Something inbetween

[swissiws]

The definition of transgender is quite confusing on the net: when I look for "shemales" I often found crosdressers or transvestites. I guess this thread is for M2F or F2M people (those who changed their genitalia to make them similar to opposite sex ones?).

I am instead talking to the kind of transgender people that are quite like women but that kept her penises. I like them but I think of them as males with tits.

My question: is there some of those transgendered that think of themselves as men? I mean: they want to keep their penises: how can they call themselves women?
I ask because I am a crossdresser. I have known other crossdressers and they used a feminine name while in drag, and even changed their voice pitch.
I never did that: I kept my name and never altered my voice. To me, dressing like a girl was a provocative way of being a guy. and it attracted a lot of girls. of course I was mocked several times and called gay (that I am not, but I have nothing against who is).
Am I one in a million?

 

[MissThing]

I am a non-op transwoman, which means I have taken no hormones and had no surgeries. Just some tips, the word "trans" is generally an offensive term to call a transwoman (it's a porn term). Transpeople are like any other demographic: there is a spectrum on which we all fall. Some of us prefer not to have hormones or surgeries, some prefer the alternative or somewhere in between. Crossdressers are usually men who dress as women for kicks. I can't speak for all transwomen, but I have kept my penis and there is nothing male about me. Being a woman or a man is not defined by one's genitals. I am a transwoman, not a man. You are not one in a million, you just have a fetish (it seems) for women's clothes. It's really quite common and doesn't necessarily have anything to do with your sexual preference or identity.

 

[posting4745]

Miss Thing, I thought I was pretty clear on all of these classifications, but now I am really confused. You identify as a transwoman and that you are 100% straight. Got it. Does that mean you date men because you identify as a woman and a straight woman dates men?

 

[MissThing]

Yes, that is correct. The key is to separate identity from preference. I identify as a woman, but that in and of itself has nothing to do with who I am attracted to. I happen to be attracted to men only, so I am a straight transwoman. There are many transwomen who are lesbians, as well. The same can go for transmen. Who we are attracted to or what our sexual preference is happens to be separate from how one identifies.

 

[Chrisplug]

This is all so confusing. Can't we tell each other the physical sex we were born, and where we have gone since, and how we feel now. The trans words confuse the hell out of me.

 

[MissThing]

The onus is on you to resolve your confusion, but people like me don't mind explaining it from our own experience and perspective. I don't mean that to sound angry or ugly or anything, but it is the truth. I am not confused about who or what I am: it is others who are confused about it. It's not really as complicated as it seems once you just break it down to its components, though. Gender is how we identify, sex is our body/physiology, and preference is who we are attracted to. It really is simply a matter of understanding the differences in the terms that we tend to use interchangeably when they don't really mean the same things.

 

[Chrisplug]

MissThing, I love your words. You speak great wisdom. What I stated before is so that everyone can possibly understand and make it better for us all.