Tips for Tops

[ThirstyAndVersatile]

Hey all. So im not the most experienced top and just need advice on general entry. With or without lubei find myself forcing myself in. Can feel uncomfortable and sometimes can never slide myself in fully for penetration. What are the easiest positions for best entry and so i can be fully inside my partner and satisfy him and me

 

[halcyondays]

Here's a tip. Tell your bottom to push like they're defecating. It relaxes anal sphincter muscles allowing you to penetrate more easily. Don't be in a hurry. It can take time for someone to relax, open fully and keep it open. And breathe.

Another tip. Ask a bottom what's the largest thing they've had in their butt. If it's only fingers they're not ready to be topped. It's almost impossible to get inside someone who has no experience playing with toys like dildos and butt plugs--IOW someone who hasn't trained their butthole to relax, open and stretch--not without hurting them or you or both.

Another tip is to use anal toys as part of foreplay & lubing to get them to relax and open so you can get in them. Start with small toys and increase size as your partner gets more comfortable.

Get a lube injector. I lube bottoms generously before getting into them. It may not seem like it but lube makes a huge difference both inside and out.

In terms of positions I'm big so I usually start on my back and let a bottom straddle me and get on in their own good time though I will support their thighs/butt with my hands so they don't push down so hard that it hurts or injures me. If that doesn't work I'll have a bottom relax and lie on their side while I get into them gradually from behind--spooning. If you ask them experienced bottoms will tell you which position they like best to start.

Remember that just because someone says they're a bottom doesn't mean they've bottomed recently. Unused butts tighten up over time and have to relax all over again. Experienced bottoms usually adjust to this quickly because they know the drill.

So communicate. And wear condoms.

 

[BlackBearCognac]

Get a lube injector. I lube bottoms generously before getting into them. It may not seem like it but lube makes a huge difference both inside and out.

A good ol' turkey baster works well.

 

[Fishsqueezee69]

Hey all. So im not the most experienced top and just need advice on general entry. With or without lubei find myself forcing myself in. Can feel uncomfortable and sometimes can never slide myself in fully for penetration. What are the easiest positions for best entry and so i can be fully inside my partner and satisfy him and me

Maybe bottom first? That would make you a better top.

 

[thongboy]

When I top I always listen to my bottom. When I bottom, I want my top to listen to me.
I think this is especially important with a new partner. Forget misleading porn stuff with its slam-bam approach.
With someone I fuck regularly we already to know what buttons to push, what shifts in our positions are needed etc. There's always conversation. Am I sliding into quickly? Fuck, that feels so good. I want to angle my cock to go balls deep — okay with that? Okay, I'll slow down. You want me to pull out?
If I'm fucking someone for the first time communication is even more important

 

[GottaLuvBB]

As a bottom, and one who is very active with toys and the real thing, it does take time and practice to be loose and ready for a larger cock. I'm a fan of lube of course as it will make the entire experience easier. Silicon if you both are not sensitive too it as it will last much longer.

The spooning/side entry is always good. Depending on the size (of both people) straddling can be a challenge. I personally enjoy being face down on my stomach to start as it allows for an easier entry, and full body contact which is sensual. Then it can progress to doggy, flip @ to missionary, spooning, sideways, reverse, etc. If you have the stamina, mix it up.

 

[Sturdywords]

https://www.gayforit.eu/video/396701/Topology--How-to-be-a-good-top--Part-One

 

[Sturdywords]

https://www.gayforit.eu/video/396838/Topology--How-to-be-a-good-top-Part-Two