Title. This is a question for bottoms. Let’s say a hot guy messages you, you find him very attractive but his dick is small/average. What goes through your mind? Are you in that moment more likely to have sex with another guy that night who has a larger penis rather than the one you find more attractive? I feel like so many times on Grindr a bottom seems to be interested in me then when he sees I have an average penis he doesn’t reply/loses interest. Do most bottoms actively seek out hung tops, or is this just a stereotype? Would like some insight on this.
Being a site for people who like big cock, I would say your survey will be skewed significantly more in one direction.
As a bottom who likes big dick, and a previous user of Grindr, generally I would line up a few options leading up to when you want sex then you lock in the one that's the best.
It's what I call the 4 Cs. Character, Compatibility, Closeness and Cock size.
Character is their personality, if they seem normal, friendly, clean etc.
Compatibility is their sexual preferences, eg they want to top, they have similar kinks etc
Closeness is obvious.
Cock size is the ace in the hand. The bigger the cock the more it overrides any weaknesses in the other 3 Cs.
So to answer your question, yes, cock size does influence whether you get chosen over the next person and it does make someone more likely to be picked if all other factors are similar.
Yes, it can seem harsh but it cuts both ways too. It's actually harder as a bottom because it seems there are significantly more bottoms than tops. And statistically the number of hung tops is relatively small. 90% of men are less than 6.13 inches.
As a bottom who likes big dick, and a previous user of Grindr, generally I would line up a few options leading up to when you want sex then you lock in the one that's the best.
It's what I call the 4 Cs. Character, Compatibility, Closeness and Cock size.
Character is their personality, if they seem normal, friendly, clean etc.
Compatibility is their sexual preferences, eg they want to top, they have similar kinks etc
Closeness is obvious.
Cock size is the ace in the hand. The bigger the cock the more it overrides any weaknesses in the other 3 Cs.
So to answer your question, yes, cock size does influence whether you get chosen over the next person and it does make someone more likely to be picked if all other factors are similar.
Yes, it can seem harsh but it cuts both ways too. It's actually harder as a bottom because it seems there are significantly more bottoms than tops. And statistically the number of hung tops is relatively small. 90% of men are less than 6.13 inches.
Thank you for the input! What is “closeness” though? Like if they’re attractive?
Proximity. I guess I should call the third C convenience! lol
Unashamed dyed-in-the-wool size fan here, always on the hunt for the next bigger thing. When cruising hookup sites, I don't care if he's Nas or Chris Evans, there's zero interest in sex unless he's going to be a challenge to my throat and/or bottom.
As my only interest in sex with guys is to play out my size fetish, I'd rather spend a night flying solo, or one simply enjoying platonic thrills, than bed down with an average or smaller endowed partner.
As my only interest in sex with guys is to play out my size fetish, I'd rather spend a night flying solo, or one simply enjoying platonic thrills, than bed down with an average or smaller endowed partner.
I think the technical term here is SIZE QUEEN. SOMETIMES otherwise known as an Asshole. To use the aforementioned 4C scale, when I think about the men i have known, a guy who is nothing but a big Cock is just a dick... you can't separate the rest of the man attached to the Cock .. but if that's all you care about then go get a fucking dildo ... High Character and Compatibility top Cock size any day... as for closeness, my man is 2 hours away, more or less typical Cock size but we make it work because he has such great Character and we are so amazingly Compatible. What makes his Cock so desirable to me is that for a guy our age (a spurt over 60), he gets hard in a blink and stays hard long enough for some great love. Even when he's not ready for round 2, his desire is still there. He never stops loving... the world is not just all about him.
I have another friend with a ridiculously thick cock. It's a struggle to get him in. He feels like no other once in opened up enough and he clicks in. What makes him hot is who is is. And that he's very vers. He is willing to take what he dishes out. As it should be.
