Sex with a guy with a very small penis

[deleted22449011]

Hey Guys,

Maybe the totally wrong place to be asking this, but I think there will be some in the audience with valid experience.
I'm going out this weekend with a guy who has told me he has a very small penis. He didn't want to send me a picture and I didn't push it. I have my own insecurities (just lost over 100 lbs. and still losing) and although a tiny-dicked partner isn't my dream, I don't want to throw away someone who otherwise seems very sweet and charming. If he had said nothing at all about it, I would have been all on board, and I don't want to contribute to the poisonous body-shaming culture that has made most of my adult life so miserable.

Anyway, I am asking for suggestions for how to handle him and this situation. I've never really been with a guy with a very small penis, except once but I was so freaked out about everything else I barely remember it. To make things even more complex, he's bisexual and I am the first guy he'll ever sleep with. On the upside, I probably can't disappoint him! And I think he's interested in bottoming (due to size issue, I assume), but it is yet to be seen if he actually enjoys it. I love the IDEA of bottoming myself, I've just never been able to get into it. So, if he--like me--doesn't just want to get fucked to death all evening, what should I focus on with him? What would you do? What have the small guys you've been with enjoyed the most? I'm gonna be fine if I have a pretty face to kiss and a big ol' ass to motorboat. But I do feel a little pressure to make this special for him and calm the anxiety I think he feels.

Thanks!

 

[LPSG Simon]

This sounds like a great opportunity to get creative in some really fun ways.

 

[hvdude]

Hey Guys,

Maybe the totally wrong place to be asking this, but I think there will be some in the audience with valid experience.
I'm going out this weekend with a guy who has told me he has a very small penis. He didn't want to send me a picture and I didn't push it. I have my own insecurities (just lost over 100 lbs. and still losing) and although a tiny-dicked partner isn't my dream, I don't want to throw away someone who otherwise seems very sweet and charming. If he had said nothing at all about it, I would have been all on board, and I don't want to contribute to the poisonous body-shaming culture that has made most of my adult life so miserable.

Anyway, I am asking for suggestions for how to handle him and this situation. I've never really been with a guy with a very small penis, except once but I was so freaked out about everything else I barely remember it. To make things even more complex, he's bisexual and I am the first guy he'll ever sleep with. On the upside, I probably can't disappoint him! And I think he's interested in bottoming (due to size issue, I assume), but it is yet to be seen if he actually enjoys it. I love the IDEA of bottoming myself, I've just never been able to get into it. So, if he--like me--doesn't just want to get fucked to death all evening, what should I focus on with him? What would you do? What have the small guys you've been with enjoyed the most? I'm gonna be fine if I have a pretty face to kiss and a big ol' ass to motorboat. But I do feel a little pressure to make this special for him and calm the anxiety I think he feels.

Thanks!

I know we gay guys have a rep for being into only huge cocks. But there is a person attached to it. Start there. If you like the guy, have an attraction to him and it is mutual just let nature take its course. If you try to force it or overthink it the encounter is bound to go south. While his size may be a bit disappointing, there are guys out there with big dicks that are just assholes. To me any cock is beautiful, regardless of size.

 

[deleted17181451]

If you like everything else about him then maybe you can make it work, even with a small penis. I would just focus on mutual pleasure, whatever form that takes. It’s a first date, take it easy.

 

[chrisrobin]

Enjoy the moment, his body, his kisses and embraces and then let the cocks do the talking.
Don't overthink first, fatal, concentrate on giving him a good experience while enjoying yourself t the same time. He might want to bottom for you so it's nothing to worry about or he might only want to top you. Again as long as it gets hard and in well you can still have great sex, and a smaller cock doesn't usually cause as much pain, som e of my best fuckin g has been from guys with small cocks but great cum loads.
On the other side frotting is also a delightful alternative.

