Tips From Women Who Enjoy Anal

[westhughes]

My wife has agreed to give anal a shot. She doesn't think she'll enjoy it (had a bad experience years ago with her boyfriend, and has a sensitive butt), but is willing to try it because she knows I want it. Obviously I want her to enjoy it and genuinely want it, rather than do it for me, so any tips from women who have had success?

 

[693987]

Lube, possibly disposable/single use enema kits (could help ease one or both of your minds among other things), more lube, getting a small butt plug or other anal play safe toy so she can get used to things before a whole dick us shoved up there, more lube, time, and more lube.

 

[286798]

I think this has been asked before with lots of helpful advice. Search this forum and you'll probably find more than you need.

 

[westhughes]

I think this has been asked before with lots of helpful advice. Search this forum and you'll probably find more than you need.

I figured it was, but (unless I'm missing something) since I couldn't search, unfortunately eventually I got tired of fishing for it

 

[693987]

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that's just some of 'em that are here in Ask a Woman

 

[Scarletbegonia]

I wrote this recently on another site.
The poster above me was talking about enemas and other prep, so I’m picking up the convo thread...

I also prep. So there’s a mental trigger.
I’m newish to it, also, and it was on an ask. A really cool, not in the moment ask. We were flirting over email and he simply asked if I’d ever done it. I said, not willingly. He immediately backed off, but said if ever I was curious, he’d be slow and gentle.
I made up my mind to give it a proper try.
Basically, I have to decide if I’m up to it at all. I live with a weird pain syndrome, and memories of assaults, so it really is my call, and he’s fine with it.
He’s also learned that the flirting when he’s on the road gets a more receptive partner.
Once I’ve made the decision to be ready (and it doesn’t happen each time I prep, we don’t plan to do it, but rather I planing not to, and might say, it’s not on deck today), and clean up, I let him know with a code word. I call prep an “extra serious shower.”
So if I say I’m well showered, or something like that, he knows it’s a possibility.
He will say that we are overdue for any given activity. It’s actually “pillow talk” when we have video dates. So I have an idea of where his head is.

we have lots of foreplay, including mutual rimming. We sort of pick up that the other is thinking about going there. Because sometimes rimming is just because it feels good all by itself.
If we have plenty of time and privacy, he will keep up the foreplay until I’m begging.
Usually, he starts with one finger, goes to two and sometimes three. Only if I’m responding well, and not simply doing it for him, will he continue.
Honestly? I think a few plugs to stretch would be useful. All smaller than he is, but close.

so far, we haven’t made it all about “finishing” there. It’s just fun for a while.
I’ve had days where I thought I was good for it, but couldn’t relax.
He says ”next time” and we go on to something else.
That part, his “it’s no big deal if it doesn’t happen right now” attitude gets him a lot of yeses.

 

[AlteredEgo]

I disagree with the single use disposeable enema unless there will be multiple of them. That has never been sufficient for me. Maybe it is just my body, maybe it is what I eat, but I prepare with an enema from the old fashioned hot water bottle kits. Two quarts of warm water (adding salt or soap gives me cramps) held for as long as I can (usually about two minutes is the max) and then released works for me. I find that the stimulation of anal penetration causes spasms and contractions that get messy if I don't cleanse deeply.

Rimming, and lube, and fingering, and lube, and toys, and lube, and then lube and lube.

 

[693987]

I disagree with the single use disposeable enema unless there will be multiple of them. That has never been sufficient for me. Maybe it is just my body, maybe it is what I eat, but I prepare with an enema from the old fashioned hot water bottle kits. Two quarts of warm water (adding salt or soap gives me cramps) held for as long as I can (usually about two minutes is the max) and then released works for me. I find that the stimulation of anal penetration causes spasms and contractions that get messy if I don't cleanse deeply.

Rimming, and lube, and fingering, and lube, and toys, and lube, and then lube and lube.

I haven't used the disposable enema kits myself, but the Daddy I served enjoyed being pegged. He would buy the disposable kits sort of in bulk, from what I saw chilling in the bathroom cupboard.

Oh! If it's a completely new thing for you, don't let the liquid for enemas be cold either.

 

[693987]

One other thing to add, that you might not have thought of. If you're going to be fucking an ass, even if you are normally fluid bonded/don't use barrier protection methods? You may wish to for anal. Not even because oh my gosh, maybe the preparation didn't do enough. More of a, do you really wanna stop in the middle of things to go thoroughly wash your junk, before you're able to have PiV? Easier to slip a condom off and get back to it.

Any toys that go in my ass are either exclusively for anal play, or get a condom thrown on 'em. Any dick that has gone in my ass is going to be in a condom or thoroughly, very thoroughly washed before it goes inside the ladybits. I do not want to upset the balance of everything all in my business.

 

[AlteredEgo]

One other thing to add, that you might not have thought of. If you're going to be fucking an ass, even if you are normally fluid bonded/don't use barrier protection methods? You may wish to for anal. Not even because oh my gosh, maybe the preparation didn't do enough. More of a, do you really wanna stop in the middle of things to go thoroughly wash your junk, before you're able to have PiV? Easier to slip a condom off and get back to it.

Any toys that go in my ass are either exclusively for anal play, or get a condom thrown on 'em. Any dick that has gone in my ass is going to be in a condom or thoroughly, very thoroughly washed before it goes inside the ladybits. I do not want to upset the balance of everything all in my business.

This. Because e. coli and bacterial vaginosis are not my friends.

 

[westhughes]

Thanks ladies. Big help!

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

Also, be completely ok with it if she still doesn't like it. For some of us no matter how much prep or lube or gentleness or size of toy or cock or fingers can still be uncomfortable. The key is to never push her to do it or do it again if it isnt a sensation she enjoys....no matter how hard it gets your dick. Men push women into this stuff and don't realize how uncomfortable it can be and think she should just suck it up or do it more until she likes it or just tolerates it on your behalf. Some dudes just aren't going to get ass no matter how much it turns them on. You might be one of those dudes.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

I disagree with the single use disposeable enema unless there will be multiple of them. That has never been sufficient for me. Maybe it is just my body, maybe it is what I eat, but I prepare with an enema from the old fashioned hot water bottle kits. Two quarts of warm water (adding salt or soap gives me cramps) held for as long as I can (usually about two minutes is the max) and then released works for me. I find that the stimulation of anal penetration causes spasms and contractions that get messy if I don't cleanse deeply.

Rimming, and lube, and fingering, and lube, and toys, and lube, and then lube and lube.

well, I’m a flaming hippie, so all single use disposables outside of a clinical setting are a no.
I also have a bulb syringe. I’d read some differing viewpoints on a deep enema versus a shallower option. My personal concern was decimating intestinal flora in the upper large colon.
Given that anal is a tiny piece, I lean toward light eating 24 hrs before and three bulbs of water, basically looking for clear.
So far, so good.

 

[AlteredEgo]

well, I’m a flaming hippie, so all single use disposables outside of a clinical setting are a no.
I also have a bulb syringe. I’d read some differing viewpoints on a deep enema versus a shallower option. My personal concern was decimating intestinal flora in the upper large colon.
Given that anal is a tiny piece, I lean toward light eating 24 hrs before and three bulbs of water, basically looking for clear.
So far, so good.

My body just does not work that way. It won't run clear unless I do 4 quarts, followed by another 2 quarts, and then another 2 quarts. I used to do enemas until it ran clear, but I no longer do. It hasn't proven necessary. But unless I do the 2 quarts, spasms will bring something nasty down the pipes. It hasn't been a problem as far as flora. I also haven't typically done it more than a few times a year. Just putting it out there in case anyone else has similar experiences.