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nothing quite as scientific as all that. All sorts of things trigger my decision on who to hook up with. Cock size is only important in the extreme - If you are very small or super big - its probably gonna be a no from me, don't like tiny and can't handle huge - even find blowing a huge dick too much effort.
Then everything else has to kinda balance out - I probably put more stock in bodies/ great arse than face - How well they communicate is important but have also had completely wordless anon hook ups that are crazy hot so - obviously don't always care .
Shape of your dick is more important over all than size - I have my preferences. Dont care about cut vs uncut as long as if you are uncut your skin goes all the way back and for both - you keep that super clean and fresh.. do not enjoy stale groin smell.
To summarise - its never all about the cock anymore than its all about the body or face personality or proximity - its how the whole thing comes together for that person and what I'm looking for at that time
I love older men, big cocks, and dad bods - overweight/fat body types. I hope for 2 of those attributes. I've only had one guy who fit all 3 attributes and really hope to see him again soon. Part of me is really competitive with myself. Even with the silliest things, like treating my hole as a muscle to be stretched, worked, and abused and large cocks as challenges to surmount and conquer.
That said, I've bottomed for men who are not hung. Men who struggled staying inside of my hole. Men who maybe weren't the most confident with their bodies. I would bottom again for them and keep the light on for others like them. Aside psychical characteristics, I've always enjoyed the top's company and sex, even if mediocre, is still fun.
That said, I've bottomed for men who are not hung. Men who struggled staying inside of my hole. Men who maybe weren't the most confident with their bodies. I would bottom again for them and keep the light on for others like them. Aside psychical characteristics, I've always enjoyed the top's company and sex, even if mediocre, is still fun.
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Its Not so much between the legs as between the ears. As a top or bottom or somewhere in between. No connection, no play. I have a big dick, but I am NOT a big dick.
To put it another way, it’s not the size of the television… it’s what’s on.
To put it another way, it’s not the size of the television… it’s what’s on.
As I grow older, the size of the cock is not as important as the top's ability to keep it hard and, once it is inside, how his technique affects my prostate stimulation. It doesn't have to be huge, but efficient. Start off slowly and get deep, then increase the hip action until the real thrusting begins. If I am screaming in pleasure, I couldn't care less about the size of the tool that is causing the ecstasy, just that it is driving me crazy.
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Seems a bit like 90% of the time I've been with the 90% of average guys and enjoyed taking every one
What confuses me is seeing a lot of porn where guys put these absolutely ginormous dildos in their ass. No human penis could reach the size. I wonder, after doing this many times is anal sex even pleasing? It’s like having candy every single day eventually you will no longer be so excited for candy.
This really big guy fucked me. It was more enjoyable than a smaller guy once which surprised me. We didn’t even use lube (only poppers.) He must have been really really good at sex to make that happen. So I wonder, if penis size is totally irrelevant for people who do not regularly use dildos.
Of course, it does, it feels very different when you’re fucked by a small penis and a big one. But in this case, the width of the penis is still very much decided, as it feels like a whole train is entering your anal. I visit dating sites all the time, and I’m constantly having sex with old people who take the imprint to improve their potency and these guys become animals 
I started out sucking cocks at gloryholes so size as always been a factor for me. In a relationship size isn’t as important. I’m versatile , so when I’m serviced I prefer a masculine cock sucker.
I still love gloryholes and for me nothing is more exciting than a big fat cock hanging in the hole. It’s like a separate thing with no emotions or drama. Just something to worship .
I still love gloryholes and for me nothing is more exciting than a big fat cock hanging in the hole. It’s like a separate thing with no emotions or drama. Just something to worship .
I'm just happy that someone finds me fuckable
^ This
Not much of a bottom, tbh, so maybe not that helpful, but if it turns out a dude I'm into is average/smaller, it's a pleasant surprise. Big dicks are great, but I just don't have the square footage...
A smaller dick is exciting, because I know I can take that shit to the hilt, and he can go rough and hard without killing me. A win-win for everyone.