 

[littleguy2]

Married bi here with an average to small size hardon. My first experience with a guy was to see what a big cock felt like so I played with one. It was a great experience but over the years I found playing with a cock of any size was just as fun. I have stroked and sucked many much smaller than me and boy was that good. Go in open minded and just have fun

 

[deleted22449011]

Thanks guys. I'm sure I'm going to have fun. I know he's just nervous. Between the dick size issue and it being his first time with a man. I bought him a present, as a sort of welcome to the brotherhood: a Bike jock strap. I know he's interested in being submissive. Not that I'm going to hide his cock all night. Just thought it might be something to make him feel good about himself. Since he's inexperienced completely, I suspect that having someone fawn over his body and telling him how sexy he is will be the biggest revelation for him. I don't think he's ever gotten that from the few girls' he's dated. And he's totally cute. Out of my league in fact. I hope he doesn't figure that out!

 

[hvdude]

Thanks guys. I'm sure I'm going to have fun. I know he's just nervous. Between the dick size issue and it being his first time with a man. I bought him a present, as a sort of welcome to the brotherhood: a Bike jock strap. I know he's interested in being submissive. Not that I'm going to hide his cock all night. Just thought it might be something to make him feel good about himself. Since he's inexperienced completely, I suspect that having someone fawn over his body and telling him how sexy he is will be the biggest revelation for him. I don't think he's ever gotten that from the few girls' he's dated. And he's totally cute. Out of my league in fact. I hope he doesn't figure that out!

Keep us posted and GOOD LUCK HAVE FUN!

 

[deleted22449011]

Keep us posted and GOOD LUCK HAVE FUN!

He's still here with me, two days later. Hasn't gone home yet. The date started as a disaster. For the very first time in my life, I had ED. I have not dated in a very long time. I obviously have some emotional/psychological issues that I wasn't aware of. He's been extremely patient. We're both pretty crazy about each other. His penis is not an issue for me. My penis suddenly not working has not been an issue for him. I think we're about as crazy about each other as you can be on your first date, which technically hasn't ended yet. Although he is going to go back home in a few hours, at least for a day or two.
As embarassing as the ED issue was, I really could not have asked for this to turn out better. I still kinda feel like I'm dreaming.

 

[wtfalice]

It only means you like him. The stress to give him a good time overpowered the horniness. Don’t call it ED. Take it slow. I’m sure when things calm down you will fuck him like an animal. Good luck!

 

[williews]

The mere fact that you are so concerned about his comfort level says a lot about you. I think if you both share your concerns that should make your time together more enjoyable. It sounds like you're off to great start. Have fun, both of you!

 

[nhguy78]

Enjoy him first. Develop the connection. Make each other feel sexy. That's the key most often.

 

[deleted21656081]

For me, I prefer my partner to notice my size, and I am fine with laughing about it, pretty much anything except over the top sph.
BUT since the guy lost 100 pounds, he probably has been through a lot with body acceptance. I have had the luxury of having a nice body all my life and never struggling with obesity, so ever since I was in my early 20s I didnt really care about having a small dick, and kind of embraced it.

I would just have sex with him, see where it goes and avoid commenting on his dick. If he asks you about it being small, just be honest and say yes. Don't patronize. Tell him you don't care. If he is open to making jokes, joke about it. Feel it out. And feel his cock

 

[PutItInHere691]

This is when comes a time that you.. and other guys that think small penis aren’t worth your time.. they all need love too small too big…. That they all need attention as much as the next one ..

I am little over 8 inches and there are guys out there that want to stick with at least 6 and under.. so I’ve had few guys turn me down for this reason.. so they’d suck me off instead..

I didn’t like this .. but I understood why they were the way they were and it’s their bodies .. so no means no

I been fuccked by a guy 3 inches.. and while he wasn’t huge pounding my ass hard as I hold onto the covers on the bed .. but his three inches actually felt pretty good..

