There is a difference between wanting to feel like a man/woman in bed, and between wanting to be dominant/submissive in bed, and wanting anal/penile nerve endings stimulated. As for myself I like feeling like a woman in bed, like being submissive in bed, and enjoy topping.
I too once made the very ignorant, shallow mistake that SuperJojo and similar morons make: that one was either someone who liked feeling like a woman AND being sub AND bottoming or someone who likes feeling like a man AND being dom AND topping. I learned the very PLEASURABLE way that I was dead wrong. There are all different combinations of each.
Knowing that I wanted to feel like the woman in the bedroom and wanted to be submissive, I assumed I could only get sexual pleasure by being a bottom. So I tried it several times. I never got one iota of sexual pleasure from it whatsoever. What I did get though was a whole lot of EXCRUTIATING PAIN. I also got an anal hernia once WHICH HURT LIKE HELL FOR 3 DAYS STRAIGHT. And I had a guy's condom come off inside of me once AND HAD TO RUN TO THE HOSPITAL FOR PEP SO I WOULDN'T CATCH HIV. After a LOT OF PAIN and bad experiences, I gave up anal altogether, thinking that it just wasn't for me.
Then I was with a super hot guy who was ordering me around and telling me exactly what to do as we made out (just like I like). And suddenly he told me to fuck his ass. I was very puzzled and shocked. I COULDN'T BELIEVE such a dominant, masculine man was a bottom! I obliged and I almost came in about 7 seconds! I mean it was the hottest sexual moment of my entire life! I ate him out (also a first for me at the time) and then fucked him some more AND CAME SO HARD!
From that night on I have been sold by the idea of being a submissive feminine top. I will only top FOR A MAN WHO IS 100% MASCULINE IN STYLE AND IS DOMINATING ME LIKE A TOTAL BITCH. If a guy is super, hella cute I will sometimes make exceptions and act the dominatrix, but he has to look like jake layman for that to happy. I really prefer him to be the dom.
Mister2101 to answer your question as a trans woman top, yes I do feel less feminine when I top a guy. No I do not think of him as less of a man. He just seems like a man who enjoys anal stimulation. Generally cisgender women HATE anal stimulation, so why would liking it make one less of a man, or make one a woman?
Something in me does unfortunately make me feel somewhat masculine though. Added to the problems is that most of the men who enjoy bottoming also want to be a sub and for me to dom them. I have considered stopping being a top altogether and just going back to not doing anal at all. I really don't know what to do. It is a real problem for me.
