this was a total turn off.

If the reason of your troubles is similar, all you have to do is to relax: stop thinking about it, and let your mind free. Things will happen naturally. You also should have patience, sex is something you lern from experience, just like anything else.

Good luck!

I will definetly try this and give an update on this form a few days from now and I'll tell you guys how it goes.

 

[Mr. Snakey]

:smile: Good luck!

 

[Matthew]

Sure I have a doctor, but i wanted to see if this is really all in my head, or if it could be something other than E.D.

It may be all in your head, Sine, but the fact that it happens when you masturbate as well means there might be another explanantion. You should check with a doctor to rule out other possible causes. No one on this site can do for you what a doctor can, if he examines you in person.

 

[B_Hung Muscle]

I agree completely with Matthew.

It is enormously likely that it is "all in your head" -- and I hope that following the advice to relax (it makes sex more fun and uninhibited in any case) keeps you hard as a rock.

But if it doesn't, don't sweat it and see the doctor. Let us know how it goes, amigo.

 

[ChuckRich]

I have the same problem. Well, I don't have any problem when I'm masturbating. But with somebody I've never been able to stay erect when it comes time to use it. And once it goes down it stays down completely. Because of this I haven't actually topped a guy yet even though I've had a hand full of chances. I was able to have sex with a girl a couple times (one girl) but I think the fact that I wasn't really interested in the sex made it easy to not worry about doing well. Also the fact that she had been a good friend for years before we'd had sex and the guys I've been with were online hookups and I was just getting to know them. Either way it's extremely frustrating and I can't seem to do anything about it.

 

[rawbone8]

I have the same problem. Well, I don't have any problem when I'm masturbating. But with somebody I've never been able to stay erect when it comes time to use it. And once it goes down it stays down completely. Because of this I haven't actually topped a guy yet even though I've had a hand full of chances. I was able to have sex with a girl a couple times (one girl) but I think the fact that I wasn't really interested in the sex made it easy to not worry about doing well. Also the fact that she had been a good friend for years before we'd had sex and the guys I've been with were online hookups and I was just getting to know them. Either way it's extremely frustrating and I can't seem to do anything about it.

That's a question of relaxation more than anything else. Fear and anxiety and doing too much thinking. Get to know somebody and get some regular familiarity and the problem should disappear.

Considering that you expressed an interest in performing in porn on another thread, I'd say that's the biggest hindrance imaginable to your eligibility. They expect performance on demand and would not spend valuable time on talent that have intimacy or performance issues. It's a business.

On the homefront, take it easy and find a partner who likes you and has patience to encourage your inner stud to take over. There's little to fear in reality. Develop your sense of self confidence.

 

[ChuckRich]

I really started to thread about being in porn to hear what everybody had to say. I don't really plan to do it. It does interest me but I don't think I'd ever actually pursue it.

 

[Sine]

Hey HEy HEY, the advice "Proudly_Italian" gave me worked; at least for the masturbation part of satisfaction. I've yet to try it with a partner. I woke up today with a super hard penis hahaha lol and that hasnt happened to me in about 3 weeks. I thank all of you for your advice. I'll start taking vitamins to give me an extra engery boost. maybe thos Flinstones kids Vitamins:dance: ; that should help. I'll update you guys later on the sex part, I,ll try to get some this between the 21-27. Not on the 26th though b/c thats when I graduate Highschool.:wank: hahaha I like that smiley icon

 

[D_Coyne Toss]

Hey HEy HEY, the advice "Proudly_Italian" gave me worked; at least for the masturbation part of satisfaction. I've yet to try it with a partner. I woke up today with a super hard penis hahaha lol and that hasnt happened to me in about 3 weeks. I thank all of you for your advice. I'll start taking vitamins to give me an extra engery boost. maybe thos Flinstones kids Vitamins:dance: ; that should help. I'll update you guys later on the sex part, I,ll try to get some this between the 21-27. Not on the 26th though b/c thats when I graduate Highschool.:wank: hahaha I like that smiley icon

I am glad it worked, now good luck for sex!

 

[losangelestim]

a non drug possible solution:
find a cockring that's comfortable. not too tight, not too loose. see if that makes a difference. whenever i have that problem this usually takes care of it and gets me to stop thinking about it. straps work too.
it's possible that you're not being stimulated the way you prefer. it's not the same with everyone.

 

[B_Hornaplenty]

Losing an erection from nerves is not uncommon. But it's a vicious cycle: the more you worry, the limper it gets. The limper it is, the more you worry.

One thing, amigo, the size of your cock is not causing erectile dysfunction.

HungMuscle has it absolutely correct. It's probably a mental thing when you think you have to perform. You are dwelling on the condition too much. At age 18 you've got a healthy pecker, unless you did something to damage the blood delivery system. Stop worrying that maybe you're impotent, and start taking pride in that great package of yours.

 

[dongalong]

Diet has a big effect on how hard you get and stay.

Caffeine drinks such as coffee, Red Bull, Coke, black tea etc. are vasoconstrictors (they tighten the veins) which straight after consumption will be no problem but after the effects wear off can make it seem impossible to get it up. This is because the tighter veins increase blood pressure and make the heart work harder to pump the same amount of oxygen through these smaller spaces. After around 4 hours (for coffee) the effects wear off and the heart is too tired to pump normally so the blood pressure decreases to below normal which won't help fill up your big boy.

Eating fatty food makes me feel lethargic, low on energy and makes it difficult to get a rock solid erection, must be something to do with the blood becoming thicker.

1 to 2 glasses of wine or other alcoholic drinks can cause mega erections because alcohol is a vasodilator. More glasses will cause a negative effect and make your cock less sensitive.

Spicy food, like alcohol, is a vasodilator and can make your cock rock hard.
See what happens after eating Hot Chilli con carne with a glass of wine.

I drink herbal tea cocktails using ingredients that are found in most penis enlargement pills which improve circulation in your penis:

100% Gingko Biloba tea
100% Korean Panax Ginseng tea
100% Ginger tea
Yohimbe tea
Dr. Ernst's circulation tea

I put up to five tea bags in a normal sized mug and leave it to stew for up to 15 minutes.

A few cups of this a day will always give you LOTS of lead in your pencil!!