Sex Drive in your 40s

[dfw051980]

I am just curious to the other guys in your 40s what your sex life is like. I'm 44 and mine seems to be all over the place lately.
I can usually go days without thinking or wanting sex. This isnt different for me cause i was never a cum once a day type of person. But nowadays the days without an even thought of sex are followed by 2-3 days of me being insanely horny to the point that i can't even focus on anything until i have sex or at least cum, and even then a few hours later im back to be horned.

I'm not complaining about this at all i think it's interesting. I've had more sex in my 40's... im pretty sure my number in my 40s will be higher than my 20s or 30s lol. Just wondering what its like for other guys in their 40's.

 

[bro94]

I am just curious to the other guys in your 40s what your sex life is like. I'm 44 and mine seems to be all over the place lately.
I can usually go days without thinking or wanting sex. This isnt different for me cause i was never a cum once a day type of person. But nowadays the days without an even thought of sex are followed by 2-3 days of me being insanely horny to the point that i can't even focus on anything until i have sex or at least cum, and even then a few hours later im back to be horned.

I'm not complaining about this at all i think it's interesting. I've had more sex in my 40's... im pretty sure my number in my 40s will be higher than my 20s or 30s lol. Just wondering what its like for other guys in their 40's.

Do you have a partner you can have sex with?

 

[tps87]

I don't feel like my libido has changed at all since I was a teen and I'm in my 50's now. The only difference by decade has been how often I take care of things vs letting someone do it for me haha.

For me that means I want to get off once a day. Normally I'm not a twice a day guy but once in a while I'll go for round two later in the day and, rarer, round three. This has been consistent thru my decades. The only time I skip a day or two is when I'm anticipating getting busy with someone else. Even though I'm skipping I for sure am thinking about it! Since my late 40's I'll skip anticipating action more than I did when I was younger. If I refrain one day expecting sex with partner later, and that doesn't occur, then the next day I'll think the same thing and refrain again. If it doesn't happen again I may go one more day hoping for partner sex. If the action is still lacking, on day 4 I don't care anymore and take care of it (sometimes twice haha - I guess making up for missed days). If I end up busy with partner later that day, it will be a 2x/3x day. One thing too is usually a few hours after sex with partner, I'll want to go again by myself.

BTW I seem to be horniest in the morning. I really don't have any trouble doing it anytime except late at night when I'm tired I may need a bit more warmup to get going. Those mornings after partner sex I love to wank a load out even more than normal for some reason.

 

[dfw051980]

Do you have a partner you can have sex with?

No Im Single

 

[SalikOfThePierced Cock]

Hey, there!

So, I'm not 40 yet - I'm 36, so I'm getting there lol - but a lot of what you said applies to me!

I haven't had the highest sex drive ever, even as a teen; I don't really have sexual attraction either (it is more like a need to cum, regardless of how I do) so I haven't experienced sex drive as in 'oh god I need to fuck right now', like I've noticed a lot of guys do.

I can go for years - as I have last decade - where I really feel no need to fuck, and am content with simply fucking a sex toy. Other times I specifically want to cum fucking a pussy or a guy's ass or being blown by a good cocksucker.

But mostly I can go for days without even thinking about pleasuring myself (to me masturbation is the best thing ever), and other times I'll do it every day (I'm usually the "once a day kinda guy' when I'm jacking it daily). What I'm most fond of, though, is to edge my cock every day; just a little. It doesn't even have to be a full jacking session; only plaing with it and fondling a half-mast is enough. I'll drip some pre and be done with it.

It may last only a few minutes.

I can carry that on for weeks, really, until I finally decide to cum.

I also enjoy long edging sessions (though as I grew older those haven't been as recurrent, or as pleasing as they used to when I first started back in my teen years) that may last up to several hours.

As I'm writing this it's been 10 days since I last blew a load.

To wrap this up, I think you're pretty standard when it comes to sex drive, man. This we hear all the time about guys having the craziest sex drives ever, wanting to fuck ever day several times a day, I always take it with a grain of salt. To me it comes across more as sex fantasy more than anything else.

 

[Robert Dole]

At 46 it is about the same as at 18, which is about 2x a day. The only thing I've noted is that erections are more stable- if its up, there is a good reason and usually I'm making good use of it.

 

[just rodger]

I just turned 67, I get an erection every day from thinking about sex. Everyday, until I have sex then I forget about it for a few days unless the top was amazing, then I might jackoff the next few days thinking about it.

 

[dfw051980]

Its funny how things can change cause June was a a high sex drive month for me but as soon as my birthday (44) hit end of june and dealt with some life stresses and changes that made my sex drive plummet. I made very little effort in trying to hookup, i jerked off even less than i regularly do. Hooked up with a regular bud and although i stayed hard the entire time i couldnt cum at all. But i think it was all mental stuff i had to deal with this month but i think in August ill be back to my adventurous self.

 

[MDM8]

Very different for each of us I guess… I am 54 and definitely notice that my libido fluctuates much more now than in my 30’s and 40’s. I can feel it when my testosterone is low and sex drive is low too (my dick even feels smaller when excited…). But then when my testosterone is higher it is really noticeable and I’m very horny!! My wife and I have tried to adjust to these ups and downs to really take advantage. Here are a couple vida / pics from one of my higher testosterone times, definitely can feel the difference in my cock!!

