Teasing clothes

[savageblue]

Hello to all the ladies.

I have a question about clothing options for teasing the opposite sex. And by teasing, I mean that it is more than just dressing elegantly (which, in itself, can be quite sensual... but not teasing), but is not so blatant as to be considererd too much in-your-face or even distasteful.
If a woman wants like to tease a man by means of clothing, she has several options she can resort to, whether it's a slightly more revealing neckline, maybe a more flowy dress, a slightly shorter mini skirt or even, given the right setting, going braless. I mean something that gives away the message "if you like what you see, and you play your cards right, I'm definitely inviting you later to see the rest of it" to the guy you're interested in.

Now, my question is, what clothing options does a man have that might have the same effect on a woman?
For instance, is a rolled up sleeve that shows the forearms better than a sleeveless shirt that'll show the biceps?
Buttoning up one button less on the shirt?

What would you find tasteful teasing in a guy's appearance?

(bonus question: does the sight of a candid visible penis line spark your interest at all? And I don't mean something that is a blatant display of dick, like a guy going commando on spandex, I mean that it's just enough for you to notice it, but not enough to make out every vein of the guys junk).

Thank you all very much.

 

[Sentosa]

"if you like what you see, and you play your cards right, I'm definitely inviting you later to see the rest of it"

Isn't that dangerously close the standard "have you seen the length of her skirt, she was asking for it?" argument used by despicable lawyers on behalf of their rapist clients?

 

[savageblue]

Isn't that dangerously close the standard "have you seen the length of her skirt, she was asking for it?" argument used by despicable lawyers on behalf of their rapist clients?

Noooooooooooooo! No, no, no, that is NOT at all what I meant! I'm asking this from the perspective of two consenting adults, both equally responsible for their actions, both intelligent and respectful of the others' decisions.
I will NEVER condone or support abusive behaviour, much less that "She was asking for it" bullshit.
I'm sorry if that's what it sounded like (English is not my first language).

The context of my example is when a woman is interested in a man (maybe they're even friends) and she resorts to clothing to tease him a bit (NOT "invite" him to abuse her E-V-E-R!!!).

I'm talking to adults with a brain.

 

[ibex231]

Isn't that dangerously close the standard "have you seen the length of her skirt, she was asking for it?" argument used by despicable lawyers on behalf of their rapist clients?

I think the objection that line of argument is that being dressed like a total ho (and I say that as someone who has been known to do so) or even acting like a total ho (again, as someone who knows about, uh, being a ho) it does not mean you’ve automatically given consent.

The flaw in the argument that “she was dressing like she wanted to get fucked” is not that it presumes the woman was dressing like she wanted to get fucked. Because honestly with some of the skirts I’ve worn that is the only reasonable interpretation - those skirts aren’t practical for anything but attracting attention. The flaw is that the rapist thought that because she was MAYBE dressing like she wanted to get fucked BY SOMEONE, he had the right to fuck her and it didn’t matter if she said no.

In a lot of cases the women WERE dressed in sexually inviting ways, but that doesn’t matter. Maybe it was for someone else, maybe she initially wanted to get fucked and changed her mind.

sorry to derail, I don’t doubt we’re on the same side I just wanted to nip in the bud the idea that it’s not okay to dress provocatively. It is, whether you’re trying to invite sex or just enjoy your beauty or I dunno, forgot how tight something was.

anyway to answer the original question - a tailored suit that shows his perfect v-shaped torso and broad shoulders. Don’t need to see any skin.

visible dick lines are POSSIBLY intriguing unless there is ANY whiff of the idea that you’re doing it on purpose and then you look like a pervert who is basically the same as those guys who expose themselves to women surprisingly often.

not to keep ranting but I don’t think guys here understand how often women, starting at a fairly young age, are exposed to unsolicited dick: On the street, parking lots, stores, beaches, parks, etc For most women, a man they don’t know trying to show you his dick is a threat not a turn on.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I only dress that way for my guy. I don't dress in a "teasing" way anywhere outside my own home. Or in pics I post here, which are taken in my home.

I don't want to be teased anywhere outside my home either. When I'm at work or in public I don't need to be "teased" by anyone in the way you're describing.

I don't go out much anyway. When I do it's because I have to. Work or grocery shopping. I don't need to see dick while I'm getting shampoo and dog food, or while I'm earning a paycheck.

If I see a guy trying to make me look at his dick I will ruin his kink forever if I can manage. He'll never want to flash it again. He won't even like looking at it himself anymore.

 

[LaFemme]

Like the other women have noted, I have never dressed to ‘tease’. I dress so that I feel good, attractive, powerful. In private with the man of my choice, I would tease with clothing. I liked to play with texture, contrast, the unexpected.

