seems like there are a lot of "offensive terms" when it comes to transgendered. to me, the word trans sounds way more feminine than "transgendered"
I definitely understand where to your coming from. the reason why trans, trans, ladyboi, heshe are all offensive is because they are used to market trans women in the adult industry and dehumanize them. What trans people are really fightin for is to not be viewed as a fetish and viewed as people. So using those terms are kinda a step in the wrong direction.
Also any term that is being screamed at someone as an insult or right before they are attacked it is generally really insensitive to use it ( N word for black guys, F word for gay men, D word for lesibians, etc etc etc). People who are attacking or tryng to humiliate trans women dont scream " HEY YOUR TRANSGENDER WOMAN!" They scream " HEY YOU FUCKING trans". Plus the term trans is really used as an insult to other women " Omg Sarah look at that girl, she looks looks like a total trans" is used when a girl or guy is trying to bash a manly looking woman, or a woman with too much makeup on like a drag queen. So the term isnt really a term of endearment.
We try to avoid using these and Preffer out of repect you call us Transgendered woman, Transexual woman, tgirl or trans Women. And what can sound more feminine then being called a woman or girl
Anyways i hope that brought some light to the topic! Keep it real!
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Savannah