 

[dfw051980]

Very different for each of us I guess… I am 54 and definitely notice that my libido fluctuates much more now than in my 30’s and 40’s. I can feel it when my testosterone is low and sex drive is low too (my dick even feels smaller when excited…). But then when my testosterone is higher it is really noticeable and I’m very horny!! My wife and I have tried to adjust to these ups and downs to really take advantage. Here are a couple vida / pics from one of my higher testosterone times, definitely can feel the difference in my cock!!

Well Damn !!
Sorry to be forward on a married man but I wish I could feel the difference myself LOL. Very Nice Bud!

 

[MDM8]

Well Damn !!
Sorry to be forward on a married man but I wish I could feel the difference myself LOL. Very Nice Bud!

No need to be sorry!! Thanks for the feedback @dfw051980 !!!

 

[playklax01]

50s here. Drive is hard to say as I'm demisexual. I still spot hot guys easily enough but have no interest in doing anything with them, just smile and flirt. With my ex before and by myself now, the drive slowly trickled down but as I got older I also started taking meds that interfere with erections and drive. BP meds, Propecia, anti-anxiety ones. In my 20s, it was easy. No meds and no stress. High drive, easy erections. I think that has a lot to do with it.

 

[Zhugezen]

50. Jackoff once a day, sometimes twice. Morning is usually the horniest. Doesn’t help that my wife isn’t interest in sex and my bi-side/homo side is getting stronger. I worry I might hurt my dick, lol. Sometimes it hurts, yikes, but I have no risk factors for cardiovascular disease thankfully. Might need to be a bit gentler in myself. Or find a suckbuddy… that would be the perfect solution. Anyways…..

 

[indyfrat79]

I just turned 45. Completely feral and insatiable- no different than when I was 20. I get off at least 10x a week. I jerk off most mornings and try to fuck at least 3-4x a week. Will close out 2024 having fucked 43 guys.

 

[chrisrobin]

I don't feel like my libido has changed at all since I was a teen and I'm in my 50's now. The only difference by decade has been how often I take care of things vs letting someone do it for me haha.

For me that means I want to get off once a day. Normally I'm not a twice a day guy but once in a while I'll go for round two later in the day and, rarer, round three. This has been consistent thru my decades. The only time I skip a day or two is when I'm anticipating getting busy with someone else. Even though I'm skipping I for sure am thinking about it! Since my late 40's I'll skip anticipating action more than I did when I was younger. If I refrain one day expecting sex with partner later, and that doesn't occur, then the next day I'll think the same thing and refrain again. If it doesn't happen again I may go one more day hoping for partner sex. If the action is still lacking, on day 4 I don't care anymore and take care of it (sometimes twice haha - I guess making up for missed days). If I end up busy with partner later that day, it will be a 2x/3x day. One thing too is usually a few hours after sex with partner, I'll want to go again by myself.

BTW I seem to be horniest in the morning. I really don't have any trouble doing it anytime except late at night when I'm tired I may need a bit more warmup to get going. Those mornings after partner sex I love to wank a load out even more than normal for some reason.

In my 40's I was in my prime, did a year cock count and clocked I has sex on each day of the year. at least once. The new year began with me being fucked, the year ended with me fucking, in between a mixture of fucking and being fucked and blow jobs.
My 40's were really prime sex years

 

[dfw051980]

Love all these responses.

It’s interesting cause since I posted this thread my sex drove as been all over the place. I’ll go through a days and days of non stop horniness then it will follow up a week of me not even remotely being interested in sex. I had a bad cold/virus early this month and it really killed my sex drive I think I went over a week without jerking off. Even before that though I felt a change.

I think part of it is pursuing sex and the thrill of getting it is waning. If it take more than 30 minutes to an hour to hookup or find sex I’ll either just jerk off or put my dick away and go about with something else. The other day a a really hot fuck buddy took too long to say when he was gonna be ready to meet and I just lost interest and went to bed.

But also my exhibitionist side is growing. Still love to freeball. Lately I’ve been leaving my apt blinds open and walk around my apt semi to fully nude most of the day. I want to start a better fitness journey soon and if I start getting fit I might be showing off more.

I’ve thought about talking to my doctor about my sex drive. I definitely dont have any issues getting hard and staying hard. But I don’t always feel the need to take care of it. I do think it could be some mental stuff too effecting my sex drive.

 

[indyfrat79]

I posted on this a few weeks back but yeah - insatiable. I've cum 3x a day for the past 5 days straight. 1-2 fucks a day and then jerked off, too. Cold dark days just make me horny. Shot decent sized loads every single time, too.

 

[dana2]

I am just curious to the other guys in your 40s what your sex life is like. I'm 44 and mine seems to be all over the place lately.
I can usually go days without thinking or wanting sex. This isnt different for me cause i was never a cum once a day type of person. But nowadays the days without an even thought of sex are followed by 2-3 days of me being insanely horny to the point that i can't even focus on anything until i have sex or at least cum, and even then a few hours later im back to be horned.

I'm not complaining about this at all i think it's interesting. I've had more sex in my 40's... im pretty sure my number in my 40s will be higher than my 20s or 30s lol. Just wondering what its like for other guys in their 40's.

I am almost 60 and still have a high sex drive as does my boyfriend who is in his 60s. Only thing different is that I have to be more careful to not hurt myself LOL: I throw out the muscles in my back from over exuberance when I cumme and also sprain my neck if I am too crazy giving blowjobs.