What can I man wear? I’m old, so what used to make my knees go weak was faded jeans and a white t-shirt. I don’t know. Just hot. But no dick. Omg. Like @ibex231 said, women are exposed to more dick than we know what to do with.

Sadly (for a lot of men), many women find the penis to be the least interesting part of a man. Doesn’t mean that privately we aren’t capable of cock greediness, but that’s once the rest of the man has gotten our attention. So no dick, please.

 

[savageblue]

I'm talking to adults with a brain.

I mispelled. I wanted to say "I'm talking TWO adults with a brain".

Anyway, thanks @ibex231 for getting to what I was asking.
Although, I feel like I'm maybe getting lost in translation here? (again, English is not my native language).
I don't mean "teasing" in a slutty way. I mean teasing in a flirty, fun way (and respectful of the other person's limits).

not to keep ranting but I don’t think guys here understand how often women, starting at a fairly young age, are exposed to unsolicited dick: On the street, parking lots, stores, beaches, parks, etc For most women, a man they don’t know trying to show you his dick is a threat not a turn on.

As for this, it's a shame that it is so.
I myself am not a bad looking guy, so I've been in a couple of situations where I felt the "threatening stare" of gay men on me, and I'm pretty sure that wasn't even close to a tenth of all that a woman has to put up with during her whole life. So, yes, it's unfortunate that some men don't know where to draw the line.

 

[savageblue]

Like the other women have noted, I have never dressed to ‘tease’. I dress so that I feel good, attractive, powerful. In private with the man of my choice, I would tease with clothing. I liked to play with texture, contrast, the unexpected.

What can I man wear? I’m old, so what used to make my knees go weak was faded jeans and a white t-shirt. I don’t know. Just hot.

Only saw your reply after I wrote mine

Yes, this is the kind of answer I was looking for. Thanks for your input.

I wonder if I using the word "tease" wrongly? Is teasing more than flirting? I mean... for me, if a woman that I know never shows cleavage suddenly wears something that shows an inch of cleavage if she goes out on a date with me, is she being teasing, or just flirty?

 

[LaFemme]

Only saw your reply after I wrote mine

Yes, this is the kind of answer I was looking for. Thanks for your input.

I wonder if I using the word "tease" wrongly? Is teasing more than flirting? I mean... for me, if a woman that I know never shows cleavage suddenly wears something that shows an inch of cleavage if she goes out on a date with me, is she being teasing, or just flirty?

“Teasing” can be a loaded word. Most women have been accused of being a cocktease, meaning they dress/flirt/exist and apparently this leads a man to believe that she’s a sure thing and she backs out. It’s a pretty negative term and does not take into account personal choice and consent.

I see young women all the time, wearing tight clothes, showing cleavage or legs or whatever. Hair and makeup on point. So heartbreakingly beautiful in their youth. Those young women are feeling their feminine power, enjoying attention, exploring their boundaries. Are they doing it to lead men on? Tease? Not necessarily. But too often, it’s viewed as an invitation for harassment or worse. “Tease”. “Slut”. “Bitch”.

In my opinion, those young women should enjoy being beautiful. They will never be younger than they are today. Never be more beautiful. Looking back, I always say - if I had known how beautiful I was, I would have spent at lot more time naked! Lol!

Anyway, that’s a long way to say that “teasing” can be a negative word.

 

[savageblue]

Anyway, that’s a long way to say that “teasing” can be a negative word.

Thank you so much for the explanation.
I guess the word I'm looking for must be "flirty" then?

 

[TinyPrincess]

Generally I prefer my guy to dress a tad more classical than most.

And under no circumstances do I lige to watch some random guy's junk. Think that's a gay man's dream...

 

[Holly Doors]

I like to see a guy smart casual, well fitted jeans, a cool t shirt with a sports jacket kinda thing, that said well fitted jeans with a vest top can look amazing on the right guy imo.

 

[EllieP]

I only ever tease one person, and that's my lover. I never dress to rouse prurient interest in strangers.

I've told this story before, but not long after we were married we flew to LA for an awards show. I bought a little black dress for the occasion, but after putting it on in the room I had serious second thoughts. My neckline was almost to my navel, and my cleavage was on blatant display.

That and the fact that I couldn't wear panties with the tight-fitting dress made me very uncomfortable. I came out of the bathroom and asked him if this would be OK. He stopped cold and looked at me. Then he said "It's perfect."

I asked him if he thought I was showing too much. He said absolutely not. I asked if he thought that men would stare at my boobs, and he said "Of course they will, and then I'll give them a sign that says 'yeah, I put my nose in there.'"

I was never brave to wear that dress again. But from what I saw at the banquet I felt like I was somewhat overdressed!