So meet the guy.. to to know him and his penis.. and while it may not be huge.. maybe you’ll get some fun out of it

 

[Annatarsauron]

He's still here with me, two days later. Hasn't gone home yet. The date started as a disaster. For the very first time in my life, I had ED. I have not dated in a very long time. I obviously have some emotional/psychological issues that I wasn't aware of. He's been extremely patient. We're both pretty crazy about each other. His penis is not an issue for me. My penis suddenly not working has not been an issue for him. I think we're about as crazy about each other as you can be on your first date, which technically hasn't ended yet. Although he is going to go back home in a few hours, at least for a day or two.
As embarassing as the ED issue was, I really could not have asked for this to turn out better. I still kinda feel like I'm dreaming.

Wow. I can’t stop smiling. What you wrote made me so happy and warm inside.

Sex is a strange beast. I’m no stranger to ED. It’s all about comfort and letting loose. If one is worried, thinks too much, is nervous, etc., it’s hard getting it up (pun very much intended). If your first date hasn’t even ended yet, you’ll get comfortable with him soon enough.

Good sex is about both men pleasing each other and feeling good. I think we often do things in sex that feels good but when we think about it with unhazed minds, it sounds weird. The point being that sometimes the mind is our biggest enemy. Just go with the flow, feel good, make him feel good.

 

[Biyo]

He's still here with me, two days later. Hasn't gone home yet. The date started as a disaster. For the very first time in my life, I had ED. I have not dated in a very long time. I obviously have some emotional/psychological issues that I wasn't aware of. He's been extremely patient. We're both pretty crazy about each other. His penis is not an issue for me. My penis suddenly not working has not been an issue for him. I think we're about as crazy about each other as you can be on your first date, which technically hasn't ended yet. Although he is going to go back home in a few hours, at least for a day or two.
As embarassing as the ED issue was, I really could not have asked for this to turn out better. I still kinda feel like I'm dreaming.

Seems like you found someone whose company you genuinely enjoy, good for you. Not many do.

 

[varina1]

This is when comes a time that you.. and other guys that think small penis aren’t worth your time.. they all need love too small too big…. That they all need attention as much as the next one ..

I am little over 8 inches and there are guys out there that want to stick with at least 6 and under.. so I’ve had few guys turn me down for this reason.. so they’d suck me off instead..

I didn’t like this .. but I understood why they were the way they were and it’s their bodies .. so no means no

I been fuccked by a guy 3 inches.. and while he wasn’t huge pounding my ass hard as I hold onto the covers on the bed .. but his three inches actually felt pretty good..

So meet the guy.. to to know him and his penis.. and while it may not be huge.. maybe you’ll get some fun out of it

Me personally I have a size limit.... I know this is a site about big dicks but..... I have had insanely passionate sex with guys who have 3 or 4 inches that were hotter than most other guys avg or big. For me anything over 8" gets painful length wise.... so relax, go with the flow and don't focus on dicks during the making out & foreplay. If anything extend that and don't worry about who is going to fuck who.

 

[PutItInHere691]

Seems like you found someone whose company you genuinely enjoy, good for you. Not many do.

You said you had an “ED” issue that first night that were going to have sex.. I will say that isn’t erectile disorder …. This point it’s just nerves .. and once gets past those nerves you and your penis will work just fine sooner or later..

and with your penis not rising to the occasion.. you learned there is more to yourself and he learned as well there is more to you than your penis.. guys are so hooked up on two things.. the penis and the asshole… there’s kissing making out massaging and kissing the rest of the body to savor and enjoy..

has your penis began working ok since then?

 

[deleted22449011]

We’re still seeing each other. He has been spending weekends with me. He has announced my existence to his group of friends and thus come out as bi to them. I’m still having “ED” issues but it appears to be related to some of my medications. His dick size is not an issue for me. Very grateful for how patient he has been with me. Having a great time with him despite the difficulties.

 

[hot showers]

As a man with a smaller-than-average penis, who for the last few weeks has been going through a hopefully-temporary bout with ED, you both sound like amazing people. You deserve each other