What Happens After Menopause To A Woman's Body?

[GetMeAnotherInch]

I had been dating a girl on and off for the past few years across which she went through menopause, without to explore the psych changes, to the body and in particular to the south region, what does it happen?

Question because each and every of the few times we have intimacy she always feel too tight and too much friction, before we used to have great sessions which are now a long time gone memory, what is the excessive friction she talks about due to? I can tell it feels tight but dunno if psych because she tells me or what, would any please explain me about changes if there is any?

Grazie

 

[1277255]

Hormone changes and loss can cause vaginal dryness post menopause.

Here's a good resource for you to learn about a woman's body and how menopause changes it.

Changes in the Vagina and Vulva, Sexual Side Effects of Menopause | The North American Menopause Society, NAMS

 

[GetMeAnotherInch]

Hormone changes and loss can cause vaginal dryness post menopause.

Here's a good resource for you to learn about a woman's body and how menopause changes it.

Changes in the Vagina and Vulva, Sexual Side Effects of Menopause | The North American Menopause Society, NAMS

Ok, that explains it all, grazie mille!!!

 

[Scarletbegonia]

First, I want to express my condolences for a “girl” to have gone through menopause in the very same years menstruation was starting. Sad, sad, sad. I’m assuming she had uterine cancer in her teens.

sarcasm, sure.
So maybe learn and use “women” for a woman of menopausal age.
Thanks.


Serious answer, is she peri menopausal, in menopause, or blessedly post menopausal?
Did she have a natural change, or ovary removal?

The new balance between female and male hormones can thin vaginal tissues, decrease lubrication ability, and both cause pain. This can lead to a woman tensing in anticipation.
And while this could happen throughout a woman’s sexual life, it’s more common in menopause.

You refer to psychological changes, but listed physical.
Look at it from this angle: sex now has a side dish of discomfort to dehabilitating pain, depending on the woman. That’s likely to cause anticipatory reactions.
There is physical therapy for the pelvic floor (including some great you tube providers), lubrication products, diet, bio identical hormone pellets and traditional HRT.

I’m peri to early menopause. (I have a coil that holds periods at bay, and I’ve used one since 2010, so I’m guessing off secondary experiences)
I know lube must be nearby. I approach sex much like I did at the beginning, exploratory, and cautious with great hope and expectations

 

[GetMeAnotherInch]

First, I want to express my condolences for a “girl” to have gone through menopause in the very same years menstruation was starting. Sad, sad, sad. I’m assuming she had uterine cancer in her teens.

sarcasm, sure.
So maybe learn and use “women” for a woman of menopausal age.
Thanks.

I am known to be sarcastic and to have a good sense of humor, dunno if my mum is on the same opinion but since she got her uterus removed when she was barely 50 out of uterine cancer I don't think I can justify your comment as "just" sarcastic.

Sorry if I am not gonna reply, appreciate your feedback but if you gonna add another preface on the same page as the above one to an eventual follow up please feel free to skip and thanks anyways for your time.

Grazie

 

[GetMeAnotherInch]

I have bee together with my date a few days ago and things didn't change much even tho it got better but I can tell there was discomfort and pain and, yeah, I wish pain because of my huge masculine features which is not the case not to say we have been together many times before in the past few years and besides some slight resistance at the beginning it all used to be smooth and pleasurable for both.

After our intimacy I asked her if the pain/friction/discomfort is due to menopause and she denied, I didn't insist as it sure is a very personal argument I won't want to dive into so that's how it is and it somehow saddens me not much for my share of the story but for her own pleasure and body change.

Grazie for your attention

 

[Scarletbegonia]

I am known to be sarcastic and to have a good sense of humor, dunno if my mum is on the same opinion but since she got her uterus removed when she was barely 50 out of uterine cancer I don't think I can justify your comment as "just" sarcastic.

Sorry if I am not gonna reply, appreciate your feedback but if you gonna add another preface on the same page as the above one to an eventual follow up please feel free to skip and thanks anyways for your time.

Grazie

I am sorry your mother had to endure that. I truly hope she is cancer-free today.

You must know we have no way of knowing her history, and an incidental reference is not an attack.
My comment was to do the woman the basic dignity of NOT calling her a child.

 

[GetMeAnotherInch]

I am not gonna start another thread but looking forward to revive this one and get some suggestions, the situation didn't change much, we don't meet often but at the same time we don't have sex every time we meet; I find her being still so very attractive both physically and mentally, she is not on the same page, actually last time we met she told me she want to start loosing weight to fit into a tighter size (she is tall and slim so the weight doesn't really show but she is a woman and I agree her idea of the looks differs from mine) and when we got at is she told me "when I loose weight I can finally wear the beautiful lingerie I got and show it to you" but point being, when we got down to have sex she went to the restroom and told me she washed to get "wet" and nonetheless she was in pain; I know most often she does it to please me and I appreciate it but the idea to cause pain doesn't really fit me, I have some lube here at home but it feels bad to me to have it in the drawer and take it out for the purpose, do you think I would hurt her by suggesting to use it?

 

[1277255]

I am not gonna start another thread but looking forward to revive this one and get some suggestions, the situation didn't change much, we don't meet often but at the same time we don't have sex every time we meet; I find her being still so very attractive both physically and mentally, she is not on the same page, actually last time we met she told me she want to start loosing weight to fit into a tighter size (she is tall and slim so the weight doesn't really show but she is a woman and I agree her idea of the looks differs from mine) and when we got at is she told me "when I loose weight I can finally wear the beautiful lingerie I got and show it to you" but point being, when we got down to have sex she went to the restroom and told me she washed to get "wet" and nonetheless she was in pain; I know most often she does it to please me and I appreciate it but the idea to cause pain doesn't really fit me, I have some lube here at home but it feels bad to me to have it in the drawer and take it out for the purpose, do you think I would hurt her by suggesting to use it?

Water does not get women wet.
It in fact will dry us out.
Water + sex = not great time.

You. Need. Lube.
You need lube.
YOU NEED LUBE.

I can't say if it'll hurt her feelings, I'm not in her head.

However, if she won't use the lube, you need to stop having sex with her. You're putting her in pain every time you try to have sex without it, and that is not ok. If she is only doing this for you, then you're willingly putting her in pain for your own sexual pleasure rather than sitting down and having an adult conversation with her about her pain and using lube to make it more enjoyable.

Use the lube or stop having sex.

 

[GetMeAnotherInch]

@Mittimer I never force anything, it's always her taking initiative (I'd do it every 6 hours but since I won't force it and I know of the initial pain I won't start anything) and I know that after initial phase she then enjoys it to the point she can climax.

My aim is to make it more comfortable and enjoyable with lube but I won't want to hint "you need it" if you know what I mean, got it?

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Heck I lube HIM up because my overworked butt doesn’t drink enough water.
Slick you up.

 

[MickeyLee]

My Aunt's vagina took a pottery class after menopause.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

My Aunt's vagina took a pottery class after menopause.

This is one of the few ways water makes women wet.