The "Sugar Baby" Issue

[AnonXL]

Its been in my head, the topic of spoiling and been spoiled (personal stuff), but what comes to my mind is how to describe the complex "Sugar Daddy - Sugar Baby Phenomena".

Because it is no lie that being in what a i call a "SugarLink" is indeed a -Relationship- even if is limited by the spoiling or the buyed affection. This phenomena is hardly to describe as it is to make a whole study about behavior. Involve two or more people, and can gain or lose privileges and "artifacts" (by artifacts, i mean some accords, like: open relationship, nsa, or exclusive encounters, etc...)

So if it is as hard to describe as a relationship, is it hard to get?

I would like to know, about you guys, if you ever had sugar babies or daddies. And what was it like, im kinda into all the topic, because im a Boy Domina, and the duality Alphas/Betas, and how they become cashXXX or spoilers is a matter of curiosity for me.

Note:
Im into being a Domina, but only experience in the dimensions of socialite, sex, and inteligence.

Let me know your opinions.

 

[Topher the Gopher]

I knowledge of this dynamic is limited, but I can share what little I think and have experienced.

I imagine that this mostly happens when a man with cash to burn becomes fond of a man for sexual and perhaps friendly or romantic feelings and is willing to pay to keep him around. I imagine that for some of these men, spending money on the object of his affections makes them feel altruistic and maybe horny.

For the recipient, I'd like to think most of them would have some measure of affection and respect for their sugar daddies, but somehow, I doubt it. I imagine most of them feel about their sugar daddies as prostitutes do about their clients.

I really missed out on a great opportunity when I was in my early-mid 20s. I met a man online who invited me to his home. He was reasonably good-looking, had a nice cock, and had shaking orgasms when he fucked my mouth or ass. He was also friendly and good-natured, so I liked him for him. During our first and only visit, he handed me a hundred dollars and said something like, "You can have this, it's nothing to me." Apparently, he was a well-paid government employee.

Unfortunately, after that first visit, he decided he wanted to concentrate on someone else on whom he'd had his sights for a while. I mean, fine, that's his prerogative, but I still felt like I missed out.

 

[halcyondays]

How to describe it? Is it a relationship? Yes. Is it exclusive? No.

My first sugar baby was a college student. Her online profile said nothing about being a sugar baby in search of a sugar daddy or in need of financial assistance. Most of her profile was devoted to warning off guys who thought they were "all that" tryna impress her with bling or a hot car or gangsta. It mentioned she was a student but not of what or where. She was black, petite and busty. Beautiful. In one of her pics she wore a bikini at the pool of her apartment complex.

I suspected she might be a sex worker since some women I contacted at that site were and it's not uncommon for some college girls in our university town to turn tricks to earn extra cash. She replied to my contact almost immediately. Within a week it led to coffee, a dinner date out and hooking up at my place. She was early 20s and finishing the second year of nursing school. I was in my mid thirties. We began an open relationship--both of us admitting we were seeing others. It turned into a "sugarlink" as you call it when she asked if I could help her financially. Yeah. Money. We agreed that I would cover most of her costs for three hook ups a week. This went on for her last two years of nursing school.

In terms of kink she occasionally brought another girl into the mix and my use of sex furniture, slings, bondage and roleplay kept things fresh. She loved the massage table and often when she said she was too tired to have sex a full body or tantric massage woke her body up tho sometimes she fell asleep too, lol. She frequently stayed the night. Many weeks we met more than three times. She said she felt pampered. Safe.

We had real affection for each other and expressed love for each other. I never knew who else she was seeing from her own age/friend groups but she blew off a lot of steam with me. She also opened up about abusive exes and family problems.

BTW there was never any kind of transaction when we hooked up. She dropped off her bills or mailed them to me and I made them go away. We took breaks, too. She took vacations on summer break and holidays and traveled to visit family--all the usual things. I did as well. It was flexible. She was a lover.

I've been sugar daddy to a few college boys as well but for shorter periods of time and not to the same level of expense.

 

[AnonXL]

wow guys, thanks for repliying and not let die this thread.

Its is nice to hear about to your experiences, really gives me more information. I wonder a lot about how people, indirectly or directly get involve in a sugar link.

As you describe, sometimes the sugar baby ask for it, and sometimes is offered.

I have heard stories about people being sugared but never sexually involved. Is this a sugar link? Yes. Its really a thing? I dont know. Its a matter of curiosity for me, to understand the transactional process of a sugarlink, specially when theres not sex as a coin lf exchange.

Is some people looking for conversations/company or something like that?

Thank you for your replies, hope theres more discussion and new participants

 

[AnonXL]

How to describe it? Is it a relationship? Yes. Is it exclusive? No.

My first sugar baby was a college student. Her online profile said nothing about being a sugar baby in search of a sugar daddy or in need of financial assistance. Most of her profile was devoted to warning off guys who thought they were "all that" tryna impress her with bling or a hot car or gangsta. It mentioned she was a student but not of what or where. She was black, petite and busty. Beautiful. In one of her pics she wore a bikini at the pool of her apartment complex.

I suspected she might be a sex worker since some women I contacted at that site were and it's not uncommon for some college girls in our university town to turn tricks to earn extra cash. She replied to my contact almost immediately. Within a week it led to coffee, a dinner date out and hooking up at my place. She was early 20s and finishing the second year of nursing school. I was in my mid thirties. We began an open relationship--both of us admitting we were seeing others. It turned into a "sugarlink" as you call it when she asked if I could help her financially. Yeah. Money. We agreed that I would cover most of her costs for three hook ups a week. This went on for her last two years of nursing school.

In terms of kink she occasionally brought another girl into the mix and my use of sex furniture, slings, bondage and roleplay kept things fresh. She loved the massage table and often when she said she was too tired to have sex a full body or tantric massage woke her body up tho sometimes she fell asleep too, lol. She frequently stayed the night. Many weeks we met more than three times. She said she felt pampered. Safe.

We had real affection for each other and expressed love for each other. I never knew who else she was seeing from her own age/friend groups but she blew off a lot of steam with me. She also opened up about abusive exes and family problems.

BTW there was never any kind of transaction when we hooked up. She dropped off her bills or mailed them to me and I made them go away. We took breaks, too. She took vacations on summer break and holidays and traveled to visit family--all the usual things. I did as well. It was flexible. She was a lover.

I've been sugar daddy to a few college boys as well but for shorter periods of time and not to the same level of expense.

And about this, id love if you can share some of those college boys experiences, and their level of expense.