transmasc struggling w/ identity + relationship

[lu007]

i’m a transmasc person who has been in a committed relationship for 2+ years. i’ve been on testosterone for gender affirming care for abt 3 years now but ever since i started, my sexuality has definitely shifted.

i’ve been curious to try new things that i wasn’t into before starting T like being into guys and wanting to get fucked by them (like penetrated). however, i’m in a committed relationship where i doubt there’d be any openness towards allowing for any exploration.

has anyone gone thru this or have any advice for how to navigate a convo like this w/ my partner? i’ve felt incredibly bad w/ having talked to guys behind their back but a line i really would not forgive myself for is if i physically did anything.

 

[Smallteaplant]

Actually, this is normal. T is known to shift people’s sexuality. There are numerous articles about this only. I say go with the flow.

I would talk to your partner about what your needs, and expectations. It wouldn’t be fair to keep them in the dark about your shift in sexuality.

 

[BIGBULL29]

Are transmen usually into men or women, or both? I need to be educated on this. Thank you!

It seems that you're lusting after men more now. Am I correct?

Best of luck to you in your situation. I hope you figure things out.

Peace.

 

[lu007]

Actually, this is normal. T is known to shift people’s sexuality. There are numerous articles about this only. I say go with the flow.

I would talk to your partner about what your needs, and expectations. It wouldn’t be fair to keep them in the dark about your shift in sexuality.

How would I even bring that up and reassure her that I still love her? I feel like this is a betrayal in a way

 

[lu007]

Are transmen usually into men or women, or both? I need to be educated on this. Thank you!

It seems that you're lusting after men more now. Am I correct?

Best of luck to you in your situation. I hope you figure things out.

Peace.

Really, I honestly couldn’t say because I’ve seen transmen vary a lot in their preferences.

And yeah, you can say that haha

Hope I can find some peace too, thanks

 

[Smallteaplant]

How would I even bring that up and reassure her that I still love her? I feel like this is a betrayal in a way

I would reassure her that it’s not her.

From my perspective, I think that your sexuality is going to shift a lot as T has been known to do that. It’s only fair to let your partner know. It doesn’t mean you don’t love her. It’s just that your needs have changed.

 

[tongueuntied]

Share your truth BEFORE it becomes a betrayal.
Gauge how much and how fast to share.
Best of luck.