Exploring the fine line between pleasure and pain seems to have no limits. 
Experiment away, says Sartre, because you don’t know until you try it
, but fellow Austrian-British philosopher, Karl Popper, was a tad more wary. 
Alive during WWII, Popper was pissed because good people didn’t seem to be able to stick up for themselves. 
They didn’t know when it was time to say no: too much turning the other cheek and hoping for the best. 
Then everything would go to shit. 
Popper was talking at the level of communities and nations, but his ideas are equally valid for how we treat one another as individuals, particularly behind closed doors. 
Part of being a good fuck is being considerate.
It’s not unusual for a partner’s kink to not be your own, but getting them to feel fucking good is the priority, so a little tolerance goes a long way.
But therein lies the problem. Where is the line?
A good lover will struggle to say no while focused on making their partner feel good.
The crappy lover won’t take no for an answer but draw their own line in the sand from day one.
Popper was big on being intolerant to the intolerant. 
For him, that’s part of what being tolerant means. Share new pleasures and push boundaries, but if things get a little weird or uncomfortable, be honest about it.
If your honesty isn’t respected, it’s time to get serious about reviewing the relationship, maybe even time to get out.
Likewise, expect and respect the same from your partner.
Creating new ways to fuck together is part of the game 
; being a selfish cunt is not.
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Experiment away, says Sartre, because you don’t know until you try it, but fellow Austrian-British philosopher, Karl Popper, was a tad more wary. Alive during WWII, Popper was pissed because good people didn’t seem to be able to stick up for themselves. They didn’t know when it was time to say no: too much turning the other cheek and hoping for the best. Then everything would go to shit. Popper was talking at the level of communities and nations, but his ideas are equally valid for how we treat one another as individuals, particularly behind closed doors. Part of being a good fuck is being considerate.
It’s not unusual for a partner’s kink to not be your own, but getting them to feel fucking good is the priority, so a little tolerance goes a long way. But therein lies the problem. Where is the line? A good lover will struggle to say no while focused on making their partner feel good. The crappy lover won’t take no for an answer but draw their own line in the sand from day one. Popper was big on being intolerant to the intolerant. For him, that’s part of what being tolerant means. Share new pleasures and push boundaries, but if things get a little weird or uncomfortable, be honest about it. If your honesty isn’t respected, it’s time to get serious about reviewing the relationship, maybe even time to get out. Likewise, expect and respect the same from your partner. Creating new ways to fuck together is part of the game ; being a selfish cunt is not.
